It’s about family tradition

1. A daughter-in-law should respect her parents-in-law as her own parents. The ancients said: Everyone in life has double parents. So both parents should be treated equally.

2. If you can’t do it, don’t say it. There is no dignity if your words don’t count.

3. Don’t interfere in your children’s affairs, let your children take charge of the family, and don’t pretend to be senior.

4. If your children are disobedient and unfilial, you must first ask yourself whether you are also unfilial to the elderly and whether you have done something wrong. The superiors do not recognize the merits of the parents (the elderly), and the inferiors (the children) do not receive adequate education.

5. Zhijie couples are grateful to each other and never blame others. The couple in the mind realm are happy. The husband leads his wife to enlightenment, and the wife helps her husband to become virtuous. They will never be angry. The couple in the heart world are a ceremonial couple, so they will have jurisdiction over each other! A couple in the body realm is a couple who beats and scolds them, causing trouble throughout their lives.

6. Be content and happy, and take care of your destiny at home. Promote family traditions, praise ancestors' virtues, and educate children and grandchildren to know how to appreciate, be grateful, and repay kindness.

7. To correct others, you must first correct yourself. Parents must first transform their nature into nature and cultivate their nature. Know how to discipline yourself first before you can educate your children. Regardless of whether your children are filial or not, ask yourself whether you are kind or not.

8. The entire family is built on love. A family cannot be established without love. Love is the first condition for starting a family.

9. The husband has the courage to take on the responsibilities of the family and persuade others with reason. If the family makes mistakes, he will feel guilty.

10. The husband should take care of his father-in-law and his mother-in-law, and the wife should be filial to her father-in-law and mother-in-law. For example, when buying things for the elderly, the son-in-law should give it to his father-in-law and mother-in-law in person, and the daughter-in-law should give it to her father-in-law and mother-in-law in person.

11. If you are destined to love someone, you must first understand the other person’s nature. Fulfill each other and complete your duties. Enlighten the other party to play their part. Regardless of restricting the other party's freedom, you should give the other party happiness and not cause trouble to the other party. Complement each other and understand each other's physiology and psychology.

12. If you are selfish, you will secretly do things that go against your conscience and make the whole family troubled. This is not a good man.

13. Only with the Tao can one have virtue; without Tao, there can be no virtue; only with virtue can there be happiness; without virtue, there can be no happiness.

14. Whether a family is prosperous and whether its descendants are prosperous is directly related to whether the elders in the hall have good roots and merit. If the old man is virtuous, his descendants will be prosperous; if the old man is virtuous, the family will suffer disaster, the family fortune will be depressed, and the incense will fade.

15. The lucky star of a family is rooted in ambition. That is, taking the happiness of the whole family as one's own responsibility and benefiting the whole family.

16. Whether a family is happy, quiet, and prosperous, the role of the wife is very important. If a woman can be a wife who is as good as water, she will definitely give birth to a son, help her husband become a virtuous person, and have a happy family.

17. Xing (nature) is in harmony, the heart is in harmony, and the body is in harmony. This is the true harmony between husband and wife.

18. Whether a child is healthy has a lot to do with the mother, and whether the child has wisdom has a lot to do with the father. Whether the child has good fortune or not depends on whether the parents often act with joy and love.

19. Children belong to themselves, society, and heaven and earth. If children are not taught well, it will affect their own family if they are small, and it will affect society if they are large, and they will also be a debt of gratitude from heaven and earth. Educating children well is a heavy responsibility.

20. Promote the merits of the elderly and ancestors to their children, set an example of filial piety by respecting the elderly, and enlighten future generations by being grateful for the kindness of their ancestors.

21. The meaning of a daughter-in-law is to calm down the discord in the family, to be the auspicious messenger of a harmonious family, to treat everyone equally and harmoniously, and to bring blessings to the whole family.

22. A daughter-in-law’s nature should be like water. Her nature is like water, she should be content and always happy. She means to be the root, to support the whole family, and to be harmonious and cheerful. As the happy star of the family, she is filial to her parents, harmonious to her sisters-in-law, and kind to her children, who can help her husband become a virtuous person. So that the husband has no internal worries, can contribute to the society, establish himself in the right way, and become famous and show his family. Not only in running a family, but also in social work, one can abide by one's duties and make contributions. Only then can you have a long-lasting family fortune and long-term happiness.

23. As a husband, you must base your position on the "three cardinal principles". The three cardinal principles refer to the sex cardinal guide, the heart cardinal cardinal guide, and the physical cardinal cardinal cardinal cardinal guide; keeping one's temperament (not losing temper) is the sex guideline; and not having selfish desires. The heart is the guideline; the absence of bad habits is the body guideline. Being angry is a violation of one's nature; swearing is a violation of one's heart; hitting someone is a violation of one's body. "Gang" means to lead, and a woman must be led on the road to be filial to her parents-in-law, to be harmonious to her sisters-in-law, and to be kind to her children.

24. As a wife, you must first adhere to the "three obediences" in order to help your husband become virtuous.

"Three Obediences" means that one's nature should follow the laws of heaven, one's heart should follow the principles, and one's body should follow the principles of emotions. What does it mean to “follow one’s own principles”? What needs to be done, do it yourself. It is your duty to be filial to your parents-in-law, to be at peace with your sisters-in-law, and to teach your children at the bottom. Don't be afraid of hardship, don't be afraid of difficulties. Don’t get angry, complain, or regret after doing it. "The heart follows the truth": It means getting rid of the selfishness that interferes with greed and interference. All I can think about is how to repay the old man's kindness? How to live in harmony with your sisters-in-law and how to teach your children? Keep the good of the whole family in mind, and everything you do will naturally be in line with the law. "Nature follows the laws of nature": Focusing on the immovable nature, we must also eliminate the innate nature and perfect the nature, so that we can be virtuous and carry everything.

25. As the saying goes, everything thrives when the family is in harmony. The prosperity of the country, the harmony of the society, the happiness of personal life, the prosperity of the career, and the health of the body all depend on the foundation of a harmonious family.

26. Always mention the strengths of your daughter-in-law when speaking, and be grateful to her mother-in-law for her education. If the daughter-in-law makes a mistake, the mother-in-law will quickly come over and be tolerant first, and then teach her behind her back. She must not quarrel with her, and the daughter-in-law will naturally be grateful and repay her kindness.

27. True love has no preconceptions: sincerely believe in someone, don’t doubt the other person.

28. Respect the elderly when you are above, and love the young when you are below. Use gratitude to improve everything and make the family harmonious.

29. A weak man is also called a coward because he cannot support his family. Being submissive, saying things but not doing them, not daring to take responsibility, pushing women to the front, and only listening to women's orders.

30. If they are not in harmony, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not get along, causing disagreements in housework and living separately, causing the family to fall apart and the family to be unhappy.

31. Like water, it follows a circle and becomes a square. It combines five colors and five flavors, and its original essence remains unchanged. It is a woman's duty to be at peace with the situation, to be poor or to be rich, to be high or low, just like water that can nourish all things, but not to compete with all things. When you are in the lowest place, if you are low, you will be low, and you will always admit that you are not good enough.

32. If a man does his job well, there will be fewer disasters in the family; if a man does not do his job well, there will be many disasters in the family.

33. The mother-in-law comes early and understands everything; the daughter-in-law comes late and doesn’t understand everything. The mother-in-law should lead her daughter-in-law to the road, treat her as a daughter, tell her what she doesn't know, guide her, and don't make things difficult for her.

34. Mother-in-law has been a daughter-in-law for many years. When she marries a daughter-in-law, she becomes a mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law is a girl at home, and as soon as she leaves the palace and goes to her mother-in-law's house, she becomes a daughter-in-law.

35. I should love the things my mother-in-law loves; I should respect the people I love. You will definitely make your mother-in-law happy. If you can understand the old man's heart and obey the old man's wishes, you have attained the Tao.

36. Women have three wives: strong women, weak women, and daughter-in-law.

37. A woman should be gentle, have a peaceful smile, and be popular with the family.

38. Women are the mother of the country, the wife of the family, and the wife of people.

39. A woman who does nothing and relies entirely on her husband and parents is called a weak woman.

40. Women who are lazy and blaming are the spoils of the family. Neither a strong woman nor a weak woman is a daughter-in-law.

41. Women are fierce, control men, bully men mentally, speak like thunder, are very strong, cover the sky with one hand, and are called shrews. In such a family, if the yin is strong and the yang is weak, the husband will become prematurely old or even die young, and the children born will be useless.

42. If a woman is busy, a man will be silent; if a woman is not gentle, the family will not be prosperous.

43. If you can do these, your family and everything will be prosperous.

44. A man must mean what he says, one means one, two means two, and he must do what he says.

45. Men have their duties as men, and women have their duties as women. Yin and Yang each have their place. Men are based on uprightness; women are based on gentleness. "Gang" means immobility (not losing your temper), and "zheng" means being in line with the right principles. "Softness" should be like water, and "harmony" should be reasonable. Therefore, uprightness means gentleness, and softness means uprightness. Although the terms are different, the spirit is the same.

46. Men belong to Yang, and Yang means selflessness. To be selfless is to express love for a family.

47. Men should be “rigid”. It’s not just that you beat and curse people, the man who beats and curses you is an incompetent man.

48. A man is the backbone of the family. He must be sensible, ambitious, and take care of his wife regardless of his wife.

49. Men are divided into three kinds of husbands: weak husband, violent husband and husband.

50. Equality between men and women means equal rights and equal enjoyment. There is absolutely no equality in duties and etiquette.

51. Every family should imagine that their daughter is marrying into the family, and the mother-in-law should love her daughter-in-law as much as she loves her own daughter. If this is not possible, the daughter-in-law will treat her future daughters-in-law in the same way, creating a vicious cycle.

52. It is the best Feng Shui and the highest Feng Shui for the elderly to be virtuous.

53. The elderly should promote the family tradition, the parents should model the family tradition, the husband and wife should control the family tradition, the children should inherit the family tradition, the grandchildren should obey the family tradition, and the brothers and sisters should compete with each other in family tradition.

54. The old man is as gray as ashes, gentle and non-irritated. He talks less, does not nag, and does not talk about family members. Taking the lead, we must see each other’s interests and take care of the whole family.

55. The old man supports the family's blessings and creates the family's merit. Merit is getting stronger from generation to generation, and blessings are getting more prosperous and prosperous from generation to generation. If your descendants are stronger than you, it means you are virtuous, otherwise you are devoid of virtue.

56. The old man is the virtuous star of the family, with virtue as his root. "Virtue" means taking responsibility for one's faults and maintaining peace among one's family.

57. How can the elderly make the family prosperous? That is to do more good deeds and accumulate negative virtues. On the one hand, you can cultivate virtue and avoid sins; on the other hand, you can cultivate virtue for your descendants and take root in them.

58. The old man is like the earth, silently carrying everything, tolerating everything, and cultivating everything. If an old man has a broad mind, his family will be blessed with great blessings.

59. If the elderly love people and things, the descendants of the family will prosper. If the old man is greedy, he will eat up all the blessings of the family.

60. Love without pretense (price): Do not elevate your status, and do not treat love as a business. Understand the other person's good points and praise the other person's good points; understand the other person's difficulties and forgive the other person's mistakes. If the other party has made a mistake, you can enlighten and guide the other party to correct it.

61. Five steps to educate children: raise, educate, teach, lead, lead, but don’t control. The key point is to cultivate virtue and educate morals well.

62. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family are all from other surnames. When they come to the same home, they are like mother and daughter.

63. Different family roles have different values. If a man has no ambition, his family will not be prosperous. Women are not gentle and drive away wealth. A woman's temperament should be as gentle as water, so that her husband and herself will be prosperous, and money and luck will naturally follow. If a woman's temperament is tough, fierce, overwhelming, stubborn, extreme, revengeful and resentful, gnashing her teeth and glaring in anger, the result will only be hurt. People waste themselves, neglect their husbands and despise themselves, all their blessings are lost, and their appearance is withered.

64. If there are problems at home, the first thing to do is that the old man’s behavior is flawed. The first is failure to abide by one's duty, and the second is excessiveness.

65. When there are problems at home, the elderly should feel ashamed: I am the elderly who did not do well, had some bad qualities, and failed to educate my family well.

66. No matter who is at fault in the family, no matter what disasters and disputes occur, the family scandal will not be publicized.

67. If your family is harmonious and everything is prosperous, if you want your husband to be noble and your children to be virtuous, you must teach them to respect your parents-in-law, and your life will be prosperous. Otherwise, the dew among the flowers and the frost on the grass will not last long.

68. There is no need to control the children, it all depends on the influence of virtue. Understand his personality, help him cut small branches and leave big branches. Don't spoil, don't spoil, don't hit, don't scold. Encourage more, affirm often, criticize less, and use no material temptations.

69. If a child does not understand, it means the fruit is sour. If the fruit is sour, work must be done on the roots of the tree.

70. Parents-in-law are like the roots of a family tree. If you want to have luxuriant branches and leaves, fragrant flowers and sweet fruits, you must treat the roots well, fertilize, water and loosen the soil.

71. Parents are the beginning of human relations, the way of yin and yang, yin is the mother and yang is the father. Only when yin and yang are in harmony can all things grow. If yin and yang are not in harmony, mental pain will occur, and if emotions are not in harmony, the children born will definitely be of bad nature, or there will be a lack of children.

72. Parents are their children’s first teachers, and family is their children’s first school.

73. Being full of merit, gentle and profound is called sex as gray.

74. Husbands and wives should make up for each other’s mistakes instead of blaming each other.

75. Husband and wife are the auspicious stars of a family, rooted in love.

76. When husband and wife have conflicts, one is to violate the grace bestowed by heaven and earth; the other is to violate the love bestowed by parents; the third is to violate one’s destiny of many lives and many tribulations. If one violates the destiny of life, life will lose its reliance on positive rewards. The division between husband and wife is the division of life.

77. There are three reasons for the union of husband and wife: first, to take care of and care for each other in life; second, to have children, carry on the family line, and leave a good human root for the world; Third, it is to better care for and take care of both parents, so that the elderly can feel relieved and happy.

78. The way of husband and wife, that is, the way of yin and yang, if the husband and wife are in harmony, the yin and yang qi are in harmony, and they cannot restrain each other, not only will they not get sick, but they will not die prematurely. The family can be harmonious and the descendants prosperous. Therefore, men must understand women's ways, and women must understand men's ways, so that the family can be happy.

79. Tao lies in the combination of kindness and righteousness. www.jintang114.org If you get along with Tao, you can serve for life.

80. Morality is the law of heaven and earth, and duty is the law of individuals. If we violate the laws, people will suffer disaster.

81. If you are a daughter-in-law, you should understand: parents-in-law are a real blessing to the family. Not caring about the elderly, resenting the elderly, and refusing to be filial to the elderly means that you do not want blessings and will have no blessings.

82. As a daughter-in-law, if you love your husband, you must love your parents-in-law. I understand that without my parents-in-law, I would not have my dear husband. I sympathize with my mother-in-law's previous hard work and hard work to raise her son. You can no longer burden your mother-in-law, tell her to do things, or make you resentful of your mother-in-law's words and deeds.

83. After getting married, if a man cannot lead a woman to the right way, be filial to his parents-in-law, be close to his brothers and sisters, and be kind to his children, then even if he is very filial, the elderly will not be at ease. If a woman cannot help her husband become a virtuous person after marriage, she will be filial to her parents-in-law, and the old man will not feel at ease.

84. Don’t create right and wrong, don’t say right and wrong, don’t preach right and wrong, don’t listen to right and wrong, take responsibility for right and wrong, and don’t be afraid of right and wrong. Harmonize the family and avoid any disputes, otherwise the old man will be missing.

85. Don’t resent your children, let alone beat or scold them, because the success or failure of your children is also related to the parents’ own moral character. Secondly, you must consider whether your own education methods are inappropriate.

86. Don’t meddle in other people’s business, and don’t worry too much about your children and grandchildren. “Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings.”

87. Don’t be violent, impatient, wordy, and don’t meddle in men’s affairs. You should help your husband without tiring him out.

88. If you are unfilial to your parents-in-law and sow the seeds, when your children grow up, they will definitely receive the consequences of their unfilial parents.

89. Don’t arrange things for the elderly. Let them do whatever they like. However, you should pay more attention to the elderly and always advise them to rest more.

90. Fraternity is unconditional: it doesn’t care about the person and doesn’t bind the other person. Give the other person freedom.

91. Originally, a daughter-in-law was not born to her mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law does not understand the truth, she will show her shortcomings before showing kindness to her, or use the big one to suppress the small ones, use her temper to control her, and her words will only breed evil causes. How can a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a good relationship?

92. If the husband forgets to do something that is originally the husband’s business, the wife should not complain, but should do the job conscientiously; conversely, the husband should do the same. Make up for what the other party cannot do. This is to make up for each other's mistakes.

93. A violent man beats or scolds him and is unreasonable. They don't understand where their responsibilities lie, so they dare to act recklessly.

94. Love is the origin and general outline of harmony. It is impossible to build a harmonious family without love.

95. The standard of love: true love is selfless, conscious love has no pretensions (price), fraternity is unconditional, and true love has no prejudice. True love is selfless: respect each other and do not cause trouble to each other.

96. "Control" means that parents let their children have their own way, find faults in their children, and go against their temperament. Therefore, the more they control, the worse they become. Because using temper to control children not only fails to control them well, but also arouses their children's tempers, conflicts, and even father and son become enemies. This is all because parents do not understand the truth.

97. "Gang" means not only not hitting or scolding others, but also not answering, retorting or getting upset when being scolded. If you don't move, you will not lose your temper when being scolded (not losing your temper). Just. Take advantage of prosperity and adversity, be at ease and at ease, and be a man if you do it.