In life, we should pay attention to our words, because good words will make life happy and generate self-confidence. Bad words do great harm to people. Knife will repair the skin and flesh, but if it hurts, it will make people suffer for life.
As long as it is beneficial to others, we must say good things. As long as we are really good to others, we can give them benefits. If it's not good for others, don't say it, and read the Buddha well.
Why is it important to say what a person says? In retrospect, I understand that in many dynasties, a country was destroyed because of many slanders. Even for the dissolution of the whole social group, so the scourge of one sentence is such a great disaster. The dispute between the monarch and the minister, but after listening to some slanderous remarks, many loyal ministers may lose their heads. What serious consequences, how can this not be called the decline of the country?
Even in our family, as elders, there may be serious obstacles in family relations. For friends, after listening to outside rumors, they may also be alienated. After listening to the rumors outside, couples will also quarrel and divorce.
Therefore, no matter who you are, you should be careful when you speak, and keep a clear judgment before you speak, because what you say because of your ignorance will hurt people.
As for the written advice, there is a well-written poem for you. I hope you can understand the true meaning. This poem is called: "Don't listen to slanders, just listen to disasters. If you are seven feet tall, you won't listen to a three-inch tongue with Longquan on it, and you won't see blood if you kill it. " This poem also tells us that the harm that words can bring is immeasurable.
But you can call a spade a spade when dealing with business. However, in everyone's private life, those rumors flying all over the sky will make a person lose his mind, so we should control ourselves against these harmful rumors. As the saying goes, "rumors stop with wise men", and we should remain puzzled by rumors.
A person, when you have virtue, in the group, he knows to influence others with his virtue, and he just wants to make the people in his team harmonious. Because of this virtue, there will be no slander, nor will it affect the decline of the whole team. There is an old saying: "people who are right and wrong are right and wrong."
Therefore, we should deeply understand the teachings of our ancestors and sages, and be able to understand that profound philosophy of life in order to benefit for life.