We often say that no one can be a man. Generally speaking, this person is unreasonable, ignorant of the world and narrow-minded. His words and deeds do not meet the requirements of the public.

See if you behave yourself. "Good things don't go out, bad things travel thousands of miles", it is difficult to be a good person, but it is much easier to be a bad person. However, smart people insist on being good, no matter how difficult it is.

1. I hope others praise you, otherwise I will be very unhappy. A few days ago, the unit organized some employees to do public welfare activities and went to a small town to clean up river garbage. Colleague Xiao Wei worked hard and cleaned a long section of the river by himself. After the activity, the boss praised several people by name, but didn't praise Xiao Wei. Xiao Wei said privately, "I really met a blind boss, and I can't see the credit there." In a word, it exposed Xiao Wei's gray mood.

Many times, you always think that you have made great contributions, but you have not been recognized by others, so it is very bitter. When others send friends, you will praise others every day, but if no one likes your circle of friends, you will be very unhappy and feel that others are unfair to you and don't know how to repay you.

Expecting others to praise themselves is actually a sign of not being a man. Is to impose your words and deeds on others and make them care about themselves. People who can be human are often good at being themselves, and it doesn't matter whether others care. The grades are your own, and you really don't need others' approval.

I like to show off and feel superior. Yi Shu said: "To be a man, we should talk about life and luck. Never look down on people. " You can't judge a book by its cover. If you underestimate others, there is something wrong with your own vision. A wise man treats others equally, and does not underestimate others or himself.

Many people like to show off. The purpose of showing off is not only to make yourself stand out, but also to belittle others. My classmate Zhao Mei posted her work photo in class yesterday and said, "I'm really tired now, working for 20 thousand yuan a month." After a while, classmate Zhang Wang replied: "I am very tired now with a monthly income of 1000 yuan." Zhao Mei went on to say, "How dare you say it? I don't want to think about my situation. " Zhao Mei's words, let all the people in the group, all fell silent, everyone felt inferior to Zhao Mei, say what, all ashamed. Of course, this effect is also what Zhao Mei likes.

Is it a man's performance to show off himself and belittle others at the same time? No matter how well others get along with you, you should be modest and show yourself more noble. Smart people get rich silently and never show off their wealth.

I always thought I was an upright person. Do you think you are a positive person? You always feel that others have done something wrong here and there. When I saw someone else posting an article, I commented: "You poisoned chicken soup again, which did a lot of harm." You can't even read the content clearly, so you think others are creating chaos and talking nonsense.

If you do something good, go around and say it, hoping others will recognize you. You want others to adopt all your comments, otherwise others will be "ungrateful". But you are right. Is your own subjective consciousness too strong? Everyone's experience is different. How can you be sure that others haven't tried?

Honest people prove themselves by actions, not by words. "No one is perfect", in fact, you are not an upright person, because you sometimes make mistakes, but you only see the advantages, ignore the disadvantages and take yourself too seriously.

4. I don't like other people's good, and I hope to step on others. Many people have the idea of "hating the rich and hating the officials". When they see rich people, they think that others are opportunistic and have done illegal things. Seeing that others have status, they think that others are good friends, lucky and have no skills at all. Seeing others win the lottery, they will also complain a few words and scold others for "good luck".

You hope everyone around you is worse off than you, otherwise you will "hold a grudge" You live with hatred, you don't like anyone, and you won't be a man. This kind of mentality, who you talk to, is strange. If you find fault with others, you will have fewer and fewer friends and alienate you at work.

5. Very stingy, greedy and cheap. As the saying goes: "Greedy for small and cheap, eat big losses." However, some people are greedy for petty gains and are afraid that some cheap things will fall on others' heads and some benefits will be taken away by others. For example, when the supermarket is going to close down and have a big sale, you buy a lot of things to go home, both needed and unnecessary, but after a while, many things you buy are idle at home, and you still suffer.

Because I like to be greedy and cheap, I have more opportunities to argue with others. For example, two garbage collectors found a plastic bottle at the same time and rushed to pick it up. As a result, they didn't give in and had a fight. In the end, everyone spent hundreds of dollars on medical expenses, which was really not worth the loss.

Greedy for petty gain is actually suffering from pinkeye. When interacting with others, they will never be human and always give others a bad impression. When they had an argument, both sides were very unhappy.

6. You don't keep your word, and neither do you. A man who breaks his word is also a sign of a man. For example, your neighbor asked you for help and went to the supermarket to buy some side dishes, but the neighbor didn't give you money. You are worried about your neighbors' default, so you don't buy side dishes, which leads to the loss of trust and communication between neighbors.

If you don't keep your word for small things, others may forgive you, but if you don't keep your word for big things, others will look down on you. Because breaking promises often brings losses to others, it also shows that a person's moral quality is very low.

Suhom Lischi said: "Five years of cold window can certainly train engineers, but it takes a lifetime to learn to be a man." Being a man is not a matter of one or two days, but a habit accumulated over time, which is a comprehensive performance.

Open your eyes to see the world and close your eyes to think about life. There is nothing wrong with insisting on being yourself, but it is wrong for you to hinder others from being human.

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