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A few years ago, I was in Boston, USA. That day, there was a red Sox baseball game. At that time, the Red Sox were in full swing and it was hard to get a ticket. I happened to see a friend's message on WeChat that I couldn't go to the Red Sox game because of something, so I resold two tickets. I am very excited to find him and want to buy it.
Those are two tickets for 330 dollars. At first, I thought that since it was hard to get a ticket, I could always pay $350. However, this friend insists that $400 is not cost-effective. We bargained like this, and in the end, because he wouldn't give in, no one watched the game.
A few days later, I met my friend again. He said shyly that there were several axes at that time. He felt that it was not easy to grab tickets, and he was sad that he could not watch the most important game of his favorite team. Coupled with some emotions, he decided that 400 yuan was a reasonable price. Irrational, finally lost $700, and two tickets were invalid. When he said this, he scratched his head a little regretfully and said, I don't know what happened at that time.
In fact, the same thing often happens. We always like to exaggerate the value of our things. In fact, what people don't know is that a lot of things can be put down to see a bigger world.
For example, countless students asked me: What should I do if I choose a major I don't like? What if I find a job that doesn't make money?
This is a famous experiment in psychology: if you have a glass of water in your hand, what will you do next?
You may think it's drinking and throwing it out to water the flowers, but it's not. Smart people will certainly continue to do what they want to do, which has nothing to do with this glass of water, and too many of us overestimate the value of this glass of water and miss the more important things we like and want to do next. Finally, the loss is more.
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We often enlarge what we have and give up the infinite possibilities we can't see. We care too much about the stock and forget the increment.
A few years ago, I started to be an English teacher. I was lecturing every day in those days, and the days passed round and round, regular and meaningless. At that time, I met a film director. When I was drinking with him, he saw that my story was very structured and asked me if I wanted to be a director or a screenwriter to write a story. I readily agreed. However, after some setbacks, I suddenly turned around and began to think, why bother? Life is good now.
At that time, I kept hinting at myself: Why do you want to change tracks? If only there were classes every day, you could make a lot of money in one class.
Then, I continued to attend classes every day, cycling in the comfort zone, completely unaware that I was pushing myself into a dead end.
Looking back now, I'm quite scared. Because when a person cares too much about what he has, it is easy to give up the opportunity to explore the bigger world. The world is changing all the time. If you don't follow it, you are doomed to be eliminated by the times.
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A friend of mine used to be a famous teacher in English training circle. He has been good at teaching cloze for more than ten years. Because he speaks very well, the students all like him. For more than ten years, many people hoped that he would take one more class, just in case, but he just kept going to work and lived a down-to-earth life every day.
I'm going to jump ship and have a child. I hope this will continue. Cloze test was cancelled in CET-4 and CET-6 in 20 12, and he lost his job. At that time, he was over forty years old.
When he was forced to return to the job market, he found himself just a frog in the well, and the skills he knew were almost useless in other fields. He finally began to be anxious, and this anxiety was further amplified when he found that his knowledge was not as good as that of his peers and his energy was not as good as that of his younger generation.
There are many such people in life, because they care too much about what they have, and they have been living on their credit books instead of pursuing more possibilities. When the situation changes, they find that what they have is actually less and less. In the workplace, this cycle is fatal.
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So how do you break this infinite loop?
I once read such a sentence in a book: In this changing era, we should all learn and get used to being a rookie.
Indeed, to enter a new field, we should learn to put down our posture, forget the aura, fame and prestige of the past, listen to others quietly, open the relevant books calmly, lower our heads, and start from scratch step by step.
Zero mentality can make us transform rapidly in this era, and can make us develop faster after entering a new field.
Learn to be a rookie, not a rookie all your life, but a phoenix one day. In fact, it is easy for a rookie to become a phoenix, you just need to keep working hard; It is the hardest thing to be a rookie again and learn from others with an open mind.
However, if you want to be more different from yourself, you must always keep the rookie mentality of this era and be prepared to learn, progress and change tracks at any time.
We will finally understand that there is no phoenix in this world. The real phoenix only exists in people's hearts. Those who always think they are novices have already become the phoenix in others' minds.