Confucius said, "Be open-minded, a petty man is anxious and worried.." . A gentleman is selfless, open-minded, aboveboard and upright. They are kind to others and selfless, which makes people respect. With such people, they are happy and carefree. Under their influence, they can also strengthen their own righteousness and increase our virtue. Don't miss it!
Second, people who strive for self-improvement and strive for the upper reaches.
The Book of Changes says, "A gentleman strives for self-improvement." To be a man, we should follow the example of heaven and never slacken off, just as heaven and earth run. God always leaves opportunities to those who are prepared. Only those who strive for self-improvement and hard work can seize the opportunity and succeed.
With lazy people, diligent people will slowly become lazy; With diligent people, lazy people will gradually become diligent, because you are embarrassed to be lazy when you see others so diligent. Therefore, when you meet such self-improvement friends, you must make deep friends.
Third, people who are in awe and cautious.
Confucius said, "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of adults and fear of the words of saints. I don't know my fate, but I'm not afraid of it. I am insulting adults and saints. " A gentleman, because of awe, does something and does everything; The reason why villains dare to run amok is because they have nothing to fear. The ancients often said: "Hold your head three feet high, there is a god." Only when people have awe will they be cautious, afraid to speak openly, dare not do evil, and dare not think evil thoughts. Making friends with such people and feeling at ease is very beneficial to improve our moral cultivation.
Fourth, generous and reasonable people.
"Zuo Zhuan" said: "People are not sages, to err is human; It would be great if it could be changed. " Everyone has shortcomings and advantages. If you always stare at other people's shortcomings, there is no one in this world to associate with. The most important thing in interpersonal communication is sincerity, seeking common ground while reserving differences, appreciating each other's advantages, accepting each other's shortcomings, understanding each other and tolerating each other, so that everyone can live in harmony and make progress together. Being generous and reasonable is the virtue of being a man, and you will have a good mood when you get along with such people.
5. virtuous and unyielding people.
Mencius said: "Richness and wealth can't be lewd, poverty and lowliness can't be moved, and powerful people can't be bent." This is called a gentleman. " A person is upright in thought, can practice loyalty, filial piety, benevolence and righteousness, can adhere to the ethics of being a man, can bear, let go, take responsibility and have integrity. This is a gentleman, a person worthy of lifelong trust, and worthy of our deep friendship.
6. People who sacrifice themselves for others and are willing to suffer.
Zheng Banqiao famously said, "Failure is a kind of happiness". A person who really wants to suffer losses must be a kind-hearted person, because such a person always has others in his heart, preferring to suffer losses himself rather than expose and compete with others. When you meet such a person, you must not miss it.