I am also brave enough to put Xibao and Mr. Ye Jiaying together.

It’s not my invention, it’s the recent movie schedule that pits two completely different women in a ring. One is "Xibao" and the other is "The Moon in the Hand", a documentary about Ye Jiaying's legendary life.

Mr. Ye is a noble literati, and Xibao is the character of the same name in the novel by the writer Yi Shu, who is synonymous with the ambitious money-worshiping girl.

1. Love treasures like beasts, tearing and plundering, scarcity to the point of desolation

"I need love, a lot of love . If there is no love, a lot of money is also good. If there is neither, I still have health." This is the sentence most familiar to modern urban women. This is also a famous saying from Xibao.

Xibao comes from a humble background but strives to seize every upward opportunity and becomes a student in Cambridge. He looks noble but is worried about his future. After meeting a rich girl on a plane, she becomes the target of her sixty-year-old father. He has money, and she has wild "vitality."

He relies on her to survive and maintain energy; she relies on him to support her and gain prosperity. She has struggled, but she has grown up since she was a child. Her family could not give her enough love and security, so she could only believe in real money. She was unable to resist the temptation of wealthy people and became the "canary" of the old rich man. She resisted and lost her family. The price of her life.

This was an unequal bet, and she lost when she stepped onto the gambling table and bet on herself.

She doesn’t mind her friends’ scoldings and can retaliate; she doesn’t mind her situation as a plaything, so she dares to question: “Mr. Xu, I know you love me, just like you love Shi Tao’s paintings and stocks. Love - all your possessions, I am just one of them. " She fell, but she always stayed awake, which made her sometimes intoxicated and sometimes painful. She thought she had taken a shortcut, but she fell at an accelerated rate.

She exchanged herself for She lost her wings to fly and became a woman with only a past and no future. Mr. Xu used his wealth to drain her of her vitality. She lost her independence and integrity and became emotionally numb. It remains desolate and eventually becomes the walking corpse left by Mr. Xu in this world. 2. Ye Jiaying: The people of Konggu Youlan are independent and weak in virtue. p>

She has been in love with poetry all her life. She loves poetry, writes poetry, and speaks and writes poetry throughout her life.

Poetry depends on her inheritance. , she is nourished by poetry.

Ye Jiaying’s life is not her own choice. She lives in a turbulent era, and her life is full of hardships.

She lost her mother at the age of 17 and her daughter in middle age. When she was in Taiwan, her husband was arrested during the White Terror. His temperament changed drastically and he became cold and rude. He criticized her a lot and moved abroad, leaving her alone to teach and support the family. , she is a beloved and respected professor, but she still has to do housework when she returns home, and endures her husband's uncertain attitude, who is either cold or scolding, and even left her alone in the hospital when she was giving birth.

Sufferings often appear in Ye Jiaying’s life, but fortunately there are poems to save her.

There is a saying by Wang Guowei in "Human Words": "Heaven is the best." A hundred misfortunes make a person successful. "That's Ye Jiaying. In many of the darkest moments in life, poetry gave her strength.

Rich in poetry and growing in adversity, Ye Jiaying's life was dedicated to promoting China Poetry is one's own responsibility, playing an important role in connecting the past and the future, connecting China and the West, and has influenced generations of literati and scholars.

Ye Jiaying is like an orchid in an empty valley, quiet but infinitely powerful, lighting up the seeds of poetry in the hearts of every student. Poems continuously convey a life of endless inspiration from the author to the readers, cultivating people to have a beautiful and lively immortal soul, and touching the vibrating strings.

Mr. Ye once wrote: "Looking at the high hills, I feel sad that I have no girl, and the clear waves of the sea make it easy to plant mulberry trees." The ups and downs of life can be accepted calmly without any traces or ripples, not taking pleasure in things or feeling sad about oneself, it will always be like that.

As Xi Murong said, "The most difficult thing in life is to retreat to a position, accept everything with the same attitude, and make it easy. She put sorrow and happiness We handle everything the same, be able to perceive it, but don't indulge in it, and do everything with ease. This is probably what our ancient Chinese gentlemen were like."

3. The only person a modern woman can rely on is herself

As a modern woman, the pressure in work, life, family, workplace, and self-improvement is unprecedentedly high. Longing for love, managing a marriage, and meeting a better self, which choice is better? In addition to fully charged mobile phones, self-sufficient jobs, caring best friends, and abundant money, what else can we rely on?

The answer is self-evident. Rely on yourself and be yourself!

As the saying goes, "There is no one else outside, only yourself." When we project power to the outside world, this power will begin to react on us, only our own Only when vitality awakens and flows can it be transformed into a force that promotes oneself rather than restricts oneself.

Today's society regards the strong as virtue and advocates becoming a strong person. You must defeat others through competition and strive for everything. Only then can palace fighting drama flourish.

There is an inspiration from Mr. Ye Jiaying, which is the beauty of weak virtue - you can bully me, life can be unfair to me, but I will not force myself to fight against you. I am like a reed in the wind. I still have to be myself. No matter how much life owes me, I still have to accomplish what I want to accomplish in this life.

This is not about accepting things as they come, but about introvert self-cultivation and doing something, and extrovert self-denial and inaction, flowing into the sea like water.

Just as Ye Jiaying said, "I have weak virtues, but I am not weak. Weak people know how to lie there and get beaten. You have to bear the weak virtues and persevere. You also have to have your own A kind of ethics, you have to complete yourself, this kind of character is a weak virtue. "Such persistence and resilience are actually very powerful.