Although people are good in nature and good in heart, they will be eager for talents, will do things, and will choose good friends and good friends. (sexual evil)
Appreciate Xunzi's point of view: "Human nature is evil, but good nature is also false." In fact, human nature, such as "hunger is full, cold is warm, and fatigue is resting" (ibid.), does not matter whether it is good or evil, but if it is just left unchecked, it will inevitably go to evil. The reason why people show kindness is because they learn etiquette and righteousness the day after tomorrow. Xunzi's "false" here does not mean "hypocrisy", but an artificial explanation. Even if a person has outstanding talent and understanding, he must seek a wise teacher and serve him, choose a good friend and get close to him. It is precisely because human nature needs the guidance of ethics that Xunzi pays special attention to the role of environment and emphasizes the importance of learning and choosing a mentor. "Persuade to Learn" article: "A gentleman must choose his hometown when he is born, and he must be a scholar when he does his work, so he is also close to righteousness and turns evil." Environment plays a very important role in a person's growth. In order to create a good living and learning environment for little Mencius, Meng Mu moved three times.
So what is the standard of a wise teacher? Xunzi believes that knowledge is not enough among the qualities that a wise teacher should possess, but knowledge literacy is only a necessary and sufficient condition. In his view, the four most important factors that a wise teacher should possess are dignity, prestige, rich experience and trust, being good at observing what the teacher says when reading and interpreting classics, and being able to talk about subtle knowledge. Xunzi attached great importance to teachers' moral character and put morality first. If there is something wrong with a teacher's morality, how can he become a moral model for students?
Confucius said, "The winner has three friends, but the loser has three friends. Friends are frank, friends forgive and friends listen more, which is beneficial. Friends will be open, friendly, soft, friends will be destroyed and damaged. " (The Analects of Confucius Jishi) Yiyou doesn't just affirm us blindly. Xunzi said in the article "Cultivation": "Those who are not me are also my teachers; It's me, my friend. " Proper criticism and affirmation will make us grow and progress, and exaggerated flattery will blind our hearts and make us unable to understand ourselves correctly. Therefore, you should not be careless when choosing a teacher or a friend. People are social animals, easily influenced by others and easily assimilated by the environment. The so-called "bitter fleabane bitter fleabane, you can't help but go straight; White sand nirvana, all black "("exhortation "). Especially in the complicated modern society, it is very important to choose teachers and friends who are beneficial to you. A hedge between keeps friendship green. A true friend may not give us much material help, but he can give us spiritual and spiritual support and give us advice when we are faced with choices. When we are faced with a wrong road, we will pull us with a strong arm; Never give up when frustrated, and bless silently when successful.
"Teachers and friends are also the capital of learning." Teachers' words and deeds and friends' mutual learning can increase our knowledge. However, knowledge and skills can be expressed in language, but noble moral cultivation cannot be passed on to students only by language. A master shows the virtue of a noble person by his gestures, so it is a shortcut to learn to "learn from others" (advise him to learn) and to be close to and serve the master. As Wang Su said in "Confucius' Family Language": "Living with kindness is like entering a room. If you don't smell its fragrance for a long time, you will blend with it; If you don't get along well with others, you will be like an abalone. If you don't smell it for a long time, you will be integrated with it. "