There is a famous saying on the Internet: always worry about gains and losses, fear of not getting it, fear of losing it

Losing is a kind of pain, but also a kind of happiness, because when losing, you are also afraid of losing. get.

Losing the sun, you can enjoy the stars in the sky; losing the green, getting the fruitful golden autumn; losing the youth, we have entered a mature life... In life, we need to enjoy the joy of harvest , you should also enjoy the fun of "losing".

Hill Silverstein recorded such a story in "Lost Parts": A ring lost a part

It rotated to find the part. Because of the lack of this part, it rolls very slowly, which gives it the opportunity to appreciate the flowers along the way, talk to the sun, sing with the butterflies, and chat with the bugs on the ground... This is something it cannot do when it is intact and fast rolling. Note that I didn’t get to enjoy it. But when it got that part, because it rolled too fast, it lost all its friends, could not enjoy the flowers calmly, and had no chance to chat. Everything became fleeting...

"Flower" There is always a time for blooms and falls." Everything has its gains and losses.

Life is equal to everyone. While you gain beauty, you may lose wisdom in proportion to it: while you gain happiness, pain may be staring at you eagerly. Therefore, there are two guests in the human heart, pain and happiness. If you are too happy, you will wake up the sleeping pain; when you are in pain, happiness will come to you at any time.

Rabindranath Tagore said: "If you shed tears because you lose the sun, you have also lost the stars." Tagore may seem ordinary, but in fact, his profound philosophical sayings help us build a bridge - a bridge of despair. For hope, pain turns into a bridge of happiness. Let us understand that gaining one kind of happiness and losing it is another kind of happiness, and understanding that tasting what you have is the real happiness.

The pursuit of a better life is the common wish of people. But in real life, everyone will have to lose before they can gain. Only with small losses can there be big gains; only with regional losses can there be overall gains. The same is true in life.

Lost the greenery of spring, but gained the fruitful golden autumn; lost the years of youth, but it brought us into a mature life... Losing is a kind of pain, but it is also a kind of happiness, because when you lose, you also gain.

Falling out of love is first of all a kind of luck, and secondly a kind of misfortune. Falling out of love is necessary for love. Because you are so sad, it shows that there is still love in your heart. Since there is love in your heart, the other person must not be in love, otherwise why would you break up? And love is on your side, you have not lost love, you have won an enviable point on the journey of life, your life has become richer, and your temperament has matured.

People often encounter small failures when they are proud. The latter may be insignificant compared with the former, but people often complain about the small losses instead of thinking about the existing gains.

For example, a multi-millionaire may be depressed because he lost two million yuan in accounts; a manager may feel sad because he was looked down upon by the general manager. They care about the small dissatisfaction in front of them, but do not think that they are already very proud people. Because of this, many proud people are not as happy as ordinary people; even multi-millionaires commit suicide, managers resign, and in the end these proud people are not as happy as ordinary people. I couldn't bear to look away, and finally became a real loser.

There are no absolutes in life. At some point, what is lost is also gained, and what is gained is far more than what is lost. Milton, the great British poet, wrote his most outstanding poems after losing his sight; Beethoven, the great German musician, composed his most outstanding movements after losing his hearing; Pagani, the world-class violinist Ni is a strange man who uses the strings of suffering to play his genius to the extreme. They are known as the three weirdos in the history of world literature, but one is blind, one is deaf, and the other is mute! The reason why they have such achievements is precisely because they have a normal heart and do not care about the gains and losses. Scientist Beveridge once said: "People's best work is often done under adversity. Ideological pressure and even physical pain may become spiritual stimulants." In fact, "incomplete" does not It's not scary. What's scary is not being able to face reality. Don't lament the injustice of fate.

Fate has always been fair. If you lose in this aspect, you will be compensated in that aspect. While you regret the loss, there may be another unexpected gain.

There is a story about a young man who, when he was still wearing crotchless pants, couldn’t remember which day he found a bright spot on the wall in front of the door, which shone brightly in the sun and was extremely gorgeous. . From then on, I thought about it day and night, lingering and looking up. Finally one day, the young man who was gradually growing taller decided to climb up to take a closer look. The centuries-old dangerous wall was out of reach. Close, close. At last the trembling hand seized it. It turned out to be a broken toothbrush. He was so disappointed and depressed. Things always change like this. Before that, the young man had a good mood; once he got the toothbrush, he lost the good mood of the past. This is just like what the Buddhist scriptures say: "Loss is gain, gain is loss."

There is really only a thin line between gain and loss in our hearts. When we think of gain, we are gain; when we think of loss, we are gain. Even if he is frustrated, Yan Hui lives in a shady alley, with a basket of food and a spoonful of drink, and he can still feel proud of it. The King of Qin unified the six kingdoms and annexed the world, but he could also be frustrated. It seems that if there is a gain, there must be a loss, and if there is a loss, there must be a gain. If you gain a lot, you will not feel happy even if it increases. If you lose a little, you will feel panic. If you lose a lot, you will not feel pain even if you lose again. If you gain something, you will be very happy. In this way, success is not the cause of frustration, and frustration is not the cause of success?

Thinking more deeply, our greatest success or failure in life cannot be controlled by ourselves. The greatest gain in life should be "birth". Isn't it the greatest "gain" that we get life from our parents? Because without this gain, there will be no future gains. This is the foundation of gain. The biggest loss in life should be "death". When this moment comes, we will throw away everything we have gained, including our own lives. Isn't this the biggest loss? We are still unable to control the biggest gains and losses, so what gains and losses are there to care about?

Confucius’ family language records: One day when the King of Chu was traveling, he lost his bow. The people below were looking for it. The King of Chu said: “No need, I dropped the bow, and my people picked it up.” After all, the people of Chu got it, so why bother to look for it?" When Confucius heard this, he said with emotion: "It's a pity that the King of Chu is not big-hearted enough!" "Why don't you say that someone dropped his bow? If you pick it up, why worry about whether it is from the Chu state? "

"If someone leaves a bow, someone else will find it" should be the most open-minded view on gains and losses. As far as we are concerned, there are gains and losses; as far as all mankind is concerned, isn't it the same? It's like clouds come and go, rain comes and rain comes, there are always sunny and rainy places in this world; just like life and death, death and life, everything in this world always continues and continues to grow. So gains and losses, in the end, there is nothing gained and nothing lost!

People who worry about gains and losses will always be troubled throughout their lives. They are hesitant about making choices. They already have some extra things that they don't need, but they try their best to make these things increase instead of decreasing. Worrying about these things all day long will harm your physical and mental health in the long run. Instead of worrying about losing it, wouldn't it be better to let it go and get a relaxed and happy mood?

As long as we face up to the gains and losses in life, the moon will still be bright even if it is missing; even if life has regrets, it will still be beautiful.

Correctly understand gains and losses. What you gain may also be lost. No matter what you gain, you might as well remind yourself of this from time to time. In this way, you will cherish it more when you get it, and you won't be at a loss when you lose it.

There is no need to be sad about "loss", because things in the world are meant to live in impermanence. All we can and should do is cherish it when we "get it".

If you cannot give up what others have, you will not get what others do not have. People who know how to live lose more and gain more. As long as you think about it, you will have a feeling of relief and enlightenment. If human activities are not inspired by ideals, they will become empty and insignificant - Chernyshevsky

Everyone has a certain ideal, which determines the quality of his efforts and judgment. direction.

In this sense, I never regard comfort and happiness as the purpose of life itself - this ethical basis, I call it the ideal of the pig pen - Einstein

◆Technology

Science and technology are productive forces, and they are the primary productive forces - ***

◆Cherish time

Do you love life? Then don't waste time, because time is the material that makes up life - Franklin

Treat every day of your life as the last day of your life - Helen Keller

Every inch of time is worth an inch of gold , An inch of money cannot buy an inch of time. The setting sun is boundless and the river is endless, and I have to be even more busy today - Chen Shidao

There is a long time between today and tomorrow; while you still have energy, learn to do things quickly - Goethe

Don't wait for a while, the young man's head will turn gray, and he will feel empty and sad - Yue Fei

When the age is gone, the string will spit out an arrow - Meng Xiao

The prime of life will not come back again. It's hard to get morning again in one day. It is timely to encourage oneself, and time waits for no one - Tao Yuanming

A year's plan starts with spring, a day's plan starts with morning - Xiao Yi

◆Respect the teacher

< p> If you don’t learn and know yourself, if you don’t ask and know yourself, you will act in ancient and modern times, which is unprecedented - Wang Chong

◆Diligence

Life is about diligence, nothing is gained without asking - Zhang Heng

Proficiency comes from diligence but waste from play, success comes from thinking but failure comes from following - Han Yu

Genius is the ability to work hard and diligently without end - Carlisle

Intelligence comes from diligence, and genius comes from accumulation - Hua Luogeng

A person who is eager to learn but not diligent in asking questions is not a truly good scholar.

There are roads in the mountain of books, hard work is the path, and there is no limit to the sea of ??learning, and hard work is the boat.

If you work hard for a day, you can have a good night's sleep; if you work hard for a lifetime, you can have a happy sleep - Leonardo da Vinci (Italy)

The decisive factor in forming genius should be diligence - Guo Moruo

The human brain is the same as the limbs. If you use it more, it will be more efficient. If you don't use it, it will be useless - Mao Yisheng

Do you want to be a happy person? I hope you can first learn to bear hardships - Turgenev

Inspiration is just "the reward of tenacious labor" - Repin

Why bother with perseverance? The most useless thing is to wake up at the fifth watch of the night, just to be exposed to the cold for ten days in one day.

Success = hard work + correct method + less empty talk - Einstein

How can you see the rainbow without going through the wind and rain - "Real Heroes"

The edge of a sword comes from sharpening, and the fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the bitter cold.

Since ancient times, people who have made great achievements in learning are inseparable from the word "hardship".

Genius is 99% sweat and 1% inspiration - Edison

The road to art is full of thorns, which is also a good thing. Ordinary people are daunted by it, only will Strong people are the exception - Hugo Life should be like a candle, burning from top to bottom, always bright. ——Xiao Chunu

The value of life is measured by the work a person has done for the contemporary era. ——Xu Wei

The road is made by feet, and history is written by people. Every step a person takes is writing his or her own history. ——Ji Hongchang

Spring silkworms will not stop running out of silk until they die, but people will not stop until they are pregnant. You need to work hard as long as you have a breath left, leaving it as a good area for youth. —— Wu Yuzhang

I hope that every time I recall, I will not feel guilty about life—— Guo Xiaochuan

A person’s life may burn or decay, I cannot decay, I am willing to burn ! —— Ostrovsky

If you want to love your own value, you have to create value for the world. —— Goethe

Society is like a ship, and everyone must be prepared to steer the ship. ——Ibsen

Life is not a pleasure, but a very heavy work. —— Leo Tolstoy

The value of life is not measured by time, but by depth. ——Leo Tolstoy

Life is empty and dull only in the eyes of dull people. —— Chernyshevsky

The value of a person should depend on what he contributes, not what he obtains.

——Einstein

Only by devoting oneself to society can one find the meaning of that short and risky life. ——Einstein

Among all living beings, who doesn’t love life? Love life to the extreme, and then love the group. —— Qiu Jin

The truth of life is like a strong glass of wine. It would not be so delicious without repeated refining! ——Guo Xiaochuan

People full of joy and fighting spirit always welcome thunder and sunshine with joy. —— Huxley

Life is a battle. —— Korolenko

In order to play your role in life, love life. ——Rodin

Hope is attached to existence. When there is existence, there is hope, and when there is hope, there is light. ——Lu Xun

The heavy night is the prelude to the day. ——Guo Xiaochuan

When a person uses work to welcome the light, the light will soon shine on him. ——Feng Xuefeng

Easter has arrived, can spring be far behind? ——Shelley

The past belongs to death, and the future belongs to yourself. —— Shelley

Although the activities in the world have many shortcomings, they are still beautiful. —— Rodin

The hard-working bee never has time to mourn. —— Blake

Hope is the faithful sister of misfortune. —— Pushkin

When your hopes come true one by one, you must be firm and calm! —— Longfellow

Believe in yourself first, and then others will believe in you. ——Turgenev

Don’t lament the pain of life! --- Lament is the weak... —— Gorky

Fatalism is the excuse for those weak who lack willpower. ——Romain Rolland

The only shortcoming we will not correct is weakness. ——La Rochefoucauld

He who conquers selfishness can destroy the public. —— Lin Bu

If everyone loves public affairs, the world will be peaceful; if everyone is selfish, the world will be in chaos. ——Liu E

Selfishness is an obstacle to building people up. —— Lu Kun

Forget all the past events like smoke, and have a selfless heart. ——Tao Zhu

Always seek to benefit others, not yourself. ——Xie Juezai

All self-interested lives are irrational and animal lives. —— Leo Tolstoy

Human reason destroys superstition, and human emotions will also destroy egoism. ——Heine

Selflessness is a rare morality because there is no profit from it. —— Brecht

A gentleman is known as righteousness, and a villain is known as benefit. ——Confucius

Don’t worry about poverty and lowliness, and don’t dwell on wealth. —— Tao Yuanming

Riches and honors are not obscene and poor and lowly are happy. A man is a hero here. ——Cheng Hao

Poverty and a clean and simple life are exactly where we revolutionaries can overcome many difficulties! —— Fang Zhimin

The three armies can seize the commander, but an ordinary man cannot seize the will. —— Confucius

Those who are not strong in ambition are not wise enough. —— Mo Zhai

How can a sparrow know the ambition of a swan! ——Chen She

Aim high. —— Zhuge Liang

The old man is always ambitious, but the martyr is ambitious in his old age. ——Cao Cao

The sparrows play with the chariot firewood, and the swans roam safely. ——Cao Zhi

Be poor and strong, and never fall into the clouds. ——Wang Bo

The roc rises with the wind in one day and soars ninety thousand miles. ——Li Bai

Those who accomplished great things in ancient times not only had extraordinary talents, but also had perseverance. ——Su Shi

He was a hero in life, but a hero in death. I still miss Xiang Yu and refuse to cross the Yangtze River. —— Li Qingzhao

A man with a strong heart will still be a ghost after death. ——Lu You

Therefore, those who are determined are motivated by learning; being a scholar is determined by what they are determined to do. ——Wang Yangming

Poverty is not shameful, but shameful is poverty without ambition.

—— Lu Kun

We judge people’s activities based on their purposes. Only when the purpose is great can the activity be said to be great. ——Chekhov

Being indecisive without ideals is a sad mentality. —— Bacon

The ideal of life is for the ideal life. —— Zhang Wentian

As long as people have a belief and pursuit, they can endure any hardship and adapt to any environment. ——Ding Ling

The ideal character should not only satisfy the material needs, but also satisfy the spiritual purpose. ——Hegel

A person who can think is truly a person with boundless power. ——Balzac

A person who is not inspired by the enthusiasm of devotion will never do anything great. —— Chernyshevsky

A common cause and a common struggle can give people the power to endure everything. —— Ostrovsky

I never regard comfort and happiness as the purpose of life itself---this ethical basis, I call it the ideal of the pig pen. —— Einstein

Famous Aphorisms - Adversity

Suffering reveals talent, good luck conceals talent. (Ancient Roman poet Horace)

Almost every situation—good or bad—is affected by our attitude toward it. (Ancient Roman philosopher Seneca L A)

Although there are many sufferings in the world, suffering can always be overcome (American writer Helen Keller)

Fruits not only need sunlight, but also Need cool nights. Cold rain can ripen it. The molding of human character requires not only joy but also trials and difficulties. (American writer Black H)

I can take anything from people, but there is one thing I cannot take away, and that is the freedom to choose your own attitude towards life under certain circumstances. (German novelist Frank L)

Every tragedy creates heroes among ordinary people. (American writer Stephens N)

Those who are willing to be humiliated deserve to be humiliated. (British writer Coford F C)

I find life an exciting thing, especially when it is lived for others. (American writer Helen Keller)

I have been crying since I was born, and every day shows the reason why I cry. (American novelist Jack London)

If you want to escape suffering in your life, you have to be a god or a corpse. Think about the misfortunes of others, and you will be able to face life calmly (ancient Athenian playwright Menander)

For those who are afraid of danger, the world is always dangerous. (British playwright Bernard Shaw G)

It is not accurate to say that suffering can sublimate personality; happiness can sometimes do this, and suffering often makes people narrow-minded and have the desire for revenge. psychology. (British novelist W. S. Maugham)

Let us advise people in crisis: Don’t focus so much on the dangers and difficulties involved, but instead focus on the opportunities. ——Because there are always opportunities in crises. (British doctor Caroline S)

When there are small difficulties, you shout loudly; when there are big difficulties, you keep silent. (Ancient Roman philosopher Nega L A)

Disaster is like a knife. Holding the handle can serve us, but holding the blade will cut our hands. (American poet and critic Lowell J R)

No one can belittle us except ourselves. If we are strong, no bad influence can defeat us. (American educator Washington B T)

Without sowing, there is no harvest; without hard work, there is no success; without suffering, there is no glory; without setbacks, there is no glory. (British Admiral Payne W)

Optimists always imagine themselves achieving their goals. (Ancient Roman philosopher Seneca L A)

You may not be able to control your work, but you can change your life. (British writer McGinnis A L)

Virtues appear in good times, virtues emerge in adversity

Get joy from hope and remain tenacious in suffering.

(President of the United States, Kennedy J)

After all the hardships, there is happiness. (British playwright Shakespeare W)

The Chinese word "crisis" is divided into two words, one means danger and the other means opportunity. (British writer Bridger)

The most unbearable misfortunes are those that never come. (American poet and critic J R Lowell)

The more you fight to solve a problem, the more impatient you become - the deeper you sink into the wrong train of thought, the harder it becomes. Get rid of the pain. (British doctor Caroline S)

The tragedy of life is not how much people suffer, but what people miss. (British essayist and historian Carlyle T)

The memory of past misfortunes constitutes new misfortunes. (Spanish writer Cervantes M)

Strong-willed optimists think about problems with the outlook on life that "nothing is difficult in the world". The more they are hit by tragedy, the stronger they become. (Ancient Roman philosopher Seneca L A)

Difficulties are just opportunities to put on work clothes. (American industrialist Kaiser H J)

We all have enough strength to endure the misfortunes of others. (French writer La Rochefoucauld)

As long as there is a breath left, we must fight to defend ourselves. (British Emperor William II) I am afraid of losing. What should I do if I worry about gains and losses?

Things that are not yours will be lost sooner or later, and you always worry about gains and losses. Why?

From a psychoanalytic perspective, this is related to your childhood experience. When you were a child, your caregivers treated you Your needs are not met in time, causing you to feel anxious about the surrounding environment. Why do you always worry about gains and losses?

It’s normal. It shows that you care about the other person. ``` But you should also pay attention to giving the other person space. ``` Why do you always worry about gains and losses?

Just focus on your work, career or studies and don’t think about anything else and you will be fine

Even young people who have just broken up will do the same thing as me. I soon forgot that the other person really recommended this method. I am very afraid of losing my boyfriend and worry about gains and losses. What should I do?

What does a 20-year-old have to lose? What are you afraid of? If something is destined to happen, or someone is destined to leave. So it actually has nothing to do with whether you work hard or not. Live in the moment and enjoy what you have now. Live according to your wishes and work hard for the life you want. When you are good enough, you can take back what you have lost. When you are strong enough, even if you lose nothing, nothing can defeat you. When you are charming enough, no one will leave you. Fight for the life you want. Read less chicken soup articles. They are all hypocrisy for self-comfort. They are of no use and seem very low. Learn to think for yourself. You need to be more indifferent to the warmth and warmth of people in this society. Watch more great and meaningful movies to strengthen your abilities and qualities in all aspects. Go to the gym or practice a sport or fighting skill you like. If you really don't like sports, try learning a musical instrument. There is something you are relatively good at, which will make you more confident and make your life more interesting. It can also be used in various social life. It's normal for people to think about random things. If you don't know how to think, there will be no cure. The key is to know what you want. Rather than losing, I think how to gain more is what you should consider at your age.

As for the question of what to lose, wait until you have too much to lose before you consider whether you will be sad if you never get it or if you have it and worry about gains and losses

Just because you are so dear does not mean that he loves you

If he loved you, he wouldn’t say he broke up with you

Later, he said he didn’t want to break up with you

He was just trying to break up with you, he didn’t love you at all

Dear, why did he break up with you?

Maybe you should talk to him. Just because you are so close doesn’t mean that he loves you

Love you If he did, he wouldn’t say he broke up with you

Later, he said he didn’t break up with you

He was just playing with the breakup, he didn’t love you at all

< p> Dear, why did he break up with you

Maybe you should talk to him about men worrying about gains and losses because they can’t get what they want, right?

Wrong, if you really can’t get it, you will give up. You will never worry about gains and losses. The reason why you worry about gains and losses is often because you can get it within your reach. What is the word "worry about gains and losses"?

It has a derogatory connotation. . Worry about not getting it, worry about losing it when you get it. Describes attaching great importance to personal gains and losses. Why do people always worry about gains and losses?

Desire