In my opinion, 16-year-old brother-sister relationship, the necessary homework, both of them did not do well, which may also be the potential reason for breaking up.
How do brothers and sisters get along? I find it hard to break up after doing these things.
First, love between brothers and sisters must be equal to men and women.
Girls are actually quite insecure in love. If boys can't meet girls' safety needs and girls can't meet boys' worship needs, it's only a matter of time before two people work together. But it's not really a big problem. Although your boyfriend is younger than yourself, you should not treat him as a boyfriend. Sometimes you may feel that you are your boyfriend's mother, but although age is a fait accompli, if you let go of your guard and simply think of yourself as your boyfriend's girlfriend, maybe you will get along more harmoniously.
Second, don't try to reform each other.
The idea of girls is to turn boys into what they want, but in the process of changing each other, there are always some extreme measure. For example, if a man doesn't do something according to his own requirements, girls will use small means, such as playing small temper and crying and screaming, to force boys to submit. Another situation is that girls are much older than boys and more mature in thought. In the process of getting along with boys, they always look at some problems from the perspective of an experienced person, trying to change the perspective of boys. This will give boys a condescending feeling, and your mode of getting along will become a mother with her son. What boys want to find before they begin to fall in love is a mature young lady with all kinds of amorous feelings, and finally they find their mother? The frustration of boys is self-evident. So if you insist that boys change themselves, it is equivalent to digging another hole for yourself. A lot of growth takes time. It won't bring any good results. Never change a person by force. If a man can't find a sense of existence and identity in a relationship, then this relationship is doomed to failure.
Third, more affirmation of the little boyfriend.
When brother and sister are in love, the little boyfriend may do a lot of things that make you unhappy. On the one hand, because the little boyfriend is still young, many ways to please girls may not be known. On the one hand, you should educate him and don't blame him for his bad work. On the contrary, you should grasp what he has done well and affirm it. Pay special attention not to be too strong and give men an aggressive feeling and pressure, which is the taboo of brother and sister love.
Fourth, be honest and don't care too much about other people's eyes.
Sister-in-law's love is bound to be criticized by many people in today's society, including their relatives and friends. At this time, you should learn to block the outside voice. Feelings are between two people and have nothing to do with others. The mouth grows on others, and how to say it is someone else's business. As long as two people love each other enough to go hand in hand to the end, then those external voices and rumors will naturally break down and stick to their true intentions in order to last for a long time. The famous saying "Go your own way and let others talk".
5. Respect each other's privacy and maintain certain communication.
Respect each other's privacy. As women, they are older than Fang, so we must look at some things more comprehensively. You may choose to temporarily hide what you see through but don't understand. After all, everyone should have everyone's privacy If the other person wants to tell himself, he will tell himself. Since he chose not to say, it is reasonable for him not to say. When we are together, we should trust each other. Too much paranoia and interference in each other's privacy often lead to the relationship between two people. At the same time, keep effective communication, know how to talk and listen to each other. If two people hide their worries in their hearts and don't want to say it, then they don't want to communicate if there are contradictions. When they accumulate more and more, the distance between two people will go further and further. Good communication is a win-win process, which is absolutely beneficial to both sides and a way to maintain long-term coexistence.
I am Xiaoyu. If you have any ideas and suggestions, please leave me a message in the comments section.