Be yourself!
There is nothing to say about "how to treat Dink".
Everyone has his own aspirations, and what kind of life he chooses depends on his free outlook on life and values.
In fact, it is very good, even the highest level of understanding, seeing through life, not having children and keeping the world between men and women.
In addition, if you really don't want to take the risk of having children, you can refuse to get married and adopt a lovely baby from the social welfare home through legal procedures. You can be a single mother from now on. Similarly, if a fear of marriage man wants to be a father, he can adopt a child in a social welfare home.
Please, Dink's house is a normal and happy thing. Just like a monk who became a monk, he no longer craves the world of mortals, nor does he need his children to enjoy this beautiful world, so he can successfully live this beautiful world and leave it to those who have infinite expectations to struggle.
With China's opening to the outside world and the improvement of living standards, people's thoughts and ideologies have changed. Some people advocate freedom and pursue the quality of life, and the Dink clan came into being, especially in the metropolis.
There are two dinks in our unit, a man and a woman, both of whom study finance. The man is the chief financial officer with an annual salary of nearly 500,000, and the woman is the chief accountant with an annual salary of 200,000. In fact, they are not low in IQ and EQ, serious and responsible, gentle and friendly.
In the traditional concept of our country, "there are three kinds of unfilial, and nothing is great." It is generally believed that Dink is an extremely selfish person with only "freedom" in his values and "self" as his life goal. In fact, Dink did this for different reasons and was not born. Most of them are the painful experiences of relatives and families, which make them choose to live for Dink.
Double income and no children also changed their route halfway. A lady I met earlier works as an agent for brand products of a western European country in China, and her husband works in Qingdao Customs. Their annual income exceeds 1 million and they live a carefree life. Until the woman's mother died, I didn't know what inspired her desire to have children. The next year, after she gave birth to a boy, she immediately hired a general manager to take on her main job. Her main job is to raise her son. When we blessed her, we saw that she was full of vitality and happiness.
In short, life is full of plants and trees. No matter what attitude you have towards life, be normal and be a dink, as long as you can live the life you want!
Dink, I think it is the choice of more and more couples;
First of all, the current environment is not good, and there is an epidemic in the living environment;
Secondly, the cost of living is high and the pressure of survival is great in the economic environment;
Nowadays, many people pay more attention to the quality of life itself, rather than whether families must have children;
Personally, I like children very much, but I don't want my own children, because I know that I lack patience and am not a mother who is willing to sacrifice for her children. I am more eager to realize my self-worth, but I am willing to support poor children or occasionally play with other people's children.
But I really feel sorry for my daughter. My own life and work are very stressful, and my marriage is not happy. I was slightly depressed, my daughter was in adolescence and began to rebel. My little patience is almost worn out, and it is very collapsed;
If I could live again, I might not even get married. I think I can live well alone. At least I want to find a suitable person to marry. I think the best state of marriage is to have a good talk with you, which is a luxury in my marriage, so I don't like marriage.
We must admit that not everyone is suitable for marriage and not everyone is suitable for having children. It is terrible that parents don't need to graduate. I think there should be an experimental institution where people who want to be parents can experience it for a week and a half, and then come back to consider whether they are really suitable for having children.
Most people who choose Dink know what lifestyle they like or suit! Prepare to accept all the consequences! Stick to it and try to live better!
I'm Dink. . .
Dink was chosen for the following reasons:
1, I was sure I wouldn't have children since I was a child, and I don't know why, but I'm determined not to have children! I don't feel anything when I see children. Some people say that if you have it, you will feel it. I think this sentence is ridiculous. No matter what happens these days, you can tell some feelings when you have it! It's not just giving birth.
I feel pain. Once I had my period, and I rolled in bed with pain. I feel numb at the thought of having a baby or having a caesarean section. I'm sure I'm in a bad mood, and I'm more worried about my depression. I am also more afraid of the irreversible harm and sequelae caused by having children. I want to give my husband the best and keep my feelings close. I was not loved by my relatives since I was a child, so I care about my husband very much! Seeing too many cases of postpartum marital discord, I am worried from my heart! If it doesn't hurt or damage my health, I am willing to have a nest!
My husband has two sons, and neither daughter-in-law asked for any bride price. The down payment of the two houses was also bought by the sons and daughters-in-law who earned money by themselves, so we got married late. The reason is that every time my parents-in-law say, OK, I'll give it to you. The problem is that I didn't! Therefore, the two sons are somewhat resentful to their parents, and more helpless! My husband said that because of his background, he felt that he should share some pressure with his children. If he doesn't have this ability, it is impossible to give him something better. Be responsible for yourself in this life and give the best to each other! So my husband thinks the same thing about Dink!
Besides, I think dink is a matter of lovers. If you decide, you don't have to care about other people's eyes. After all, you want everything these days, so whatever you do will be judged. More importantly, they are only responsible for comments and don't need to be responsible.
Finally, I want to say to the man who opposes Dink that when you decide to let your wife have children, (1) you might as well experience the ten-level pain of a woman giving birth first, and then decide whether to let her have children after the experience. (2) You might as well ask yourself, if you have children, do you want to spend half your time with your wife and children? (3) Are you willing to give your wife some money for postpartum recovery and let her return to the workplace as soon as possible? (4) Do you agree to let parents take care of their children, instead of taking the above as something that wives should do by themselves? (5) Can you promise not to dislike your wife's physical, mental and emotional changes after childbirth? If you think even one of the above five items is unreasonable or unacceptable, then why do you let your wife take such a big risk to have a baby?
Men can't accept Dink, mostly because others have it, but they don't, because they don't have to bear the irreversible damage caused by having children and the change of their living conditions, they just need to make the decision to have children! If women just talk and don't have to bear anything, women can't accept Dink! If both husband and wife have the function of having children, or if there are men and women, there will be more dinks now!
Everyone yearns for a different life.
Life is short. If you can't live according to your own wishes in these limited decades, it's not a waste.
Some people like to live together, not bound by children, and just want a simple life. Why not Dink?
I hope that the old people in Dink's family can also understand the ideas of the younger generation. The pressure of life is already so great, why should you be pressured by your own family?
However, it is clearly agreed that there is a dink. After years of ups and downs, one of them wants children and the other doesn't, so the one who wants children may have an affair, which really hurts.
I hope everyone is happy and everyone can live a wonderful life.
How much courage does China "Dink" need to choose?
China has long been influenced by the ideas of "raising children to prevent old age" and "there are three unfilial children, and no offspring is the biggest". Most families are traditional, and men and women will have children after marriage.
People in China like to be busy, and so do their families. It is meaningless for two people to be rejected for a long time.
However, marriage in China involves two families. After marriage, both parents will attack by innuendo or pressure to hug the doll, not just whether they like it or not. Dinks, you have to be enlightened by your parents to allow you, Dink.
In our country, it also involves a very important concept, raising children to prevent old age, even if you want your children to be daughters, you will not be lonely in this life. This is also everyone's concept. Having children can not only increase the fun of life, but also provide you with old-age care in the future.
In fact, dink or not, as long as you feel happy. For the Dink family, the result of their own choice needs to bear the responsibility. Only by making full preparations can we give more protection to our future life.
Adults make their own decisions and bear the consequences. There is no right or wrong. But I admire women. Women are more risky, and it's no use thinking about it after time.
I will not choose, but an attitude towards life with absolute respect.
I have always liked innocent and lovely children and the kindness and peace of the elderly. If I can, I will want five or six children to grow up with them, enjoy the happiness they bring and complain about all kinds of troubles they bring together. It should be a very lively life.
I don't know much about dink's thoughts. I guess they like a quiet and unrestrained life, or feel that raising children is a great responsibility, and they are not sure whether they can do it. Either way, there is no problem living the way they want.
In some Dink families, the man will go back on his word when he is forty or fifty years old, and the woman has already missed the childbearing age. After the man leaves, it's not too late to marry another woman and have children. This risk is not without it. Women's convenience has become the object of sympathy and even ridicule. I think it's nothing. If she chooses, she can take care of her own life without anyone telling her what to do.
Others say that they are sick when they are old and have no children to take care of them. This is even more ridiculous. Suppose you live to an average age of 70 and live a happy and free life for more than 60 years according to your own wishes. The illness and loneliness in the next five or ten years are nothing. Moreover, it is enough to think about the children who are filial before the hospital bed, including the old and the young, and the pain that they are breathless because of their career. I will certainly authorize my children: If one day I am old and sick and can't take care of myself, please send me to a special old-age care institution. I don't want your life to be a mess.
Life is so short, choose whatever you like.