1. Teach children how to protect themselves in the event of a dispute and ask for help

For children to learn the strong internal skills to protect themselves, it does not happen overnight. Parents usually Daily life should be shaped by concepts. Relying on a strong body, children will not suffer big losses in the face of shortcomings, and their extraordinary self-confidence and personality can deter evil forces at critical moments. There is a wise saying in martial arts: rely on friends when going out. Every child must learn to make friends and have his or her own "social circle". As long as you have a strong "social circle" of friends, no matter how naughty your classmates are with you Before you develop your hands-on skills, you may want to think twice about the power of your “social circle”. If it still can't be solved, then the only last step is to ask teachers and parents for help.

2. Teach children to face it bravely

If the other party often yells and the child beats the other party, teach the child not to be weak but to face it bravely. In all this, be brave enough to reason, even fight back against the other party and protect yourself.

3. Learn malleable solutions

If a child is bullied by others, you must also teach the child malleable solutions to the matter. In other words, if a child is bullied, In this case, give a warning first, and if that doesn't work, retaliate. If the other party is greedy, we should fight back decisively.

4. Don’t rush to blend in

Children of different ages have their own rules of the game in the world. Adults cannot use their own standards to "mix in" "Children's world. In order to better train children's consciousness, if a child is bullied, the child should be allowed to handle "interpersonal interactions" by himself and learn how to integrate and interact with others. You can first ask your child for advice and ask him what he wants to do. If you can't solve it yourself, you can seek help from the teacher.

Wrong behaviors of parents

1. Let the child fight back

First of all, this stance itself is not wrong, let the bully give it a try If he feels bullied, he will restrain his behavior. Some educators advocate that there is no need to "retaliate", which is not right. Only when the troublemaker feels like being bullied can the best education be given to him. Otherwise, why would our country bother to open prison cells for criminals. The point of the problem is that since the child does not fight back, it is most likely due to lack of ability. If we focus on the child to fight back, but he knows that he is not capable, it will make him feel even more insecure. Especially after fighting back and suffering a higher attack.

2. Ask the school or the other parent to accuse them

Some parents directly find the child who makes trouble or even teach him a lesson, which is not easy to solve the problem but also very dangerous. May cause more serious harm. Going to the kindergarten to make a fuss and criticize the teachers will lead to resentment in the kindergarten, damage the own image and hinder the development of the children. The teachers are also likely to make snitches on their own children. Every parent will feel that their child is good. If they find another parent, they may not get good results.