It should be the fourth issue of the first season of Qi Pa Shuo

2015.0103 12 into 8 fourth issue

Should best friends of the opposite sex exist?

The debate topic of this episode is called: Are best friends of the opposite sex a lie?

Proposition: Yes

Consideration: No

From the first glance, there is a key word in this debate topic, which is called "best friend" ". What kind of relationship can be considered as best friends? There should be pure friendship between friends of the opposite sex. The definition of this term can determine the direction of the entire debate. Below is the debate among the weirdos.

Zhengfang Yibian (Ji Zexi): You must know that men have a purpose, and being your best friend is just a temporary measure. There is a saying that "Promises are sometimes like farts. They are earth-shattering when they are said, but pale and feeble after they are said." This is the truth.

Opposite argument (Fan Tantan):

1. The so-called best friends want to share all information. Looking for a male best friend is just to see what a man thinks so that you can deal with your boyfriend.

2. Best friends are best friends, and boyfriends are boyfriends. Because you don't meet the requirements for a boyfriend in the eyes of women, you can only be our best friends (but we have all heard the term "love grows over time").

The second argument of the affirmative (Jin Yuxuan): Let me give you a sentence first. This sentence is called "prevent fire, prevent theft, and prevent girlfriends." Imagine the situation, if you come home from get off work and open the door, if your wife is chatting with a best friend of the same sex, then you have time to yourself; if your wife is chatting with a best friend of the opposite sex, what would you think? When your boyfriend/girlfriend tells you: I have a best friend of the opposite sex. How do you feel?

Golden sentence summary: If your girlfriend/boyfriend has a blue-faced confidant, you will be green if you are blue (situational association method, this is a big trick).

Second argument from the opposite side (Ma Weiwei):

If there is no sexual attraction at the beginning, they can only become friends over time (opposite-sex best friends are male and female friends who have no sexual attraction) . To me, you are my boyfriend’s Baidu Encyclopedia.

The topic we are discussing today is: Do you believe that there is pure friendship between men and women, or that there is "adultery" between the two.

We believe that there is no "adultery" between best friends of the opposite sex. This is because "adultery" lies in consensual consent. If a man is careless, he can only hide his girlfriend in a secret room. Because as long as there are other men in this world, it will be dangerous for you.

Ma Weiwei’s argument is actually very paradoxical and can easily confuse others. In fact, this debate question is about: Is the best friend of the opposite sex a lie? Agreeing with the positive point of view does not mean admitting that there is "adultery" between best friends of the opposite sex.

From a male perspective, if the male of a pair of opposite-sex best friends already has a girlfriend, then there is a high probability that this male compatriot has ill intentions towards his "best friend". If a pair of opposite-sex best friends neither have male or female friends, then would it be a better choice for them to become boyfriend and girlfriend if they know each other so well?

Therefore, even if there are lies between best friends of the opposite sex, there is no need to rise to the level of "adultery".

Ma Weiwei finally used an exaggerated scenario method (customized) to push the positive argument to an absurd point, thereby overturning it. This method is worth learning.

Three arguments for the positive (Ai Li): Best friends of the opposite sex are a beautiful lie (based on my own experience, I finally call on girls to care for their male best friends, which is basically nonsense).

The following is free debate time:

Xiao Xiao: The role of male best friend is determined by girls.

Bao Jianghao: As long as the opportunity comes, it is easy for boys to have a relationship with their female best friends.

Hua Xi: When a boy approaches a girl with bad intentions, the girl will be defensive. So the reason why Pan Jinlian can become your best friend is because she loves you. Friendship can exist between best friends of the opposite sex, but relationships only exist between romantic people (such as Pan Jinlian and Ximen Qing).

Ai Li: We should pay special attention to this debate topic. The main point of our debate today is best friends. The so-called best friends are "close friends among the best friends." Otherwise we would have no argument (finally found the main point).

Bao Jianghao: Male and female debate friends live in the same room. This kind of relationship cannot be called a bestie relationship, this kind of relationship is a comrade-in-arms relationship!

Ai Li: If you can’t tell your closest friends what’s in your heart, then it’s unfair to your boyfriend/girlfriend! ! !

Concluding argument

Gao Xiaosong (opposition):

1. Science tells us one thing, if men and women are easily attracted, it violates physical competition. Natural selection, the theory of survival of the fittest;

2. From my experience as a screenwriter, when we discuss scripts, we often hear the phrase "why does he like this person" instead of " Why doesn’t he like this person?” It can be seen that it is not easy to like someone, but it is normal to dislike someone.

Therefore, the chances of people of the opposite sex becoming friends or besties are much greater than the chances of becoming partners.

Teacher Gao Xiaosong used his own experience and scientific perspective to demonstrate his point of view, and made it well-founded. Thumbs up!

Tsai Kangyong (positive): Being a best friend will affect your emotional judgment, and it is suspected of taking advantage of others, especially when girls are vulnerable.

Brother Kang Yong also started from his own experience and pointed out that it is possible for best friends of the opposite sex to take advantage of certain opportunities to upgrade their relationship. Therefore, if you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend, you must be careful about the best friends of the opposite sex around you.

Summary

In this episode, the affirmative debater Aili finally grasped the key point of the debate: What level of relationship can be called a best friend? The opposite angle is a little weird. The final words of the two master debaters were quite good.

For this debate, I will definitely support the affirmative. Maybe there really are pure best friends of the opposite sex in this world, but such "purity" may just be what one party thinks is "pure". In terms of probability, a man and a woman become best friends of the opposite sex only in the following situations:

1. Both parties hope that the relationship will go further;

2. One party hopes that the relationship will go further;

3. Both parties interpret this relationship as a simple relationship between best friends.

Based on the above example and the situation around me, I think the probability of 3 is smaller. So I support the positive view.