The famous saying in Zhuge Liang's "Shishi Biao" - "It is not advisable to belittle oneself, to use metaphors that are unjust, and to block the road of loyalty and admonishment." I think many people will memorize it. When I used to chat with friends, I often used "Don't belittle yourself" to encourage unconfident friends. Recently, I found that it was inappropriate and was completely taken out of context from the original text. The meaning of this sentence should be "You should not underestimate yourself casually, say some inappropriate words, so as to block the way for people to sincerely advise you." The single sentence "should not belittle yourself" means that you should not underestimate yourself casually, but this sentence Words are used to warn people not to talk nonsense, causing others to stop giving you advice. When I look back at the meaning of this sentence, combined with the problems I often make, I feel that it has more practical significance.

Let me talk about my wife first. Without long-term experience in the kitchen, the food she cooks after marriage is indeed not delicious. In order to improve Yixin's cooking skills, I put forward a lot of constructive (tai) design (nan) sex (chi) suggestions, but they were not adopted and she was even rolled her eyes. The important thing is that she no longer cooks. I'm confused. My suggestion is fine. Why would my wife be angry? Later, it was said on the Internet that home is not a place to be reasonable, and you cannot be reasonable in an unreasonable place. Hi, rely on me. Later, I discovered that when my wife gave me advice, I would get rid of her completely. She probably saw the same family management quotes on the Internet, and we stopped giving each other advice, and our family has been prosperous ever since.

An unknown expert said that the story will always be played out in different places. As you can probably guess, the same thing happens in the workplace with my wife. I report the results of my hard work and working day and night, but experts object? That must be an expert who doesn't understand me. After sitting down and reflecting, it seems that what the experts said makes sense, but I have a loophole. If I think about it further, when others ask me questions, I react quickly and answer quickly. After I calm down, I realize that I answered wrongly. I have made both positive and negative mistakes. The famous saying of the famous teacher Zhuge is not only made by the emperor, but also by common people like us.

"It is not advisable to belittle oneself, to use metaphors that are unjust, and to block the road of loyalty and admonishment." This should be the case when we give opinions to others and when we give opinions to others.