At ordinary times, we often hear the feeling that "it is difficult to be a man, but it is difficult to be a man", and we can often feel the understanding of "being a man first, then doing things". It can be seen that being a man is not a small problem, but a big problem, which is a compulsory course for everyone's life.
when people come to life, there are nothing more than two things: one is to be a man and the other is to do things. There are no certain rules and standards for being a man, but there are certain general rules, skills and rules. Here can only say some small truths, big tips.
1. Be an aspiring person
Mao Zedong said, "If you are confident in your life for 2 years, you will hit the water for 3, miles."
Napoleon also said, "A soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier."
These famous sayings tell us that a man should have faith and confidence. Faith is the beacon that leads us to success, and self-confidence is the driving force to reach the peak of life. A bright future comes from self-improvement, self-reliance and self-confidence. You won't stop until you reach your goal, and you won't relax. It is often not others but yourself who beat you. Don't regard a failure as the final judgment of life. Escape is cowardly, avoidance is negative, and retreat is even more incompetent. The road to success depends on your own efforts. People are confused and have difficulties in doing things. There is no smooth sailing in the world, only unyielding confidence and perseverance. Men make their own decisions, are not afraid of failure and never give up.
when you succeed, don't get drunk. When you fail, don't lose heart and worry about others. Facing the hurdle of "mountains are heavy and water is heavy", you can only go forward bravely, persevere and overcome all difficulties with confidence. If you want to achieve something, you must be willing to do great things, take on difficult things, set an ambition and set a goal, so that life can have a direction to go. Where the heart is, the road is there. With ambition, you have the ability, boldness and courage to be a man. Therefore, being a man needs to ask where your ambition is and whether you have confidence.
Second, be a kind person
"beginning of life, nature is good". Kindness is the warmest, most beautiful and most touching ray of human brilliance. Not everyone is successful in life, not everyone can be a hero, but they must be kind and kind. Kindness is the way to harmony and beauty. Only when you are full of compassion and kindness can you touch and warm the world. Without kindness, there can be no inner peace, and there can be no world peace and beauty. Love is a basic kind emotion. When we meet a beggar, we will give him some money. When we meet an old, weak, sick and pregnant woman, we will give up our seats on our own initiative. When we meet a lost child, we will send him home and give him directions. A smile, a simple action and a heartfelt greeting are not difficult for us to do, but they may help others out of trouble. All people and everything are connected. When you give to others, you really benefit yourself. When you hurt another life, you are actually hurting yourself. The so-called kindness is nothing more than having a great love and compassion, not hurting people, not saying anything, not deceiving people. With kindness, there is the basis and possibility of loving parents, others and nature. A kind person, like a bright lamp, not only illuminates the people around him, but also warms himself. Kindness does not need indoctrination and coercion, but only infects and spreads each other. Therefore, being a man does not have to be indomitable and vigorous, but must be kind and sincere. Therefore, being a man has to ask if you want to be kind.
Third, be an educated person
China is a nation that pays great attention to self-cultivation and morality. For 5, years, no matter how the world changes, diligence, loyalty, humility and filial piety are eternal virtues, and many ancient sages regard them as family heirlooms. The success of small business depends on opportunities, the success of middle business depends on ability, and the success of big business depends entirely on character and ethics. Most successful people are often people with noble virtues. The so-called education means that we should know the depth, respect and inferiority, know the height, know the weight, and should be disciplined and moral. Educated people often use virtue instead of skill, often use Tao instead of seeking, and often use courtesy instead of power. Educated people are detached from nature when they are alone, and will take care of their own hearts. When they get along with others, they will think of others, be kind to others, be indifferent and calm, and take care of their own mouths. Fiona Fang's life, tact, quiet and far-reaching, self-reflection, then everything is at ease and satisfactory. Therefore, to be a man, you have to ask yourself if you are educated.
Fourth, be an optimistic person
People don't come to the world for distress, so they can't keep a straight face and be sad, distressed and frustrated all day long. This kind of life has no fun. There is no absolutely happy person in the world, only a heart that refuses to be happy. The world is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. You cry to it, and it cries to you; If you are calm, it will give you a calm; You are aggressive, and it gives you a cold look. Happy to listen to praise, don't like criticism from others, want fame and fortune, and don't want to lose them. This mentality will only imprison yourself like a chain. Only by surpassing them can we experience freedom and happiness. If you have a happy heart, you will see a world worthy of joy, and your heart is full of sorrow, but you will only see a world full of sorrow. Instead of worrying about what you can't get, you might as well be grateful for what you already have. Happiness is not sought outside the heart, but can only be found in the heart. If you are satisfied with happiness in your heart, you can be at ease even if you are in prison. Be kind, be a good person, be filled with joy, be cheerful and be optimistic, so that you can stand as a monument and walk out of a beautiful scenery. Life is short, so it is better to learn to "be silent" than to be tense about everything. Therefore, you have to ask yourself if you are optimistic.
5. Be a tolerant person
All rivers run into the sea, relying on a tolerant heart. You should not be too narrow-minded in doing things. The ruler is short, the inch is long, the gold is not full of red, and no one is perfect. Appreciating the advantages of others and tolerating the shortcomings of others depends on the heart of loving others and tolerance. Angry for your enemy, you can only burn yourself. If you can't bear to breathe, you will be angry with each other, and if you can't bear the complacency of others' vernal equinox, you will be jealous and framed. Such a life can only be dim and the road will get narrower and narrower. The right and wrong, good and evil, joy in the world, the quality of the world, hot and cold, honor and favor, we must relax our belly and accept it frankly, and the road will be wider and wider. Tolerance is not the oppression of cowardice and retreat, but a kind of great wisdom and courage to bear the burden of humiliation. It is the ability to know the truth, dare to take responsibility, and understand how to resolve and accommodate. Thinking of others paves the way for yourself. Tolerance is not connivance. We should be sensible and emotional, and consider others' self-esteem and tolerance. Being kind to others means being kind to yourself. No matter how your life is hurt, you don't have to be angry, bitter and bitter. Learn to forget. Forgetting is the best protection for yourself. Learn to be grateful. Thank you for the opportunity that life gives you to hone yourself. Your heart is full of sunshine, and life is naturally full of splendor. Therefore, being a man should ask yourself whether you are tolerant or not.
6. Be a real person
A man who is down-to-earth and does things, with his hands in his pockets, will never climb the ladder of success. If you work harder, you will have more chances to succeed. You should reward hard work, don't just pay lip service, don't be lazy, be diligent, everything comes to him who waits, do your best and do your duty, and you can achieve great things. Those who never win rarely fail, and those who never climb rarely fall down. If you want to know the taste of success, you have to be bold and dare to do it, talk less and do more, make decisions and keep going, and fail to do it, which will inevitably delay the opportunity. If you don't want to do small things, you can't do big things. You are too light and afraid of heavy work, and it is difficult to achieve a career. Only by sweeping a house can we sweep the world. We should start from ourselves, from now on, from trivial matters, and from little details. Being honest, telling the truth and doing honest things are long-term and fundamental. Therefore, to be a man, we must ask ourselves whether it is true.
7. Be a wise person
Being knowledgeable does not mean being wise. No matter how much knowledge is accumulated, knowledge will lose its value if it is not applied. Knowledge is static. With knowledge, people should also know how to correctly apply what they have learned in practice. Without wisdom, it is at best a book that records knowledge. Wisdom is the intelligence of the mind, a kind of insight and judgment. Have the courage to change the things that can be changed, have the mind to accept the things that can't be changed, but have the wisdom to distinguish when it can be changed and when it can't be changed, and know when to "act" and when not to act. Knowing what you are doing, knowing what you love to do and knowing what you can do is wisdom. Only direction, without wisdom, direction itself is meaningless. Wisdom is sometimes a kind of balance and compromise. It is wisdom to reject extremes with moderation, analyze situations with reason, exert influence with pragmatism, control choices with calmness, correct attitudes consciously, accumulate experience with study and give up burdens with courage. For the weak, we don't care enough, we need help; It is not enough to be fair to subordinates, but to be kind; It is not enough to forgive others' mistakes, but to forget them; It is not enough to dream about your future, but to act. Wisdom can only be born from emptiness, wisdom from learning, wisdom from mind, and wisdom from things. Everyone has something to respect and learn. Compassionate people teach compassion, while savage people teach humiliation. If a person lacks wisdom and is unwilling to sweat, then there is no success. Therefore, being a man depends on whether you have wisdom.
8. Be an upright person
Being upright, doing things with integrity, being upright and being upright, and being upright in your father-in-law are the foundation of your life and your life. People are not afraid of slanting shadows, feet are not afraid of slanting shoes, and their bodies are secure and their dreams are stable. If you have good conduct, you will be emboldened to be a man, and you will be hard-pressed to do things. Your heart is selfless and broad-minded. If you are open-minded and aboveboard, you will win the trust and respect of others. If you are not upright, how can you be upright? Honest people are not selfish, greedy for profits, whitewashing, cheating, flattery, flattery, duplicity, equality and impartiality. What you say is well-founded. You say one thing, you say two things, you say what you have to say, you do what you have to do, you are telling the truth, and you are doing business. Ill-intentioned, mystifying, duplicitous, calculating, playing tricks, face to face, being followed by a set, talking about gentlemen on the stage, doing small things under the stage, talking about upholding justice and upholding justice. Therefore, to be a man, we must walk straight, do right and do right, and we must ask ourselves whether we are upright and fair.
9. Be a cautious person
Wisdom lies in governing the big, prudence lies in being afraid of the small, and one thoughtful action is better than a hundred hasty actions, and the dike collapses from the ant nest, but the subtlety can be careless. Courtesy is the first virtue, and prudence is the foundation. Caution is the basis of "not being confused". A cautious person must be sober-minded, and he must not be confused in the face of big and big issues. In this world, there are words that bring disaster and behaviors that bring shame. If you want to make contributions, of course, you should be extra cautious. Be a low-key person, do things with an open mind, think carefully and act diligently. If you think ahead, you will be safe near. When you are in prosperity, you are complacent, and when you are frustrated, you will complain and complain, and it will be difficult to become an atmosphere. "Always walk by the river, just don't wet your shoes" depends on your skill and concentration. When you lower your head, you should also learn to look up at the sky. Sit tight and watch silently, quiet inside. If you are modest and prudent, things will be easy. Caution is still the best way to stay away from danger and ensure safety. Caution is more successful than recklessness. Only caution can be a shoo-in, so be sure to ask if you are cautious.
the above nine items are not perfect. People are not sages and perfect, how can they be flawless, how can they have no regrets, and if they want to cover everything, they can do everything, which has never happened since ancient times. But there are only unexpected things in the world, and nothing is impossible. Who am I? How do I behave? What can I do? How did I do? Where am I going? In the vast journey of life, we must always ask ourselves, exhort ourselves, light up a heart lamp for ourselves and sharpen ourselves, so as to do a good job of people and things. Do you think so?