1. Parents' love for their children is far-reaching.

author: Liu Xiang.

from: The Warring States Policy? Touching the dragon and talking about Empress Zhao

Interpretation: The greatest love in the world is the kind of love that parents love their children. How do parents love their children? They have considered their children's future for the long term.

2. If children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with money? Being virtuous and having more money will damage his ambition. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you leave money for? Foolish and rich, beneficial increase its excesses.

author: Lin zexu.

dynasty: Qing dynasty.

from: couplets by Lin Zexu, a politician in Qing Dynasty.

Interpretation: If future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave money for him? He is already very wise and clever. I left him money and property, but it hurt his will to struggle. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me, so leaving money to him will make him relax and hate work, and live on empty land. The more money he keeps, the more he runs amok and increases his mistakes.

3. Heroes have suffered a lot since ancient times, and they have never been too handsome.

author: Wang baochi.

dynasty: modern.

from: Seven Laws to Encourage Learning.

Interpretation: Since ancient times, all heroes who have achieved great things have experienced many hardships, but few children of wealthy families can achieve great things.

4. Although you love it every day, it is actually harmful. Although I am worried about it, I actually hate it.

author: Liu Zongyuan.

dynasty: Tang dynasty.

from: Biography of Planting Camels.

Interpretation: Although I love it, it actually hurts it. Although I worry about it, it actually hates it.

5. A lonely calf touches its breast, while a proud child scolds its mother.

by Fan Ye.

dynasty: southern song dynasty.

from: Biography of Qiu Lan in the Later Han Dynasty.

Definition: The calf will touch the cow's breast when it is suckled, and the arrogant son will scold his mother. It is a metaphor that spoiled children are prone to disobedience and unfilial. 2. Famous sayings and aphorisms about doting

Parents' beloved son is far-reaching.

Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and the family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold and courageous for the country's great plans, but you should never seek wealth for your children and grandchildren.

Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "If children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with money?" Being virtuous and having more money will damage his ambition. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you leave money for? Foolish and rich, beneficial to increase it. " It means that if future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave him money for? He is already very wise and clever. I left him money and property, which actually damaged his will to struggle. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me, so leaving money to him will make him relax and hate work, and live on empty land. The more money he keeps, the more he runs amok and increases his mistakes. 3. About doting words, famous sayings and examples

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is the traditional parenting method of China people, because the children cultivated by doting on children lack independent personality and conform to the way of thinking of China people.

since ancient times, there has been a saying that "a loving mother defeats her child". The so-called "loving mother" refers to an excessive maternal love, that is, doting. Literally, the word "drowning" is both excessive and drowning. Too much love for children is equivalent to drowning them. The ancients said: "Although you love it, it is actually harmful; Although I love it, I actually hate it. " This is the best annotation to the word "spoil". There is a saying in Han Feizi: People don't love their parents, but they all see love and may not be cured. This means that the affection between people is nothing like that of parents who love their children. But only love can not necessarily educate a good child.

There is a well-known example of parents doting on their children. It is said that in ancient China, a young boy who was spoiled by his mother asked for another sip of his mother's milk before his execution. His mother unbuttoned his skirt and fed him. The boy bit off his mother's nipple in one bite. The boy bit off his mother's nipple because he hated his mother's doting and pampering.

Coincidentally, in the famous Aesop fable, there is such a story about parents doting on their children. A juvenile thief was caught red-handed, tied his hands and taken to the executioner. The loving mother followed, beating her chest and wailing. The son turned around and said that he would say something to her. Mother approached, only to be bitten off by her son. The mother scolded her son for being unfilial. It was not enough to commit a crime, and she bit off her ear. The juvenile delinquent said, "If you hit me when I stole my classmate's clipboard for the first time and brought it to you, why should I be taken to death with growing courage?"

There is a fable in the book "An Overview of Ancient and Modern Tanjue". In order to avoid disaster, kingfishers began to build their nests high in trees. After hatching the bird, it loved it very much, for fear that the bird would fall from its high nest and die, so it moved the nest down. When the little kingfisher grows feathers, it is very beautiful, and it loves it even more. It is more afraid that the little kingfisher will fall, and once again moves the bird's nest down to a branch close to the ground. In this way, the kingfisher was relieved, but when pedestrians passing by the tree found the little kingfisher, they raised their hands and took it away.

Balzac wrote another story. The flour merchant Gao Laotou spoiled his daughter very much. He married most of his property and let her live a luxurious life as a lady when she squeezed into the business. In order to make his daughters happy, he paid off the debt for his daughter's lover and helped her commit adultery. However, the married daughters, after squeezing their father's last pension, mercilessly abandoned him like a squeezed lemon.

Rousseau, a French educator, said, "Do you know what methods can definitely make your children unhappy? This method is to be obedient to him. " It's just doting. 4. Poems about doting

1 When you think someone can't fade away, you just think that this person happens to be this person, and that's all.

-Han Han's Chang An Luan

Only your future can squander my present; Only my favorite gives me the most fatal injury.

-doting by Zheng Jun

3 I only have your moonlight

I want to regard it as the sun

doting

4 When you think someone can't fade away, you just think, this person happens to be this person, that's all.

-Chang An Luan by Han Han

5 He is my addiction, and I will never give it up

-Chen Xi (role)

6 "Parents' beloved son is far-reaching."

7 Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems for friends: "The national plan has pushed the courage to promise, and the family fortune has been made.

8 Qing Ping Le Cun Ju by Xin Qiji, a poet in the Song Dynasty

The eaves of the grass are low and the grass is green on the stream. The Wu place that is drunk is drunk, sounds gentle and beautiful, whose home is the old man with white hair?

Big son hoes the east of Douxi, while Middle son is weaving a chicken coop; The most favorite is the youngest son, he is lying in the grass in the grass, stripping the freshly picked lotus. 5. A famous sentence on the harm of doting

Talking about the harm of doting

Once upon a time, the unheard-of education methods such as hardship summer camp and hardship education appeared in our lives, which actually made children suffer hardships and make up the lesson of hardship. Once anything needs extra subsidies, it shows a situation: there are too few in life.

From the only child to the resulting doting; From doting, to the resulting harm. We have heard too much about this, and many parents have gradually paid attention to it, so "hardship education" has emerged.

What I want to ask is: How effective is this "surprise" education method? During the "hardship education", we saw that the children were able to endure hardships from the beginning, and they were at a loss from the beginning to overcome difficulties. However, we also saw that parents had even greater "love" after the hardship education: the children suffered hardships and should be comforted, so the children were treated like "little emperors"; Children should be rewarded for overcoming difficulties, so they get more pocket money. Life has returned to the past, and this "hardship education" may leave only a diary or a few photos.

I also want to ask: If you don't give your children a lot of extra "love" in normal times, what's the point of participating in such educational activities? After all, activity is an activity, which cannot replace life. The charm of life lies in its unpredictability. How can a "hardship education" that already knows the result be compared with the "endless road" difficulties in life?

For a child, when he was young, he might feel that his parents were very kind to him, but when he grew up and had his own independent thoughts, he would feel that his parents were very kind to him, but when he grew up and had completely independent thoughts, he would feel that his parents' interference was a kind of imprisonment for him, and he wanted to break through this imprisonment, so contradictions inevitably arose.

From this point of view, doting is the most harmful in two stages: one is the formation of children's character, and the other is the period when children gradually become independent. The former, in particular, has an impact on a child's life. The most fundamental and only way to change this situation is to change the way of life, form a strong character in a subtle way, and let the children face the small difficulties and setbacks in life and solve them themselves, so that they can better face the big difficulties after stepping into society. Otherwise, it is easy to be overwhelmed by difficulties. As an old saying goes, parents are good for their children and always devote all their love to them. However, this kind of love should be based on the benefit of their children's growth, and "love" must not become "doting" and must not be replaced by parents. Otherwise, not only will children be unbearable, but they will also be at a loss when facing the society independently. Can not adapt to the competitive social environment, be eliminated by society.

Finally, to paraphrase Hegel, if you shut the door on all difficulties, you will shut the door on success. 6. I want to use the doting famous saying

"Parents love their children, but they plan far-reaching."

Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems as a gift to his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold and courageous for the country's great plans, but you should never seek wealth for your children and grandchildren.

Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "If children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with money?" Being virtuous and having more money will damage his ambition. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you leave money for? Foolish and rich, beneficial to increase it. " It means that if future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave him money for? He is already very wise and clever. I left him money and property, which actually damaged his will to struggle. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me, so leaving money to him will make him relax and hate work, and live on empty land. The more money he keeps, the more he runs amok and increases his mistakes.

a spoiled child is unfilial, and a fertile field harvests shriveled rice. 7. Famous sayings about doting on children

"Parents' love for their children is far-reaching."

Luo Yin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote two poems as a gift to his friends: "The national plan has been encouraged, and family wealth is not for future generations." What he advocates is that you should be bold and courageous for the country's great plans, but you should never seek wealth for your children and grandchildren.

Lin Zexu wrote a couplet: "If children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with money?" Being virtuous and having more money will damage his ambition. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you leave money for? Foolish and rich, beneficial to increase it. "

It means that if future generations are as honest as I am, what should I leave money for him? He is already very wise and intelligent, but my leaving money and property to him will hurt his will to struggle. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me, so leaving money to him will make him relax and hate work, and live on empty land.

the more money he keeps, the more he misbehaves, and the more he makes mistakes. Parents who dote on their children should remember that everything is done for their children, and they don't want their children to do anything, which is harmful to them. Children usually don't need to be pampered, but they should be responsible, and the result of excessive doting and pampering is insulting. 8. Don't spoil your child's famous saying

1. Spoil pleasure and brew bitter fruit; Diligence and simplicity make talents. -"aphorism couplet"

2. If children and grandchildren are like me, what should they do with money? Being virtuous and having more money will damage his ambition. Children and grandchildren are not as good as me. What do you leave money for? Foolish and rich, beneficial increase its excesses. -Lin Zexu

Translation: If children and grandchildren are like me, then what should I do with their money? Being talented and having more money will only harm their aspirations. If children and grandchildren are not as good as me, what should they do with their money? Being stupid and having more money can only increase their mistakes.

3. Overindulgence brings children's ruthlessness. -Lu Qin

4. The doter is unknown, and the greedy is insatiable-Zhu Xi

Translation: If you spoil a person too much, you will not see his shortcomings; If you are too greedy, your desires will never be satisfied.

5. Education begins with life. Before we realize that personality has been established, it is difficult for later teachings to move and change it. -Lise