Many people are looking for a sense of security and always want to pin their own affairs on others. This mentality makes many people become more and more mediocre day by day. As the saying goes: "If you rely on a mountain, you will fall, but if you rely on everyone, you will run." I always believe that people are safest only if they rely on themselves.

So, what should you rely on yourself? Zeng Guofan said: "We can only rely on two things: improving virtue and cultivating one's career. To advance in virtue, it means filial piety, brotherhood, benevolence and righteousness; to cultivate one's career, it means writing poems and essays." 1. Rely on "improving virtue", that is, character - character and talent It is the highest degree of education.

As the saying goes: "If you want to do something, you must first be a person." There are many famous aphorisms in our country’s traditional culture that emphasize personal morality, such as “If a child wants to do something, he must first be a saint”, “Have both ability and virtue, and virtue is the first priority”, “Virtue is like the source of water, and talent is like the waves of water.” The ancients emphasized that "morality" comes before "talent", which shows the importance of character.

The word "talent" means people come first. If you underestimate the self-cultivation and shaping of character, you will never become a talent even if you are very talented.

"Cai Gen Tan" says: "Virtue is the master of talent, and talent is the slave of virtue." It means: Morality is the master of talent, and talent is the slave of morality. If a person has good character and ability, he will definitely succeed; if a person has ability but has poor character, his ability may become a sharp sword that destroys his life.

Good character is the crown and glory of life. It is more powerful and more lasting than wealth and power. Because wealth and power can be lost in an instant, but good character can be retained for a lifetime. Character is the foundation and cornerstone of a person. All honors are obtained on the basis of character. If the character is not up to standard and the foundation is not well built, no matter how great achievements are achieved in the future, there will be a collapse. one day.

There is a saying that goes well: Start with appearance, be loyal to talent, and focus on character. Therefore, no matter what era it is, character must be the capital of mixed society. 2. Rely on "cultivation", that is, ability - ability is the foundation for settling down and establishing a life.

Ability has a wide range. Generally speaking, it is the sum of a person's knowledge, behavior, and performance. To be a capable person: First of all, you need to learn a wealth of knowledge. There is a saying that "knowledge is power." With strength, there is also the basis of ability. Secondly, you must have good behavioral habits, behave appropriately, and meet the requirements of the living environment. Third, we must be good at exploring unknown areas and absorbing and supplementing new knowledge and skills. Fourth, we must have the courage to practice. Ability is the requirement and expression of social activities. Without social practice activities, there will be no demand for ability. Therefore, learn more and practice more, and you will become a capable person.

In fact, everyone has their own talents, but some are "seen" and some are not. Being seen is the first step to becoming a talent; being recognized is the second step to becoming a talent. As for how to be recognized, the answer to a recent question on Zhihu is as follows: Only talents that have achieved achievements (such as making money or winning awards) and have practical skills are considered talents. As for those who only know "unprofitable skills", they will accomplish nothing.

Really capable people will not be afraid of difficulties and troubles. Instead, they will find more experience from these difficulties and troubles, making their abilities stronger and more perfect, making them more invincible. Likewise, you will gain respect from your opponents. Writer Yang Daxia said: A capable person can turn bad things into good things.

Character and ability, as long as these two items are passed, we can move to a higher level of life and have access to a higher-quality network of contacts. This is our greatest capital and reliance. Only when you have good character, the ability to settle down and live a life, and are strong, can you have a happy life.