How to be a man? How to be a man? Become what kind of person? This is an art as well as a science. Many people have never understood it.

Usually I often hear the feeling that it is difficult to be a man, and I often feel the understanding that "be a man first, then do things". It can be seen that being a man is not a small problem, but a big problem, which is a compulsory course for everyone's life.

There are two things in life: one is to be a man, and the other is to do things. Although there are no certain rules and standards for being a man, there are certain general rules and certain skills and rules. Here, I can only say some small truths and big tricks.

First, be an ambitious person.

Mao Zedong once said: "If you have confidence in your life for 200 years, you will hit the water for three thousand miles."

Napoleon once said, "Soldiers who don't want to be generals are not good soldiers."

These famous sayings tell us that people should have faith and confidence. Faith is the beacon that leads us to success, and self-confidence is the driving force to reach the peak of life. A bright future comes from self-improvement, self-reliance and self-confidence. If you don't stop until you reach your goal, you will insist that it is not others but yourself who beat you. Don't treat a failure as the last judgment of life. Escape is cowardly, and avoidance is negative. Retirement is even more incompetent. The road to success depends on your own efforts. You are confused in life and have difficulty in doing things. There is no plain sailing in the world, only unyielding confidence and perseverance. Men make their own decisions, are not afraid of failure and never give up.

Don't get drunk when you succeed. When you fail, don't lose heart and don't worry about others. In the face of "the mountains are heavy and the waters are heavy", you can only go forward bravely, persevere and overcome all difficulties with confidence. If you want to achieve something, you must be willing to do great things, undertake difficult things, set an ambition and set a goal, and life will have a direction to go. Where is your heart, your way is there.

Second, be a kind person.

At the beginning of life, human nature is good. Kindness is the warmest, most beautiful and most touching ray in the brilliance of human nature. Not everyone's life is successful, and not everyone can be a hero, but we must be kind and kind. Kindness is the road to harmony and beauty. Only when our hearts are full of sympathy and kindness can we touch and warm the world. Without kindness, there can be no inner peace, and there can be no peace and beauty in the world. Love is. We will give him some money. When we meet old, weak, sick or pregnant women, we will take the initiative to give up our seats. When we meet a lost child, we will send him home and show him the way. A smile, a simple action and a heartfelt greeting are not difficult for us to do, but they may help others out of trouble. Everyone and everything are connected. When you give to others, you really benefit yourself, but when you hurt others. The essence is to hurt yourself. The so-called kindness is nothing more than having a heart of great love and great compassion, not hurting others, not saying anything, and not deceiving others. With kindness, there is the basis and possibility of loving parents, others and nature. A kind person, like a bright lamp, not only illuminates the people around him, but also warms himself. Kindness does not need indoctrination and coercion, but only infects and spreads each other. So, be a man.

Third, be an educated person.

China is a nation that pays great attention to self-cultivation and morality. For five thousand years, no matter how things change, hard work, loyalty, humility and filial piety are eternal virtues, which many ancient sages regard as family heirlooms. The success of small enterprises depends on opportunities, the success of medium enterprises depends on ability, and the success of large enterprises depends entirely on character and integrity. Generally speaking, successful people are noble people. To know its importance, we should be disciplined and moral. Educated people often do not seek morality by art, often do not seek morality, and often seek courtesy by power. Educated people are detached from nature when they are alone, and they will take good care of their hearts. When they get along with others, they will think of others, be kind to others, be calm and keep their mouths shut. Fiona Fang is a man, doing good, quietly, far-reaching, reflecting on himself.

Fourth, be an optimistic person.

People don't come into this world for the sake of distress, so they can't keep a straight face, be sad, sad, distressed and depressed all day. There is no fun in this life. There is no absolute happiness in the world, only a heart that refuses happiness. The world is like a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile back at you. You cry to it, and it cries to you; If you are calm, it will give you peace; You are aggressive and give you a cold shoulder. You like to listen to praise, don't like other people's criticism, want fame and fortune, and don't want to lose it. This mentality will only imprison yourself like a chain. Only by surpassing them can you experience freedom and happiness. With a happy heart, you can see a world worthy of joy, a world full of sadness, and only a world full of sadness, instead of worrying that you won't get anything. It is better to be grateful for what you already have. Happiness can only be found in your heart. If you are content and happy inside, you can feel at ease even in prison. Be kind, be a good person, be happy, reflect your face and be optimistic, so that you can stand as a monument and walk out of a beautiful scenery. Life is too short to be nervous, so it is better to learn to be silent.

Fifth, be a tolerant person.

All rivers run into the sea, relying on a tolerant heart. Don't be too narrow-minded. Your feet are short, your inches are long, and your gold is not full of red. No one is perfect. You appreciate the advantages of others and tolerate their shortcomings. You rely on your love and tolerance. You are angry for your enemies, and you can only burn yourself. One more breath, and I can't stand it. The road will get narrower and narrower. People are happy, right and wrong, good and evil, the world is good or bad, hot or cold, and glorious. Only by relaxing your belly and accepting it frankly can the road get wider and wider. Tolerance is not the oppression of cowardice and retreat, but a kind of great wisdom and courage that can bear the burden of humiliation, recognize the reality, dare to take responsibility, and know how to resolve and accommodate. For others, it is paving the way for themselves. Tolerance is not connivance. It is based on reason and action. No matter how hurt your life is, you don't have to be angry, painful or bitter. Learn to forget. Forgetting is the best protection for yourself. Learn to be grateful. Thank life for giving you the opportunity to hone yourself. Your heart is full of sunshine, and life is naturally full of brilliance. So, you have to ask yourself if you are tolerant.

Sixth, be a real person.

Be a down-to-earth person, do things down-to-earth, and those who put their hands in their pockets will never climb the ladder of success. If you work harder, you will have more chances of success. Don't just talk but don't practice, don't be lazy, be diligent, do your best and do your duty, and you will achieve great things. Those who never win rarely fail, and those who never climb rarely fall behind. If you don't want to do small things, you can't do big things. You are afraid of doing heavy work and aim too high, so it is difficult to achieve something. Sweep a house before you can sweep the world. You should start from yourself, from now on, from small things, from small things. Be honest, tell the truth and do honest things. This is long-term.

Seven, be a wise man.

Knowledge does not mean wisdom. No matter how much knowledge is accumulated, knowledge will lose its value if it is not applied. Knowledge is static. With knowledge, people should also know how to apply the knowledge correctly in practice. Without wisdom, it is at best a book that records knowledge. Wisdom is the intelligence of the mind, a kind of insight and judgment. It has the courage to change what can be changed and the mind to accept what cannot be changed. Wisdom, on the other hand, can distinguish when it can be changed and when it cannot be changed, and know when to "do" and when not to "do". Knowing what you are doing, what you love to do and what you can do is wisdom. Only direction, no wisdom, no meaning. Wisdom is sometimes a trade-off and compromise, rejecting extremes with the doctrine of the mean, analyzing the situation rationally and being pragmatic. It is not enough to be fair to subordinates, but to be kind; It is not enough to forgive others' mistakes, forget them; For your future, it is not enough to dream, but also to act. Only when you are empty can you be wise, and only when you learn can you be wise. Everyone has something to respect and learn. Compassionate people teach you compassion, while savage people teach you humiliation. How can a person succeed if he lacks wisdom and is unwilling to sweat? Therefore, being a man depends on your wisdom.

Eight, be an upright person.

Be upright, do things honestly, be upright and be honest with your father-in-law. This is the foundation of your life, and it is also the foundation of your life. People are not afraid of oblique shadows and crooked feet, as long as they have a good attitude and a stable dream. Only with integrity can we be confident, selfless and broad-minded. If you have an open mind and an open mind, you will win the trust and respect of others. Honest people do not seek personal gain, whitewash peace, cheat, flatter others, curry favor with others, act in collusion with others, treat people equally and do things fairly. They speak with reason, say what they should say, do what they should do, tell the truth and do what they should do. Heart.

Nine, be a cautious person

Wisdom lies in governing the great, prudence lies in being afraid of the small, and the difference of one thought is better than a hundred hasty actions. The dike collapses in the ant nest, which is subtle but careless. Respect is the first virtue, and prudence is the basis of doing things. Caution is the basis of "not being confused" A prudent person must be clear-headed and not confused in the face of right and wrong. In life, there are words that bring disaster and behaviors that bring shame, so it must be established. Do it diligently. If you think ahead, you can avoid the danger nearby. If you are in prosperity, you will be complacent. It is difficult to become an atmosphere by complaining when you are frustrated. "Always walk by the river, just don't wet your shoes" depends on your skill and concentration. When you bow your head, you should also learn to look up at the sky. If you sit quietly, observe silently, be quiet and modest, it will be easy. Caution or staying away from danger.

The above nine items are not perfect. To err is human. How can we be flawless? If you think everything, you can do everything, which has never existed since ancient times. But there are only unexpected things in the world, and there is nothing impossible. Who am I? How should I behave? what can I do? How did I do? where am I going? In the boundless journey of life, we should always ask ourselves, encourage ourselves, light a heart lamp for ourselves, and sharpen ourselves in order to do well in people and things. Don't you think so?