文‖Zhu Ying

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There is a line in "Westward Journey 3": "Only when you have loved can you know the depth of love; only when you have been drunk can you know the depth of wine." ”, to sum up, only by experiencing the world can we understand.

There is a wonderful couplet in "A Dream of Red Mansions", which says, "Knowledge of worldly affairs is knowledge, and mastery of human feelings is knowledge." It means: once you understand the things in the world, there is knowledge everywhere, and if you understand the worldly feelings, you will have knowledge. There are articles everywhere. But whether you want to understand worldly affairs or develop human relationships, you need to participate.

In fact, the fifth chapter of "A Dream of Red Mansions" hinted at the fate of the twelve golden hairpins. In other words, the fifth chapter told the readers the final outcome of everyone, but the readers not only did not lose interest, On the contrary, the more I read, the more intriguing it becomes.

Because the ending is not important, what is important is the character’s joys, sorrows and joys, every bit of life, allowing people to see themselves more or less.

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From the perspective of this life, everyone will eventually die, so it is pessimistic on the whole, but is it because you know that you will leave one day? Did you survive? No, more of you and I understand that one day we will leave, and we strive to leave traces in this world during our living years.

This is a pessimistic and positive attitude. It is precisely because we understand that life is limited that we will cherish it more.

I remember that Fan Deng was talking about reading in an issue of "Strange Flower Conference". During the period, the instructor asked:

At that time, I thought Fan Deng's answer was very interesting. He said:

When I heard this sentence, two words "enlightenment" appeared in my mind. I think there is a difference in understanding between people. Bobany once said: "Suffering in life is not wealth. The appreciation of suffering is Reflection is the key. ”

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Often, the understanding of a thing or a truth can only be understood after you experience it personally.

When you first hear a truth that you agree with, you actually have a little bit of belief in it, because when a person encounters a point of view that is not in line with his or her own values, subconsciously You are a bit resistant, because he challenges your past behavior, and subconsciously you will protect him. Finally, there is a process of getting used to it.

Another truth is that when we hear it, we feel empathetic and understand it. In fact, to a large extent, it is because you think you understand it. When you really understand it one day, you will have a profound feeling that cannot be expressed in words. feeling.

The highest state of understanding is speechlessness. I think there is also compassion.

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When reading "Dream of Red Mansions", I always feel that it contains a kind of compassion. You will marvel at the author's amazing memory. It is impossible to write such a sense of words and pictures without profound life experience. If you live in that kind of wealthy scene every day, you will become accustomed to it and may overlook a lot. If one day everything you are accustomed to disappears, it will be very different when you recall it, because it will be lost. Have a deeper understanding.

Cao Xueqin seemed to have been in his teens when his home was confiscated. "Dream of Red Mansions" was written when he was poor in his later years. After experiencing the ups and downs of life, he developed a kind of compassion for the world, which is also rare for a writer. Without compassion, it is difficult to write works that touch people's hearts.

I have read three books of "A Dream of Red Mansions by Jiang Xun" in the past few days. I am reading the fourth book. I feel that "Dream of Red Mansions" has a healing power. Cao Xueqin wrote this memory in his later years, with a kind of confession. When readers read, they will be subtly infected by that power, resulting in power healing.

In this world, many things need to be experienced to understand. Just like drinking wine, you will understand that wine is intoxicating, and loving, you will understand that love is deep and there is no resentment.

There are also people in this world who have experienced the world and are still obsessed with it. They cannot get out of the cycle of nightmares. Maybe they are not injured enough, or maybe they are immersed in the identity of the victim and cannot bear it.