Where there are people, there are always quarrels.

For couples, no matter how good their relationship is and how harmonious their lives are, there will always be moments when they disagree with each other and always try their best to convince each other.

Whenever this happens, you can argue with each other, but if after a little argument, no one can convince anyone, then you should stop, don't keep reasoning with each other, and think about persuading each other.

between two people you like, sometimes, in something, your winning or losing is not important, but your feelings are more important.

Everyone should remember that the way for couples to get along is never to talk to the person they like.

to outdo each other, we will only lose both sides.

when there is a conflict between you, you will want the other party to listen to you, and the other party will want you to listen to him.

but if you don't want to listen to anyone for a long time and keep arguing like this, sometimes the problems between you will no longer be what you are arguing about, but become the problems that no one wants to accommodate.

If the other person doesn't want to yield to you, you will feel that he doesn't love you, but if you are willing to yield to the other person, he will feel that you don't care about him.

Once the problem has risen to this level, it was originally a trivial matter, and then it suddenly turned into a major event. You will feel very hurt and doubt your feelings, and so will the other party.

in the end, your hearts will become very uncomfortable, and this matter will even become a knot in one's heart, which will remain in your hearts for a long time, making you very unhappy.

if you win the truth, you will lose your feelings.

In Book 3, Yang Jiang once mentioned something about quarreling and reasoning.

On the ship going abroad, in a French pronunciation, Yang Jiang said that Qian Zhongshu's accent had a local accent, and Qian Zhongshu refused to accept it. The two men argued endlessly about it and said a lot of things that hurt each other.

Then Yang Jiang asked an English-speaking Frenchman in the same boat to arbitrate. The Frenchman said that Yang Jiang was right and Qian Zhongshu was wrong, but although Yang Jiang won, she was not happy, just bored.

Because in truth, although she won, emotionally, she didn't. Quarrel is like this. You think you will be happy if you win, but you won't. Even if you win, you will often lose your mood and feelings.

There is never a one-sided relationship in which one wins or loses, but only two people win and two people lose.

Family talks about love, not reason.

You always think that many things are right or wrong, but in fact, many times, in many things, it is really not black or white, right or wrong, especially at home.

at home, in front of the person you like, what you should say is never truth, but love, accommodation and love.

instead of always trying to win the other side, let the other side recognize you and let the other side admit defeat, you might as well just let the other side, accommodate the other side, pamper the other side and seek common ground while reserving differences.

When you can not argue too much and be reasonable, the atmosphere between you will really be much better, and your family will really be much more harmonious, so it will not always breed some unnecessary contradictions.

nothing is more important when two people get along with each other than kindness and love between them, without any barriers.

if you like someone, treat him well, don't always give him the cold shoulder, and don't always reason with him.

most of the time, the person you like is not unreasonable, but he cares more about your attitude towards him when there is a problem between you.

if you are willing to let him go, then he will believe that you love him and will love you even more.

But if you always want to suppress him and make him listen to you, he will become disgusted, which will greatly affect your feelings.

There is no real winning or losing in a relationship. Even if it seems that you lost, in fact, you have kept the friendship between you, and you have won too much.