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In "The Ordinary World", Sun Yuhou's family is a typical peasant family, and Yuhou is the most honest and kind old farmer in the village. .

His family was really poor, almost on the verge of collapse.

A family of six or seven people, young and old, are crowded into a cave dwelling. They don’t have the manpower or financial resources to build another cave dwelling—they can’t even afford the wood for the doors and windows. Shaoan had no choice but to live in the cave dwelling of the production team. Shaoping and Lanxiang stayed at the home of their classmate Jin Bo and Jin Xiu every time they went home. The family's life is barely enough. The eldest grandma is sick all over the body, but she can't afford medicine. She also often helps the poorer eldest daughter Lanhua and her family.

As Yuhou’s childhood friend, Tian Futang, like Sun Yuhou, worked for others when he was young and started from scratch. In the end, he relied on his hard background and true ability to become the most prestigious brigade secretary in the village. However, what made him particularly envious and unwilling was why were all the children in Sun Yuhou's family so outstanding?

Each of their children grew up slowly in this poor family. They always tried their best to contribute to their families, but they did not take any credit; in every difficult and difficult moment, they used their own different ways to way, taste the hardships brought by life, but never complain a word; sincerely care for the old and weak in the family, respect grandma, care for younger siblings and nephews, but never ask for anything in return for themselves.

Except for the eldest sister Lanhua, who has never been to school, starting from Shaoan, Shaoping and Lanxiang, the three children, regardless of gender, are all outstanding among their peers.

Shaoan passed the junior high school with excellent results at the age of 13, but in order to help his family, he gave up the opportunity to go to school and began to work in the mountains. At the age of 18, he was elected as the production team leader and became one of the most capable and fierce farmers well-known throughout the country. Later, with his keen mind and tenacity, he established the first brick-burning factory in the village despite suffering a lot of hardships.

Shaoping, full of self-esteem and stubbornness, wants to leave his hometown and create his own future. After experiencing the hardships of going out to find work, he honed the hardest skeleton and flesh, the most tenacious fighting spirit, and finally became an outstanding coal miner in Daya Bay.

Lan Xiang grew up under the care and care of her father and brother since she was a child. She also inherited the family's hard-working and enterprising qualities. She made rapid progress in her studies and became a top student in a national key university.

Shaoan won the love of Tian Futang's precious daughter Runye, but he couldn't bear to drag her down, so he turned around and married the hard-working and capable Xiulian; Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia were a pair of young lovers who were in love, and Tian Xiaoxia was a provincial girl. Lanxiang, the daughter of Party Secretary Tian Fujun and Tian Futang’s niece, finally met a boyfriend like the son of the deputy secretary of the Provincial Party Committee in college. Lanxiang didn’t feel unattainable at all. The two young people were spiritually matched partners. .

Each one is wonderful in its own way.

Why?

Because they all have the same father and the same family. There is love, responsibility, dedication and responsibility in this family.

Parents are their children’s first teachers, and the most prominent feature of family education is its enlightenment.

The family environment is the first school for children to grow up. The first environment for children to receive education is often the family, because the family is a primary group with the characteristics of face-to-face communication, so children receive education in the first environment. The influence of education is often authoritative and unforgettable, and the knowledge learned in the family is often the strongest.

The head of this poor family, Sun Yuhou, was an ordinary farmer at the bottom who could be seen everywhere in that era. He worked hard all his life, but lived in poverty with little food and clothing. He is honest, hard-working and loyal in dealing with others, but has a tough temper at critical moments. He enjoys good interpersonal relationships in the whole village and is respected by most of the simple villagers.

Sun Yuhou is poor not because he is more incompetent than people like Tian Futang, nor because he is not doing his job properly like his eldest son-in-law Wang Manyin, but because he cares too much about his relatives and has too many responsibilities. Too heavy.

He also had courage and pride when he was young. When he was 16 years old, he went out to work in Liulin, Shanxi, and made a fortune transporting porcelain to people. Instead of using the money to build a house and buy property, he immediately asked someone to send his younger brother Sun Yuting to school in Liulin. He tried his best and spent all his money, hoping to cultivate a character for the Sun family.

Later, Sun Yuting really went to Taiyuan Steel Plant to become a formal worker. What an honor it was in the countryside at that time. It's a pity that Sun Yuting is not a mature person. He ran home halfway, crying and asking for a wife from his mother. His brother Yuhou had no choice but to borrow a large amount of foreign debt to find a wife for him, and he also vacated his cave dwelling for Sun Yuting and his wife to live in.

In that era, farmers were firmly tied to the land and could only earn work points by working in the production team. All ways to make money were cut off by the bourgeoisie. Once foreign debt is borrowed, it means that the fragile family economic chain is broken, and there is almost no possibility of turning over.

Sun Yuhou, the eldest brother is like father. Because his father passed away when he was 16 years old and his younger brother was just five years old, he took on the responsibility of supporting the family by himself. Not only did he take care of his mother, he also always treated his son like an old father. Take care of Yuting.

Faced with such an incompetent younger brother, who spent countless money to cultivate and ultimately had no future, he didn't complain at all.

He took it for granted that their half-paralyzed old lady was under his sole care.

Even so, with the support and help of his eldest son Shaoan, he gritted his teeth and sent his two children Shaoping and Lanxiang to study.

His forbearance, kindness, and silent dedication to his family and loved ones without asking for anything in return are like a simple gold nugget, exuding the light of humanity. While winning the respect of the villagers, he also did a good job for his children. Set an example.

What is even more valuable is his silent foresight! His younger brother Yuting had already disappointed him once, but he still stubbornly put his hope for the prosperity of the family in knowledge. He may not have heard of the wise saying "knowledge changes destiny", but with his instinctive desire for knowledge and his deep love for children, he made the most correct and difficult choice of that era.

With such a father as the first teacher in life, can the children go astray?

For this poor family, he is the soil and the root in the soil. On this soil, he spent his whole life cultivating several good seedlings such as Sun Shaoan, Sun Shaoping and Sun Lanxiang.

In Yuhou’s family, poverty is by no means the main theme, love is.

His heartfelt love is like a huge source of energy, warming every relative in his family and passing on his love.

As long as the whole family has a bite of delicious food, they will give it to their elderly and sick grandma first. When Run Ye and Shaoping come back from the city, they always buy medicine and snacks for their grandma.

The children who had no money also tried their best to make grandma happy. I still remember that when Shaoping and Lanxiang were young, they would collect the dew on the grass blades every morning to treat their dear grandma’s eye pain. Once, Lan Xiang was holding the dew she had finally collected, but she accidentally fell down, spilled the dew, and cried sadly.

This heartwarming scene has touched many readers. The childlike innocence possessed by the children of the Yuhou family is as clear and clear as dew, simple and precious.

Sun Yuhou is a warm father.

Shaoan was criticized by Tian Futang at a commune meeting for dividing the pig feed land for each family in the production team. Shaoan felt depressed, and Yuhou was particularly worried about him, so he followed him quietly. He even cried distressedly when he saw Shaoan's pain.

Although he has no power or wealth, he has love in his heart and can show them how to be a kind and sincere person. When his children are happy, he is happier than them; when their children are in pain, he is more miserable than them.

"If you follow your teacher and believe in his teachings," Shaoan is simply a replica of his father. Kind and down-to-earth, he also has a strong sense of love and responsibility for his family and relatives, and has the noble qualities of self-sacrifice and dedication. The difference is that he seems to have a more challenging spirit than his father. However, in many matters, Shaoan's father is his inner support. If there is any major matter, if he does not discuss it with his father, Shaoan will feel unsure.

Yuhou is also a democratic father who respects his children's independent will and life choices. Shaoan opened a brick factory, and Shaoping went out to find jobs. Every decision he made was a risk at the time, and they were all very different from the happy-go-lucky thinking and approach of the farmers around him. However, with the heart of an old father full of love and tolerance, he truly understood their desires and supported them in the most direct and simple way. "Don't worry, I'm at home!"

His children, because they grew up in love, are naturally capable of receiving love and giving love to those around them. He always gets heartfelt recognition from the people around him, and he often attracts many like-minded and excellent partners around him.

Lanhua’s son-in-law Wang Manyin was criticized by the commune as an active enemy for reselling rat poison. As a family member, Yuhou was asked to work with Wang Manyin in a group of local laborers. Shaoan took the sick old cow in the team to see a doctor in another village and could not come back.

So, Shaoping, who was in high school, quickly took up the responsibility of the family, comforted his old grandmother, comforted his two little nephews, and arranged for his mother and sister who only knew how to cry to cook, prepare bedding, and provide food to the children. My brother-in-law went to the construction site to deliver meals.

Lanxiang, who is still in elementary school, silently feeds pigs and collects firewood.

When Yuhou returned from exhaustion, all kinds of logistical support work had been done in an orderly manner at home. This was a great comfort to him who was frustrated.

As the saying goes: "You are older when you are three years old, and you are older when you are seven years old." The environment in which a person grows up and his behavior in childhood have a huge impact on his character and behavior in adulthood. What kind of brothers and sisters you get along with during childhood, and how you communicate and interact with each other, basically determine your future personality.

Sun Yuhou has been poor for most of his life, and his wealth is his children. The excellence of Sun Shaoping, Sun Shaoan and Sun Lanxiang is directly related to their father and their family environment.

The children of Sun Yuhou’s family also have an important trait: no matter how difficult life is, no matter how much suffering they endure, they endure it silently, persevere tenaciously, and never give up on a better life. desire.

These are related to their own perseverance and inseparable character, and they are also inseparable from the support of their families.

In Shaoan, the expansion of brick-burning production failed, and other villagers took advantage of the situation to ask for wages. She also felt discouraged and had to avoid others even when she went out to farm. It was Xiulian who borrowed money from her parents' family to support him in his recovery.

As for Xiulian, Yuhou, the father-in-law, has always been loving and caring, knowing that the girl came to his home and suffered. Therefore, every time Shaoan and Xiulian quarreled over the separation of the family and the need to build a new kiln for themselves, Yuhou always stood firmly on Xiulian's side. He sympathizes with Xiulian's hardships for this family, understands Xiulian's deep love for Shaoan, and shares Xiulian's heartache for Shaoan who sacrificed himself and the happiness of the small family for the sake of this big family.

So, Xiulian also felt love in this home and reciprocated love without any regrets.

Everything is prosperous when the family is in harmony. It is not surprising that Shaoan has bounced back with the support of these two people who love him most.

Shaoping has gone through many hardships. The skin and flesh on the back were worn out by carrying stones for a job. When a coal miner was injured in an accident and his face was disfigured, the beloved girl Xiaoxia sacrificed her life to save a child who fell into the water...

These heavy blows would have been severe if it had been anyone else. , probably collapsed long ago. However, he refused the opportunity to return to the provincial capital to work and chose to stay in the mine, dedicating his warmth and love to the ordinary people around him.

His human kindness and open-mindedness have been fully demonstrated since he was in high school. Hou Yuying, who was always against him, fell into the water in heavy rain. He jumped into the water without hesitation to rescue her ashore. Hao Hongmei, who once betrayed him, stole a handkerchief from the supply and marketing cooperative because of her vanity and lack of money when she graduated, but was caught by Hou Xiuying's father and colleagues. He rushed to intercede and bought the handkerchief for her with his own money.

Isn’t this the seed sown by his family for him?

In fact, Shaoping is not content with the status quo and has always had a dream of traveling far away. Isn’t it inherited from his father? Sun Yuhou, who once shouldered the burden of supporting his family and went out to work at the age of 16, did not achieve greater results because he was born at the wrong time and because the burden on his shoulders was too heavy and fettered his feet.

There is one detail, I wonder if you have noticed it. Wang Manyin was put under dictatorship for selling rat poison. What made Sun Yuhou most angry was not that he "took the capitalist road" and even refused to participate in the criticism meeting. What he hated most was that his son-in-law did things without considering others:

Look, This is Sun Yuhou's style. Whenever something happens, he first thinks of his family, their feelings and situation.

He is too considerate of other people’s feelings, making him a warm-hearted parent. And it is precisely because he cares so much about other people's feelings that he has been making sacrifices and dedication to everyone throughout his life.

Why does a person need a family so much?

It is because it is a harbor for our body and mind, and it is also a support point for us not to give up on life easily. It is also the greatest satisfaction and happiness in our lives.

The success of Shaoan, Shaoping, and Lanxiang is due to personal struggle, and the role of family education cannot be eliminated.

In such a loving family, accepting love and reciprocating love has become the first and most important lesson in their lives.

In their later lives, they relied on this to become respected and strong men when things went well, and when they endured hardships, they also received a lot of sincere help. It is this help that makes them luckier and more protagonists.

These lucks are not the author’s preference, but fate’s preference for them.

In such a democratic family, they are respected and protected by their parents, brothers and sisters, and live on an equal footing with their family members. This is also a benign education model that can ensure that the body and mind are in a good and healthy state of development.

When you succeed, be grateful; when you fail, don’t blame others.

Shaoping has grown from a boy with low self-esteem who had to hide from everyone when eating, to a man who is neither humble nor arrogant, self-respecting and self-reliant. This is such a joyful thing.

Growth depends more on a person’s vision and mind, not necessarily money or power.

Shaoping’s growth is the process of a boy transforming into a man. This is also the most successful education for a family and a society.

“If you sow melons, you will reap melons; if you sow beans, you will reap beans.”

When children are the most curious and eager to learn, what their parents sow will be harvested a few years later. What. What kind of family environment you create for your children will determine the kind of person they will grow into.

Sun Yuhou’s success is enviable and even more admirable.