1, winner

Refers to people who are better than themselves. Get along with people who are better than you, you can learn from their strengths, and making friends with such people will also inspire you to make progress.

2. Those people with high moral character

Refers to a person of noble character. The people who live near Zhu Zhechi are black. Only when you are with people with high morality can you improve your self-moral cultivation, so as to improve your self-moral cultivation continuously.

3. Interesting people

Refers to a humorous person. Everyone's attitude towards life can be expressed in his conversation. Interesting people are optimistic about life and life, and will be full of positive energy after a long time.

4. Willing to bear the loss

Refers to people who don't care and are willing to suffer. As the saying goes, a loss is a blessing. Only those who know how to share losses deserve deep friendship. Such people are often kind-hearted and honest.

5. An outspoken person

Refers to people who dare to speak out. An outspoken person will also be outspoken when he sees the shortcomings of others, so that people can clearly understand themselves in front of interests and tell others frankly, so that they will not go astray.

6. People with a wide range of interests

An ambitious man. Ambitious people have broad horizons, and making friends with such people can also broaden their horizons.

7. Lidang 'e.

Refers to people who can give kindness when others are in trouble. When people are down and out, they don't leave them, but help them out. This is a true friend.

8. Physical person

Refers to a person who is always considerate of others. Be considerate, everything will always be considered from the perspective of others, and only those who think of others can pay.

Nine don't pay:

1, people with different aspirations

Refers to people with different aspirations. As the saying goes, different ways do not seek common cause, even if we don't want to come together, the final outcome will go our separate ways because of different ideas, and we may even turn against each other.

2. Flatterer

Refers to a person who likes flattery. Those who only flatter others, don't really help others, don't tell the truth, turn a blind eye to their own shortcomings, only support others and make them arrogant.

3. People whose grievances have been reversed

Refers to people who can't distinguish between grievances and grievances. Gratitude is the foundation of being a man. When a person has no distinction between right and wrong, there is no basic concept of right and wrong. This kind of person can't expect to get his reward, just like the story of the farmer and the snake. It's easy to get bitten back after helping him.

4. Those who use it

Refers to a person who takes advantage of small things. Such people are short-sighted, can only see immediate interests, selfish and never satisfied.

5, no temperament.

Refers to people who don't have their own opinions and styles. It is impossible for people who are indecisive and go with the flow to be together.

6, unfilial.

Refers to people who are unfilial to their parents and brothers. Parents and brothers are close relatives. If they are not filial and respectful, how can they respect others?

7. pedant

Refers to a pedantic person. This kind of thinking is pedantic, stubborn and inflexible to people. Such people live in their own world and never listen to other people's advice.

8. When people are depressed, they will fall down.

Refers to those who hit you when you are in trouble. There are ups and downs in a person's life. When one day encounters difficulties, such people will not help others, but will step on their own feet.

9. Those virtuous and thin people

Refers to a person with low moral character. When a person doesn't even have basic morality, then he will do whatever it takes to achieve his goal. In the eyes of such people, there are only interests and no friends.

Extended data

Zeng Guofan's Three Ways of Making Friends

1. Choosing friends is the most important thing in life.

Zeng Guofan believes that in life, we must use the strength of others to do our own thing. He is good at building his own network resources and knows how to manage interpersonal relationships.

Zeng Guofan said: Choosing friends is the first priority in life. The success or failure of life is related to the merits and demerits of friends, so don't be careless! Choosing friends is the most important thing in life.

The success or failure of a person's life is closely related to whether the friends he makes are outstanding in talent and good in character. Therefore, he will involuntarily choose his friends carefully. Zeng Guofan knew the importance of choosing friends, and always attached great importance to making friends, especially those with both ability and political integrity.

Zeng Guofan's good friends played an important role in his life and career. Among them, there are people who give him advice, people who appreciate him, people who promote him, and people who do their best in times of crisis, which set off his career from all angles. In terms of self-cultivation, there are Tang Jian, Woren and others; In the study of classics, there are Wu Zixu, Shao Huixi and others; In terms of artistic creation, what.

Everyone has stunts, which is worth learning from Zeng Guofan. These people also have a * * * feature, that is, they all have ambitions, and they are not willing to be mediocre and mediocre all their lives. Their enterprising spirit is a great encouragement to Zeng Guofan, and it is the key to Zeng Guofan's final emergence.

Zeng Guofan not only asked himself to stay away from incompetent and mediocre people, but also asked his younger brothers to do so. He once opposed his younger brothers going to Hengyang to study. The main reason is that there are too many friends there and the reading atmosphere is very bad.

He believes that most students studying in Hengyang are mediocre, have no lofty aspirations, have no motivation to learn, and like wandering. If his younger brothers are influenced by them, they will also become vulgar, so he resolutely opposes his younger brothers going to Hengyang to study.

Facts have proved that Zeng Guofan's point of view is correct. According to Zeng Guofan's suggestion, Ceng Guohua and Ceng Guoquan went to Changsha, the provincial capital, and made rapid progress with the help of Luo Zenan and other tutors.

2. Learn to save face.

Zeng Guofan said that if you give someone a face, they will give you two faces. If you hurt one point, you lose ten points. When dealing with people, you have to love face.

Zeng Guofan seems to be an unsmiling, calm and rigorous gentleman image in the eyes of modern people. In fact, this represents his mature personality. Zeng Guofan was talkative, pushy and sociable in his early years. He always talks too much every day, and he often argues with others. He also has the problem of "short-talking", often hurting others' face and offending others.

He himself knows that "sharp words are boring" and has made up his mind to reduce contact, but it is difficult to change. Whenever friends have arguments, Zeng Guofan often insists on his own opinions and argues, "just to overwhelm others and gain fame."

As the old saying goes, "Don't hit people in the face, expose people's shortcomings" and give them face. One is to avoid unnecessary troubles, and the other is to let others give you face in your later life, which will make many difficult relationships easier and make many difficult things smooth.

3. Don't take advantage of others.

Love takes advantage, which is the taboo of making friends. A person always likes to take advantage of others, and it will inevitably become notorious over time.

Yang Jisheng, a member of Amin dynasty, once wrote in his will to his son: "I would rather let others, not others;" I would rather be tolerant than be tolerant; I would rather suffer others' losses than let others suffer mine; It is better to be popular than to be angry with me. If people are kind to me, they will not forget; People who have enemies with me will be gone immediately. "This is not only a proverb, but also a bitter medicine, and it is also a thorough understanding of human nature by a dying old man.

Zeng Guofan also said that everything should not take advantage of others. I'd rather people use me than me. In his view, people who were kind to me in the past all had ulterior motives, ranging from hundreds to thousands, but they were all bait ears. If I become a governor or study politics in the future, ignore them. If I'm unfriendly, pay attention to them. Even if I still have ten, I can't satisfy their desires.

Zeng Guofan was in Beijing for eight years, and he never accepted others' kindness easily and refused to take advantage of others. It is based on this philosophy of "not taking advantage of others at all" that Zeng Guofan can be rigid without desire, refuse the temptation of interests everywhere, and finally become a generation of famous ministers.

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