I was born in 1990, the earliest post-90s and the latest post-80s, and I am 28 years old. People my age are basically married or in the process of getting married, or are forced by their parents to date each other. This is the best youth before the age of 30, and I missed this best time in my parents' eyes. After the age of 30, marriage seems to be far away.
But the situation of our married peers is quite different. Some people have finally left the poverty-stricken counties that have been poor for decades and become first-tier or quasi-first-and second-tier cities. Although I don't know how they live in first-and second-tier cities, what is their quality of life and how much pressure they have? ..... But I feel that they are at least colorful, and their lives are at least colorful.
Those peers who still live in poverty-stricken counties seem to have a good life. Both husband and wife are in the unit, buying a house and a car, and some are carrying some mortgages or car loans. It's nothing. There's basically no pressure. Parents can help take care of their children, and of course they should also spend their love on them. In fact, couples live a very relaxed life.
This is the current situation of our peers, but considering the future of our children, how big is the gap between our children living in different places? I can't imagine. I'm also considering whether I should go to a big city. what do you think? Thinking of this, I seem to fully understand and agree with those parents who desperately want to live in the city, for nothing but the next generation. It doesn't matter if parents work hard, but they must give their children the best and try their best to let them enjoy all the quality resources they should enjoy.
Please forgive me for saying something unbearable. Society is realistic, class solidification is getting more and more serious, and people are moving upward. The evolutionary history of society is that cities constantly gather and attract high-quality resources, and eventually all beautiful high-quality resources will gather in cities. This is a reality, an undeniable living reality. A simple example, why the national policy is always biased towards the grassroots, because the grassroots are too hard, the grassroots can't keep people, and the grassroots teachers are scarce. Therefore, the whole national policy is to maintain the fairness of resources as much as possible, so that cities and rural areas can enjoy equality as much as possible.
Living in a big city is really different from living in a small county! The level of educational resources is different, the environmental equipment of children's schools is different, and the contact and seeing are different; On weekends, children like different things. Children in the city enjoy all the activities, performances, concerts, reading parties and so on brought by the city, while children in small counties basically just play or make up lessons and keep learning, and nothing else. Only by studying can we be compared with urban children. However, there are some things that can't be learned in books, such as vision, thinking point of view, communication ability and so on. When you enter the society, enterprises and companies choose the same standard. It's not that children in small counties will give you preferential treatment, but children in big cities will be stricter, but those who are capable will be superior, and those who are mediocre will be inferior! ! !
Some things are in the process of children's growth, and some are brought about by the environment. Comparatively speaking, the atmosphere of big cities and small counties is different, and cities have competition, pressure and urgency; Small counties are more comfortable and stable. There is a famous saying that "man is the product of the environment". Otherwise, how can there be a famous story of Meng Mu's three moves? It can be seen that in the process of children's growth, parents' education is on the one hand, and every parent will give the best to their children, which is beyond doubt; On the other hand, it is determined by the quality of resources, including the impact of the environment.
To put it simply, children in big cities are indeed better than children in small counties in some aspects, not necessarily just in learning, but may be short-sighted. After three years of graduation, I have a deep understanding and feel the same way. After graduation, I go to find a job, work and communicate with people. Sometimes I am really depressed and powerless. Try to create better resources for children and don't let them lose at the starting line. To tell the truth, I hated the word starting line at first, but now I'm a parent, I've learned a lot, and I've reflected on my growth. Compared with my classmates living in the city, it's very important not to lose at the starting line. But don't be blind, the family economic environment is different, let children enjoy equal and high-quality resources as much as possible, and increase their viability.
It is not easy to grow up, nor is it easy to have children. May every child grow up beautifully.