Although I love him, I actually harm him.

Tang Liu Zongyuan's "The Biography of Planting Trees and Guo Lituo". The general meaning of these two sentences is: Although I say I love it (the newly cut tree), I am actually harming it. This is what tree planting expert Guo Latuo said when introducing his tree planting experience. He said that when planting a tree, you should be as careful as you care for your children. But after planting, don't care too much or worry too much. Look at it in the morning, kneel down and touch it, or even pick the bark with your hands to check whether it is alive or dead. Shake the roots of the tree with your hands to see how dense the soil is. It seems that you are caring for the new tree. In fact, it harms the seedlings. The last two sentences are now used to explain that children cannot be doted on or pampered, and they are very appropriate.

The orphaned calf touches the breast, and the arrogant son scolds his mother

The original meaning of Fan Ye's "Book of the Later Han·Qiu Lan Biography" of the Southern Song Dynasty is that the only son's pampering encourages arrogance, and his parents suffer from it. . It is later used as a metaphor for a helpless person asking for help from others.

Historian of the Southern Song Dynasty

Fan Ye

"Book of the Later Han Qiu Lan Biography" teaches children not to spoil them, and not to abandon them if they fall. Qing Dynasty scholar

Wang Yongbin’s favorite son is never arrogant, and the arrogant son is never invincible. Scholars of the Qing Dynasty

The people of Wu Chucai did not know the evil of their sons, but others only knew the greatness of their seedlings. "University"

"University" Doting on pleasure will lead to bitter fruits; hard work and simplicity will create talents.