Concerning marriage, Lin Yutang once had a very insightful metaphor: Marriage is food. Only when you have food can you be at ease.
Lin Yutang was the son of a pastor and his family was poor. Liao Cuifeng has been in love with Lin Yutang for a long time, but Liao's mother has objections. Liao Cuifeng said: "Poverty is nothing." These words reached Lin Yutang's ears, which moved him very much. On January 9, 1919, 25-year-old Lin Yutang married 24-year-old Liao Cuifeng. On the wedding day, Lin Yutang took the marriage certificate and said to his wife: "I burned it. The marriage certificate is only useful in divorce, and we will never need it." The candle lit the marriage certificate, and the red flames showed that Lin Yutang and his wife would grow old together. determination.
Lin Yutang is a master of marriage management. If Liao Cuifeng is angry, he will always remain silent. If there is a quarrel, his trick is "It is better to say less than to say more; if one person does not say anything, it is better." He once wrote an article to warn young people: "How to be a good husband? When your wife likes you, you like her; when your wife is angry, don't get angry with her." Ms. Liao most dislikes being called fat and likes to be praised most. A sharp, straight nose. Therefore, whenever his wife was unhappy, Lin Yutang would scratch her nose, which would make her laugh happily.
When Lin Yutang was very popular, the royalties could be very high. In terms of ethics, he is also absolutely pure. Lin Yutang said: "Feng, don't worry, I don't want to marry a talented woman. What I want is a good wife and mother, and you are it." Lin Yutang once said proudly: "I turned an old-fashioned marriage into a beautiful love." Lin Yutang has a famous saying: "Marriage is like a carved ship, it depends on how you appreciate it and how you control it." Lin Yutang came from a humble background and had a true temperament, and he gained the love of his life. Even with all kinds of external temptations, he can always keep the simplicity in his heart.
Lin Yutang is a person of temperament, but he carefully grasps the freedom, which more reflects the wisdom of controlling marriage. Freedom in marriage is enjoyed by everyone, but not everyone can enjoy it for life. The temperament in marriage is free, not floating, not illusory, and always exudes the true nature of people.
Marriage is a ship of harmonious temperament! When the man's temperament is high, the woman should not be angry; when the woman's temperament is intense, the man should be tactful. When you become strong, you become weak; when you become weak, you become stronger again. Only in tolerance and being tolerated can love be eternal.