Tolerance:

1. A story about Zhang Ying, a scholar of Wenhua Palace, which happened during the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty. An incident occurred in Tongcheng County, Anhui Province between the prime minister Zhang Ying and his neighbor. It is an anecdote that Ye Xiucai went to court to fight for the land boundary for the wall foundation. Because Zhang Ying's family wanted to build a house, the land boundary was close to Ye's family. Ye Xiucai asked the Zhang family to leave a middle road for easy access. However, the Zhang family pointed out that the land deed of their home stated "Zhi Ye Wall". There was nothing wrong with building a wall according to the land deed. Even if a road was to be left, both families should move back a few feet. At this time, Zhang Ying was an official in Beijing, and his son Zhang Tingyu (a famous official in the Yongzheng and Qianlong dynasties) also passed the Jinshi examination. When he was an official in the court, the old housekeeper took care of the specific affairs of his hometown. As the saying goes: "The prime minister's family has seven officials." This old housekeeper felt that he was the head of the prime minister's family. Moreover, building the wall in this way was justified. The opinions of a poor scholar in the Ye family were not worth heeding. So a new wall was built along the root of the Ye family wall. This Ye Xiucai had a stubborn temper. When he saw that the Zhang family had built a wall, he couldn't swallow his anger. The scholar was able to write on his own, and a petition was sent to the county government and a lawsuit was started.

A poor scholar filed a lawsuit against the prime minister of the dynasty, and the reasons were not very good. His relatives and friends were worried about Ye Xiucai, fearing that he would suffer losses, and persuaded him to withdraw the lawsuit as soon as possible, but Ye Xiucai refused to listen and insisted on The lawsuit continues. As soon as the Zhang family's housekeeper saw that the matter was getting serious, he quickly wrote a letter and reported the matter to Zhang Ying in Beijing. Soon, I received a reply from Zhang Ying. There were not many words in the letter, only four lines of poetry: "A piece of paper is only for the wall, so why not let it be three feet tall. The Great Wall is still there today, but Qin Shihuang is nowhere to be seen."

The housekeeper read this poem Shi, after understanding his master's intention, came to Ye's house and told Ye Xiucai that the Zhang family was going to demolish the wall tomorrow and step back three feet to make way. Ye Xiucai thought he was teasing him and didn't believe it was the truth at all. The housekeeper showed Zhang Ying's poem to Ye Xiucai. Ye Xiucai was very moved after reading this poem, and even said: "The prime minister is very generous, and Prime Minister Zhang is really very generous."

The next morning, the Zhang family started to tear down the wall and retreated. Three feet. Ye Xiucai was very excited when he saw it, so he demolished the wall of his house and stepped back three feet. As a result, an alley of about 100 meters long and six feet wide was formed between the Zhang and Ye families, which was called "Six Feet Alley". It is said that this place became a historical attraction in Tongcheng County and has been preserved ever since.

According to legend, there was an abbot in ancient times who was very virtuous. He was always kind, helped the poor, and made good friends, so he was deeply respected and loved by the people within a hundred miles.

It is said that one day, there was a girl in the village at the foot of the mountain who had an affair with her sweetheart and became pregnant. This was an immoral thing in ancient times. The girl's family was very angry. While blaming the girl, they asked who the man was. The girl did not dare to tell her boyfriend's identity. The real situation is that after repeated questioning by her family, the girl said it was the abbot against her will. So after the child was born, the family immediately sent the child to the abbot and scolded the abbot. But the abbot did not defend himself and accepted the child. Children.

The abbot's status in people's minds has plummeted, and his reputation as a "hypocrite" and "old pervert" has spread far and wide. Wherever he goes, people spit on him. The saddest thing is In order to prevent the child from going hungry, the old abbot had to drag his old body through the streets every day to find milk for the child. After a long time, the girl finally found her conscience, her family told the truth, and her boyfriend also came forward. He took responsibility and insisted on marrying the woman, so the family found the abbot, apologized to the abbot, and held an apology ceremony. When others asked why he had to take the blame when it was not his fault, the abbot Answer me If you don’t go to hell, who will go to hell.

From then on, the abbot became more respected, and after his death, people built monuments to commemorate him.

2. A respected elder, in the temple He found a chair next to the high wall, and he knew that someone used it to cross the wall to the outside of the temple. The elder moved the chair and waited here based on his feeling. At midnight, the young monk who was out climbed up the wall and jumped on the "chair". He felt that the "chair" was not as hard as before, but soft and even a little elastic. After landing, the little monk took a closer look and realized that the chair had turned into an elder. It turned out that he had jumped on the elder's body, and the latter used his spine to support him. The young monk left in panic. For some time after that, he waited in fear for the elder's fate. But the elder did not do this, and did not mention this matter of "God knows that the earth knows that you know that I know" at all.

The young monk gained inspiration from the elder's tolerance. He calmed down and never climbed over the wall. Through hard practice, he became a leader in the monastery. A few years later, he became an elder here. Coincidentally, a teacher noticed that a student often lowered his head and drew something during class. One day, he walked over and picked up the student's drawing and found that the character in the drawing was exactly himself with grinning teeth. The teacher didn't get angry, he just smiled naively and asked the students to refinish the painting after class to make it more similar. From then on, the student stopped drawing in class and did well in all subjects. Later, he became an accomplished cartoonist.

*Tolerance is the only test of civilization - Halps

*The art of wisdom is the art of knowing what to tolerate - William James

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1. The hundredth customer

The noon rush hour has passed, and the customers in the originally crowded snack bar have dispersed. Just when the boss was about to take a breath and read the newspaper, someone left Come in. It was an old woman and a little boy.

"How much does a bowl of beef soup and rice cost?" Grandma sat down, took out her purse, counted the money, and ordered a bowl of steaming rice and soup. Grandma pushed the bowl in front of her grandson. The little boy swallowed his saliva and looked at grandma and said:

"Grandma, have you really had lunch?" "Of course." Grandma held a piece of radish kimchi in her mouth. Chew slowly. In a blink of an eye, the little boy finished the bowl of rice.

When the boss saw this scene, he walked up to the two people and said, "Old lady, congratulations, you are so lucky today. You are our 100th customer, so it is free." One day more than a month ago, the little boy squatted opposite the snack bar and seemed to be counting something, which startled the boss who accidentally looked out the window.

It turned out that every time the little boy saw a customer coming into the store, he would put pebbles into the circle he drew. But lunch time was almost over, and there were not even fifty pebbles. arrive.

The anxious boss called all his old customers: "Are you busy? Nothing happens. I want you to come and have a bowl of soup and rice. I'll treat you today." After calling many people like this, the customers The starts come one after another. "Eighty-one, eighty-two, eighty-three?" The little boy counted faster and faster. When the ninety-ninth pebble was finally put into the circle?

At that moment, the little boy hurriedly took his grandma’s hand and entered the snack bar.

"Grandma, it's my turn to treat you this time." The little boy said proudly. The grandma who actually became the hundredth guest asked her grandson to serve him a bowl of hot beef soup and rice. The little boy took a piece of radish kimchi and chewed it in his mouth just like his grandma before.

"Give a bowl to that boy, too." The lady boss said unbearably.

"The little boy is now learning how to be full without eating!" the boss replied.

Snoring? The grandma who was eating with gusto asked her little grandson: "Would you like to leave some for you?"

Unexpectedly, the little boy patted his belly and said to his grandma: "No, I'm very full. Look, grandma."

2. Encounter on the street

She brought back a stranger's child from the brink of death

In the fourth lunar month of 1999, 5-year-old Xu Jun suffered from massive hemorrhage due to splenomegaly. After examination, the doctor asked for immediate surgery, otherwise the child's life would be in danger. But the family really couldn't afford the huge cost of surgery. Standing in the unaccompanied provincial capital, Cao Pingxiao and his wife knelt on the roadside... The family's experience attracted people's attention, but the money raised was only a drop in the bucket compared to the tens of thousands of yuan in surgical fees. Just when the family was in despair, a woman came to them...

The kind-hearted woman settled them down first, paid a 2,000 yuan hospitalization deposit, and then invited experts to perform surgery on the child. Comprehensive consultation. Until the operation was successfully completed, she had to bear the cost of nearly 40,000 yuan.

"She is the savior of our family!" Cao Pingxiao told reporters. After the child was discharged from the hospital, they decided to go home, and a kind person bought them tickets back to Weiyuan. Cao Pingxiao and his wife were filled with gratitude to this kind-hearted person they had never met before, but no matter how they asked, the kind-hearted person still refused to answer his name.

With infinite regret, Cao Pingxiao returned to his hometown.

Lending a helping hand again and again

She was also seriously ill and carried her love to the end

Although she underwent an operation, Xu Jun’s disease was not cured. . Due to the financial constraints of the family and the continued treatment of the child's illness, Cao Pingxiao sold all the valuable items in the family. Xu Jun's two sisters who were in junior high school had to drop out of school to reduce the family's expenses. However, even so, the family still Not much money was raised. In desperation, Cao Pingxiao came to Lanzhou again and found this kind-hearted woman.

After hearing the news that Cao Pingxiao asked his two daughters to drop out of school and stay home, a kind person said sadly: "Why didn't you come to me earlier?" After that, she took out several thousand yuan and stuffed it into Cao Pingxiao's hands. Here, "Give your child good medical treatment and come to me if you have any difficulties in the future. I won't ignore it!" After that, Cao Pingxiao helped her every time she brought her child to the provincial capital for hospitalization.

On June 3, 2007, Xu Jun vomited blood again. When he went to the hospital, he was diagnosed with bleeding gastric ulcer. Another surgery would cost at least 30,000 to 40,000 yuan. This time, Cao Pingxiao no longer wanted to cause trouble to others, and no longer wanted to worry about this kind person who didn't even want to name him.

The helpless Cao Pingxiao thought of ending his life, but after wandering by the Yellow River for a night, he finally gave up the idea of ??death, "My death will not solve the problem, my death will only Bringing greater pain to the family." Faced with the cruel reality, he dialed the familiar mobile phone number. After hearing his situation, the other party said, "Wait a moment, I'll be here soon..." When the kind-hearted person appeared in the ward, Cao Pingxiao, his wife, and Xu Jun were already in tears.

"This is already the 9th year since we met each other. Every time we have difficulties, she will appear by our side. How can there be such a kind-hearted person in the world!" At this point , the emotional Cao Pingxiao choked up and couldn't speak anymore.

"What happened next?" the reporter asked.

“This operation cost nearly 40,000 yuan. She treated it like her own child and tried every means to raise money. From Xu Jun’s hospitalization expenses, surgery expenses, medical expenses, etc., she successively It cost 40,000 yuan..." Cao Pingxiao said emotionally.

"I'm afraid you won't believe it if I tell you something!" Cao Pingxiao said. "I didn't know until Xu Jun was hospitalized recently that she also suffered from a serious illness two years ago and went to Beijing for an operation, which seemed to have cost more than 200,000 yuan. When I asked her, she said guiltily, 'I need to If I had the surgery, I could still spend more money on the child.' "We can't thank her enough. In the past 9 years, we have caused her so much trouble and spent so much money, and there is nothing we can repay." It's us who should be guilty, but she..." Cao Pingxiao, who was in tears, couldn't say any more.

*A kind heart is gold. -Shakespeare

*I would like to prove that anyone who behaves kindly and noblely will be able to withstand adversity accordingly. — Beethoven