Everyone understands the definition of "obedient" differently. Sometimes parents ask their children to do something out of a sense of control, but what they want to do is not necessarily what their children really need. For example, I read an article about American mothers educating their children, saying that when it's cold, mothers are afraid that their sons will be dressed because they are freezing, and their sons are having fun or not. What Chinese mothers do is to force their sons to put on clothes with beatings, scolding and threats, but when American mothers see that their sons don't want to wear clothes, they leave him alone. American mothers say that if their sons really don't feel cold, it's okay not to wear clothes. If they feel cold, they will take the initiative to ask them to put on clothes. Therefore, in this case, it is obviously an unnecessary behavior to hit the child like a Chinese mother.
Good parents raise their children by clever means. Generally, parents raise their children by reasoning and nagging. Only the worst parents often spank their children. Many times, parents spank their children because they are angry with themselves. Don't let their children feel their parents' incompetence in teaching their children, so they are angry and start work. In this regard, I recommend the article Parenting Classics of American Daughters-in-law. This is not to say that American parents must be more open-minded than China parents, but this article talks about many ingenious educational methods, including the above-mentioned son's dressing problem, and many problems that parents gnash their teeth and want to be beaten up, such as children being stingy, children not liking eating, and children always wearing clothes on the contrary. Let's see how the mother of a "child-rearing expert" can solve these problems.
For children's common faults and mistakes, we should give priority to means and reasoning. Only when children make serious mistakes in principle, do we use the means of "beating", such as children stealing things and children having moral problems. Such mistakes should be dealt with by more severe means. If parents never beat their children at ordinary times, they will pose extremely serious and disappointed at this time, supplemented by one or two hands, which will give them an unforgettable impression.
In the harem Empresses in the Palace, Qianlong Education seduced the elder brother of the harem concubines, that is, he gave him a heavy slap and said, "Two times, one time, hit the woman who dares to covet the son of heaven, one time, hit the woman who dares to covet the emperor Amar". Does this paragraph make people feel that Yong Zhengdi's godson is quite powerful?
Beating children for the purpose of education should be based on the principle of "restraint" and "strict responsibility", and you should never beat them to death with a stick like Jia Zheng in A Dream of Red Mansions. That is the vent of parents' rage, not educating children. If you are not careful, it may cause irreparable consequences. Don't do it!