There are many crossroads in life. How do you choose to meet them? If you choose the right one, you may prosper all your life; Wrong choice, mediocre life. How to face the choice of life? The following four life choices may help you guide the maze!
First, choose to live in a city.
Nobody can avoid choosing to work and live in a city or a place. What kind of city work is more favorable is a matter of opinion, and we can't generalize. How to choose? Many people choose according to superstitious methods, that is, the eight-character fortune-telling on everyone's birthday, to see what the five elements of "golden wood, fire, water and earth" lack, and then make a decision to choose to live and work in that city, but in different ways.
Some people choose big cities. Their reason is that big cities have a large labor market, great development space, but also great competition. Living and working in China may face great pressure, such as housing pressure, promotion pressure, and study and life pressure after children get married. Some people like small counties. They feel that small counties have their own popularity. Relatively speaking, they are less stressed than big cities, but the employment space is relatively small.
If you want to make a change and live or work in another city, all your past efforts may become zero. You have to start over and start from scratch, which will make you make great efforts. Remember: life is not for decades! Without more than ten years of hard work, it is difficult for you to make achievements in a unit or an industry.
Second, choose the industry.
"365 lines, each line will be the best" is an old saying, and it is a famous saying that people can't give up their jobs and every line can do well. However, in my opinion, this is also a wise saying that puzzles many people. Life is short. "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of entering the wrong line." Once you enter the depressed sunset industry, you may waste a lot of time. So I think it is extremely important to choose the right industry.
There are three principles in choosing an industry: first, whether this industry is a high-profit industry. The boss has no money to earn. How much can he give you? It's like trying to skin a tiger. The second is whether the industry is suitable for its own development. Choosing a profession is like choosing a marriage partner. Suitability is the most important thing A person is generally unlikely to run around in multiple industries all his life. It is ok to jump into an enterprise, but you should be cautious when jumping into an industry. Third, whether the talent competition in the industry is particularly fierce is worth pondering for you in the industry where the talent competition is too fierce. Of course, it depends on whether you have the ability to beat your industry rivals, otherwise, settle for the second best.
Life chooses work, hobbies belong to hobbies, interests belong to interests, and it is most important to face reality. Whether the industry can provide you with help and development in the future is also particularly critical. It's like our grandparents choosing a partner. They choose their spouses through the orders of their parents and the discretion of the media, and then cultivate their feelings. Many successful people didn't choose the industry according to their hobbies at first, but fell in love with it after they engaged in a certain industry.
Many people still engage in a certain industry because they want to make a living and survive, and then fall in love with this industry because of their sense of responsibility and mission. In short, the most important thing is: once the industry is selected, don't change it, persevere and stick to it!
Third, choose a unit.
It is also particularly important to choose the right industry and unit. This is especially true for young people who have just come out to work. My opinion is that you should first lay a good reputation and master the skills that a large unit should have. First of all, large units do things according to patterns, standards and processes, unlike small units that rely on their own understanding to guess and work on their own flexibility; Secondly, large units also have training, such as induction training, functional training, ability training, attitude training and so on; Third, working in a large unit, you can enjoy the cool with your back against a big tree. With your support and support, you will do things smoothly, and you will also build confidence in your career and fall in love with this industry.
Why do people who work in small businesses have a high turnover rate? It is because of the lack of security in small units that people lack confidence in their careers. Especially in industries with high industry concentration. Because industries with high concentration are generally big fish in eat small fish, working in a small unit is definitely not as good as working in a large unit.
Fourth, choose to follow the right person.
It's easy to choose an industry and a company, but it's really hard to find a person in life, who is lucky in three years, or the blessings learned in the last life. As the saying goes, "there are always swift horses, but Bole is not always there." You are a swift horse. Without Bole's appreciation, you are still an ordinary horse. You are a good piece of wood, but no one will carve it. A good piece of wood can't be a work of art.
Choosing the right person here has three meanings: first, is the person you want to follow an enlightened and talented person? Only those who value talents can you be cultivated and developed. The second is whether the person you want to follow has potential for development, which is equivalent to buying potential stocks. In most cases, only when he is promoted will you have a chance to follow him, otherwise you will follow him for nothing. The third is whether the person you follow is appreciated by the head of your unit or by your boss's boss.
Being with the right person has both opportunities and the cost of your own efforts, or you have to pay a certain price. This cost is the reason why the people you want to follow choose you, train you and promote you. This is a problem that you should study seriously.
Chapter 2: Let life be carefree.
Many times, we all envy each other. However, if you can really open the title page of everyone's heart, you will find that we are all helpless. The society is developing at a high speed, and our pace is accelerating unconsciously. Daily life has become in a hurry, and in the hurry, I have invisibly added a lot of pressure to myself. Being busy is a burden, although there are many wonderful enjoyment in being busy. Leisure is a ray of sunshine, a faint glow on the horizon, a bright color in the mountain stream and a leisurely flower in the backyard, which gives you a deeper understanding of busyness and a richer feeling of leisure. Some people say that life is helpless, but people can conquer nature and we can change it. Indeed, perhaps only by enriching life can we make up for some regrets and make ourselves happier and less troubled.
Feel peaceful and let yourself live more freely and leisurely. Find a quiet corner, hold a book, quietly enjoy your own comfort in your own space, keep a quiet dream of your own, let your mood settle down slowly, and let your thoughts calm down gradually. We can't change the weather, but we can change our mood. It is also good to accept the sunshine in life. Time flies by in a hurry, leaving helpless figures, but it can give us another comfort. Put aside the secular world, feel with your heart, treat all the troubles and setbacks in life with a normal heart, and do what you like leisurely. Life is short, don't regret it, don't be disappointed, have a good time. Living well is beautiful, and living badly is an experience. Life is not long, as long as you do your best and use your feelings, you don't have to regret it, let alone regret it.
People live in the world, who doesn't want their life to be like a song, and every day is full of joy and laughter; Flowers are full of spring? Life is like standing on a scale, with less balance and more imbalance. Who doesn't want their life to be meaningful, valuable, full of vitality, full of health and happiness? Who doesn't want his life to be full of passion, full of vigor, singing all the way and being proud of the spring breeze? Life is like a boat, and things are like the sea. Sail by yourself, choose the current and wind direction. However, the spirit, beauty and value of everything in life are different, but different. Just like all kinds of instruments in a symphony orchestra, none of them are the same, but what they play is mixed feelings and colorful. But after a lifetime of hard work, how many people can finally get what they want?
Life is like a stream, you can't live without it, and you can't escape from a submerged reef. Life is like a road, it looks long, but it is short at the end. Life is like blink of an eye. In our hurry, we often miss the beautiful scenery around us. When we looked back, it had already gone. Stop in a hurry, take a vacation for our hearts and enjoy the scenery in front of us. "Indifference to our ambitions makes us quiet and distant." When we are alone and quiet, we can see clearly the road we have traveled and know how to look forward to the future. Life is like a box of matches. It is foolish to forbid using it, but dangerous to abuse it. Life is like a book, both fools and wise men will read it, because it can only be read once. That's the way things are in the world. Many familiar people, if you don't take care of them, they will gradually disappear. Many familiar things fade if you don't remember them.
In a person's life, no one is proud of everything, everywhere scenery, indifferent, leisurely. Learn to cherish every day in order to have a regretless tomorrow. In the process of life, keep a normal mentality, be indifferent and simple, and you will be happy! Life is only once, more fragile than draft paper. Because life never allows us to erase it and start over, the only thing we can do is to cherish it, so wake up. Those post-90s, please slow down your pace, wait for your soul, and naturally accept the gifts given to us by life. Let your mind have a holiday, and you will definitely learn the style of live high. No matter how familiar the road is, you will feel strange if you don't go. This is life. Life is like a poem, with sweet romance and cruel reality.
Although life is short, it is richer. Wonderful needs to be created by yourself, and wonderful needs to be experienced by yourself. Of course, wonderful depends on people's mentality. Indifference gives a pale appearance, but it makes people have a full, calm and profound life. Life is like a song with high joy and low depression; Life is like climbing stairs. Tell yourself to work harder and keep improving. No matter the world you stop in; Or the sky of travel knowledge, youth has no horizon. Sometimes stop; Start from time to time; Sometimes familiar; Sometimes unfamiliar; These stops and stops are the best time given to us by brave youth. Life is like a big stage, with a prominent protagonist and an unknown supporting role. Although not everyone can be a leading actor, they can be their own leading role and interpret their own unique life.
There are not many glorious moments in life, and most of the time is spent in memories and expectations of such moments. Pascal said that man is just a reed, the most fragile thing in nature; But he is a thinking reed and all his dignity lies in thinking. It can be seen that thought is so important to everyone alive. It not only guides our direction, but also makes our hearts more natural and full! People will inevitably encounter some setbacks and even blows in their lives. Whenever they encounter setbacks and hesitations, as long as there is a bright light in their hearts and they are not afraid of road risks, they will hold their heads high, face difficulties with a smile and dare to break through difficulties. Out of the dark is bound to usher in the dawn. Life is short, but in this short life, you must endure a lot of time, and endure their slow flow, until the last event stone stirs up the waves of life.
Everyone is writing his own history, but this history lacks careful readers. No reader can read history. We have no time to read our own history. We only have time to write our own history. Even if I read and write, I read in a hurry and write very busy. People are always children, and no one will grow up. Some keep the child's heart, and some keep the child's brain. No one believes that he will die tomorrow, but the road of life has come to an end unconsciously. Like a dream, everything in the dream is absurd, and everything can be arbitrary. But too few people know that they are dreaming in a dream. Plain is an elegant life, plain is an elegant life, and plain is also a distant way of life. On the road of life, you won't be upset and drunk, so you can break through the confusion and gain insight into the world in the rolling world of materialism and reach the realm of "falling flowers are speechless, people are as light as chrysanthemums, and your heart is as light as chrysanthemums".
Article 3: Life is actually a gamble, and the key lies in what it is for.
Life is actually a gamble. Bet on your career, your future, that your dreams will eventually overcome the reality, that your reality will overwhelm the restlessness of your dreams, that your lover will eventually fall in love with you, and that time will make you forget your former lover. The point is, for what, you can be willing to gamble and lose.
Instead, I used this sentence as the beginning of my review of 20 articles. This time last year, I wrote a similar year-end summary, boasting: In the next 20 years, I will find someone I love, I will go to three different countries, and I will continue to write my own book. At the end of 20**, looking back on such a year, I experienced the Olympic Games, the end of the world, the publishing house storm and the shock of other countries, and finally I succeeded in achieving my desired goal. In fact, I have always been very lucky, and my mind has been flashing: thank you. I can't express my gratitude, and I don't need to say it. Those who want to know will understand.
At the beginning of the article, I want to ask a simple question: at such an embarrassing age, you have grown up by one year. Do you still believe your future will come? Can you believe it? Do you still believe after you have witnessed the vastness of the world and your helplessness?
I used to keep asking myself this question. Do I still believe it? If you don't believe it, why realize the so-called dream? If you believe it, why do you always hesitate? Later, I realized that life is not a bright road, but a process of constant revision. Those who tell you that they have known their dreams since childhood and have never doubted them are either gifted or talking nonsense. Most of us are constantly revising our ideas and constantly looking for our own paths. Sometimes we will be black and blue, and sometimes we will collapse, all because life is actually a gamble.
You are betting that your dreams can survive in your reality, and you are betting that your reality can overwhelm the restlessness of your dreams; You are betting that you can forget the person who gave you everything and then take it away. You are betting that the person you meet now is the only thrill, and you can spend the rest of your life with him. Some people know 10 days, and then they get married in a flash, which is very good. Some people have been together for ten years, and it is still very painful to be separated; Some people realized their dreams in this year, and the spring breeze was proud; Some people are unhappy and miserable everywhere this year. It doesn't matter. If you are willing to gamble your time for your dreams, then gamble. If you are willing to block your feelings for the person in front of you, take a gamble; As long as you can for your dream, you are willing to lose, as long as you can for him, you are willing to lose.
I wrote on Singles' Day this year: Maybe it will take you a lifetime to find someone who can wake her up at any time, without worrying about her anger, and can be with you silently, whether you are sad or happy, even if you don't talk. In other words, no matter what the world around you becomes, you won't care so much, because you see the most precious people. To everyone in your life, 1 1 ten thousand words of thanks.
In fact, even I am not sure whether I really met such a person, but I am still grateful for every encounter.
This year, I met many people. In April, I met a man who had a bloody story with me. At that time, none of us thought it would develop into what it is now. In front of her, my IQ will suddenly drop 100, I will be confused when walking, I will be tongue-tied, I can't even pronounce the word "idiot", and I will always be teased by her. I will often make her angry, knowing that she is in a bad mood, and I clearly want to be well in my heart. I will suddenly lose confidence, even if I am the most confident person when I publish a book or take an exam.
Think about my old life. I lived alone for four years. Cook when you are hungry, attend classes when you wake up, read books when you are bored, and earn extra money by writing columns and doing interviews in your spare time. I thought I could take care of myself, but I forgot that taking care of myself is completely different from taking care of others. Seemingly independent, in fact, I am isolated by myself, so it doesn't matter if I get lost in the city. I can slowly find my way home, so it doesn't matter if my mobile phone is out of power. I can go home to charge and I am not afraid of emergencies, so it doesn't matter if I stay up late every day to make my body the most tired.
Are you asking me if I miss these days? I'd say miss. But if you ask me if I want to continue living like this, I will definitely tell you: no, the reason is simple. All my loneliness before was a kind of practice. All my previous search was to take care of myself with my own ability before I get old; Next, I will take good care of my parents and the people I love, and don't let the people who love me worry about me.
Not worrying about others is the most reliable quality.
This year, I also made many good friends. My roommate is a good cook, and I learned a lot from him. He is also a workaholic, and it is common for him to work from 4 pm to 4 am the next day. One day, I went home at 3 am to recite the words of the exam, only to find that he was still working and didn't go home. There was only one girl in my department at the graduation ceremony, and her parents didn't come to China. If I ask her, won't I regret it She said it doesn't matter, she wants to lighten the burden at home. Another boy in the same department changed his girlfriend as fast as he changed his clothes, until one day he said he hated himself.
You can never judge a person because you have not lived his life.
Sometimes I think the world is small and terrible. Some things that you don't want others to know spread quickly. You never know what people who hate you will say behind your back. Sometimes I feel that the world is so big and chaotic. Even if two people lose their fate, there is no way to meet again. However, being misinterpreted and forgotten is someone else's business. When you are young, whether you love or hate, you should live hard.
I used to have many dreams, many. Dream of becoming an inspector, lawyer and scientist. When I was a child, I always dreamed of being a cool person and doing a cool career. When I grow up, I find that I am not that material. I just need to be a kind person. When I grow up, I find that it is much more difficult to be a kind person than to be a scientist. Later, I just want to be a warm person. I just want to be a person who can't be annoying to children. Then, right now.
Last year, I was still in different cities, different moods and different bags. Believe it or not, the change has happened. The songs you listen to now, the books you read, the cities you go to, and the people you meet; Your current entanglements, struggles, hardships and pains will gradually accumulate into your future appearance and gradually become the future you want.
When you are struggling, ask yourself why you have such a life now, and you will find that everything is your choice. You chose it from the beginning, and you actually knew from the beginning that the road you chose would be so difficult and so bad. You knew from the beginning that if you didn't do it, you would regret it, even if the consequences were black and blue. So, don't complain, don't be sad, stand up and don't surrender. Stand up, even at such an awkward age. Stand up, for nothing else, just because you have the courage to make a choice, you have to bear the consequences yourself.
Today, I saw a reply on my Weibo: It turns out that we still have 20 13 years. I can't help but think of the time when doomsday was widely rumored before, and I once made up for it.
Just no end, no miracle. You still go to work regularly every day, crowded with subways that are never on time. Trapped in a stagnant life, become the kind of person you don't like. You are vaguely looking forward to the ending, and give yourself an excuse to escape. Don't be silly. You don't like yourself now. You must change desperately and act immediately, because only you can do it. You have no excuse. Only you can find the exit.
You know, when you come to this world, it is impossible to go back alive. What distinguishes you from others is how you live.