A person must receive three aspects of education in his life, namely family education, school education and social education. As the earliest and longest-lasting basic form of education in life, family education plays a very important role in the growth of the younger generation and is irreplaceable for school education.
With the advent of the era of knowledge economy, the fission effect of science and technology and the competition of market economy, the speed of knowledge updating is accelerating, and our family education is facing huge challenges. The vast majority of parents have no direct connection between their majors and work and education. They educate their children mostly based on emotion and experience. They use improper methods to educate their children. Their children are generally squeamish, domineering, and lack of ability when encountering problems. Weak opinions, weak willpower, etc. How to solve this situation? The author believes that in order for children to grow up healthily and happily, the following methods should be adopted:
1. Eliminate parents’ fear of their children
Junior high school is the stage when children “turn over obstacles”. Due to various reasons, academic performance has declined, and parents are anxious and impetuous. When conflicting emotions arise between children and parents, parents should calm down first and learn to wait patiently for their children to grow. Some experts said: "Children's desire to avoid failure is stronger than their desire to succeed. In order to prevent the smallest possible failure, it is better to reduce the level of effort." This is one of the important reasons why the fear caused by parents makes children lose their initiative. I hope that parents will not have an "interrogation" or even a beating as soon as they see their children's grades are poor, so as to prevent their children from losing confidence. Parents should demand their children's learning from the process, which is more scientific and more effective than the results. .
2. Build self-confidence for your children
The inventor Edison had a strong thirst for knowledge when he was young and liked to search for the roots. He asked the teacher the question "Why 2+2 equals 4" and got into great trouble. He was ordered to drop out of school just three months after he entered school. His mother was very sad and angry, and determined to personally educate her son to grow up, build up his self-confidence, teach him literature, physics and chemistry, and cultivate his love of learning and science. Edison's thirst for knowledge was further aroused. The bud of "genius" grows unconsciously and eventually becomes a world-famous inventor. It can be seen that success comes from self-confidence, and the establishment of self-confidence comes from the common sense of people around you. If a father doesn't appreciate his children, where does the child's confidence come from? If Edison's mother did not appreciate her son, there would be no inventor Edison today. For children whose development is currently relatively poor, parents should use a magnifying glass to find their shining points and help their children build the confidence to overcome difficulties. When children need help, parents' help must be controlled within a certain limit. It must not be more difficult and more irritating, but must leave room for help. For example, if a child asks how to write a certain word, some parents will tell it casually. This is the easiest way to do it, but it is very undesirable. When a child asks how to write a certain word, it is better to encourage the child, "Don't you know how to look it up in a dictionary? Look it up first, and then tell your dad (mom)." (With this kind of guidance, the child will happily look up the dictionary). This not only saves parents a lot of time, but more importantly cultivates children's ability to acquire knowledge by themselves. And this ability is very important in one's life. Only by allowing children to jump and achieve success through their own efforts can children experience the joy of success and build self-confidence.
3. Grow up with your children and be their close friends
With the progress of society and the rapid development of science and technology, people have to learn more and more new things. As a parent, you should always demonstrate the spirit of seeking knowledge and progress and set an example for your children. "Mom and dad are also learning and making progress!" Let your children understand that learning new knowledge and continuous progress will accompany people throughout their lives. Secondly, we must communicate with our children, strive to shorten the spiritual distance with our children, listen to our children's inner thoughts, truly understand our children, and educate our children to grow up healthily.
When educating your children, be sure not to use insulting words such as "promising" and "idiot", and do not use sarcastic tone to ridicule or be indifferent to your children. This will destroy your children's self-confidence and cause problems for them. Extreme psychological pressure hinders the growth and progress of children.
"Let children have a promising future" is the eternal need of parents. There are various methods of educating children. The individual situation of the children, the family environment, the quality of the parents, etc. are all important factors. Family education must be effectively coordinated. School education achieves the goal of educating students well and allowing children to grow up happily and healthily.
In the growth process of children, the factor of love is very important. However, when love loses its rationality or limits, love for children becomes extreme love, which often leads to obstacles in the physical and mental development of the child, distortion of the mind, and has a negative impact on the child's future life development. ..
Extreme expressions of love for children include:
1. Thinking that as long as the child’s material needs are infinitely met, that means loving the child. In fact, this is a kind of ignorant love. Children's need for love is not only material, but more importantly, spiritual. In life, some parents only pay attention to supplementing their children with various nutritional supplements, but ignore the cultivation of their children's good moral behavior and social adaptability.
Some parents have bought many books or computers for their children, but they have not correctly guided their children to read or use computers correctly, and they do not understand that spiritual encouragement, praise, affirmation and necessary psychological support for their children are all love. However, , this kind of spiritual love is more important to the growth of children.
2. Parents over-protect their children and do many things for their children that should be done by themselves. This invisibly deprives children of the opportunity to develop their own abilities and reduces their self-reliance and self-confidence. Heart. This kind of love limits the child's self-development and has a negative impact on the child's independent social life in the future.
3. Too demanding on children, often criticizing or even corporally punishing them. Some parents do love their children very much, but they mistakenly believe that "a filial son will grow out of a stick" and "you will not succeed if you don't fight." Whenever a child's behavior is different from what the parents imagined, the problem is solved by beating and scolding, which often causes irreparable damage to the child's physical and mental development. What this kind of love brings to children is not joy, but pain. This kind of love that hopes the child will succeed often leads to the opposite emotion or emotion-hate, towards parents, others, society, and even oneself. Parents should fully affirm their children's strengths and cultivate their self-confidence, instead of criticizing, blaming or punishing when problems are discovered. Only then can their children develop better.
I remember a foreign scientist said this: "Parents are a child's first school." Indeed, parents’ education accompanies the growth of their children. Whether the education is appropriate or not will directly affect the child’s future. Therefore, family education is particularly important and an essential topic. “Hope your children will become successful” is the ultimate wish of parents. Every parent hopes to cultivate his or her child into a talent who will be useful to the country and society in the future, so we as parents need to work hard in this regard.
"How to educate children well?" has always been a topic discussed by parents. On the one hand, society and schools are concerned about the various ways and methods of educating children. For everyone, The education methods of each child are not the same and should vary from person to person. There is a lot of knowledge in this. Children should be educated according to their personality characteristics, interests, hobbies, behavioral habits, etc. Corresponding methods should be adopted, so as to obtain good results. Effect.
Educating children should first focus on the five aspects of "morality, intelligence, body, beauty, and kindness", that is, quality education. First of all, parents must educate their children to be a good person with good moral character from an early age. For children, you can give some examples or watch TV, comics, etc. to guide your children and tell them that they should be like the characters in their lives.
2. Parents should usually pay more attention to their children's academic performance, so that they can feel that adults care about their studies. Don't be indifferent, which will make them feel that they are not interested in learning. In addition, parents and children The parents jointly set a goal and implement clear rewards and punishments. When the goal is reached, parents should abide by the "contract" and give corresponding rewards. If the goal is not reached, parents should not blame or beat or scold their children, but should encourage, help and guide them. Him, only in this way can he re-establish his confidence. Parents should teach their children to develop good reading habits such as "not being ashamed to ask questions", independent thinking, and being good at analyzing difficult problems. When teaching them to learn things, they should be flexible and not memorize by rote. It takes a lot of time, but the effect is average. For example, some children copy new words and write them in a row. After a while, they still can't write them. This method is too "dead". Parents should teach more good ways to marry their children. .
3. "Health is wealth." Parents should teach their children to take part in more physical exercises, get up early and go to bed early, play basketball, run, etc., which are good for the body.
Fourth, parents should educate their children to develop good children with a kind heart from an early age, do more good deeds, be polite to others, and teach them how to treat others.
In addition, the words and deeds of parents have a great influence on their children. This should attract the attention of parents. They should speak appropriately and act seriously, establish a good image for their children, and tell them some principles of life. Usually, assign some things to them at home that they can do, do their own things, and finish the things of the day on the same day. Set up a work and rest schedule for the children so that they can develop good living habits.
In short, there are many ways to educate children, which requires us as parents to be caring, careful, attentive, and patient. I believe that as long as we parents can do these things, coupled with the common concern of the school and society, our children will definitely become useful talents to the country and society in the future.