Everyone has a heart for goodness. Before, I saw or heard how someone said what they shouldn't say, did what they shouldn't do, especially did something that seemed deviant, contrary to human relations, and angry with people and gods, and immediately I was filled with indignation and anger.
However, with the growth of age and experience, I gradually become less impulsive. I will calm down, understand the whole story, try to figure out the rationality of logic, appreciate the psychology and feelings of the parties, and give it a conclusion after repeated thinking.
as for the sentence "don't persuade others to be kind if you don't know their sufferings", to be honest, it was only seen a few years ago. After carefully pondering this sentence, now I will not rush to draw conclusions and give comments on anything.
people are complicated, and society is even more complicated. It is even more difficult to understand the truth of a thing and the essence of a person.
The rights and wrongs of a thing exist objectively, but it is often difficult to really know the truth of a thing. Because of different positions, the influence of power, the distortion of human nature, the increase and decrease in the process of communication, the differences in values, understanding and opinions, a thing may be very different from the truth to the final communication result, and what is finally presented to people may be unrecognizable. Many things seem reasonable at first, but after in-depth excavation and exploration of the truth, they may be the opposite of the initial impression.
it is more difficult to restore the truth of a matter than people think. I suggest that you take a look at the first program "No Truth under Power" by Luo Pang, the anchor of "Luo Ji Thinking", and I believe it will deepen your understanding of this issue.
So we can't be unverified, preconceived and arbitrary about anyone or anything. We should stand in an objective and fair position, make in-depth exploration, think calmly, and try to figure it out repeatedly in order to reach an objective, true, fair and just conclusion.
the cause of the Iraq war is clear to everyone. However, when the Americans accused Saddam Hussein of crimes in front of the international community with that small bottle of powdery ironclad evidence that Iraq developed chemical and biological weapons, the whole world was angry and Iraq became a rat crossing the street. By the time of the indiscriminate bombing, Iraq was already broken and bloody. After turning Iraq into ruins, no real evidence was found. Under the questioning of the whole world, Americans had to admit that they had forged the evidence, and the people of the world were shocked. However, by this time, Iraq was already ruined and the people were displaced, which became a hell on earth.
For another example, when the female driver who was beaten to the hospital for four times told her unfortunate experience to the camera at first, she won countless people's natural sympathy for women and anger against the perpetrators. However, when the video of the woman driving illegally and deliberately provoking another car four times was exposed, the audience learned the truth of the matter and turned to condemn the female driver.
people often say that seeing is believing, but hearing is not. But sometimes what you hear or even what you see is not necessarily the truth. Cao Cao's manslaughter of his father's good friend Lv Boshe's family during the Three Kingdoms period is a typical illustration of this point. When Cao Cao overheard "What if you tie it and kill it?" Suspicion rose, thinking that Lu Jia was going to kill him, so he killed Lu Jia's youngest son. It dawned on me when I saw the pig tied in the backyard. Later, I killed Lao Lu's head out of desperation, leaving behind the famous sentence "I would rather lose the world than let the world lose me".
Some people may say that it is the Internet age, and the information is open and transparent. What truth can't be seen? Take the competition between China and the United States as an example. American social media giants often delete and block positive publicity reports about China and information that is not good for the United States. What do you see? You can only see American freedom, democracy and human rights. The fact that the United States has infiltrated, subverted other countries' political power, reversed right and wrong, and fabricated rumors is invisible to the American people at home. So is this a fact?
It is difficult to get the truth at any time, and some may take a long time. For example, in 1543, Copernicus, a Polish astronomer, put forward Heliocentrism in the Theory of the Operation of Celestial Bodies. In the half century after the publication of this book, few people paid attention to Heliocentrism, and its supporters were even rarer. The most famous supporter was giordano bruno. But it was not until Bruno was burned to death in 16 that Heliocentrism was not universally recognized. It was not until Kepler put forward the three laws that Heliocentrism was gradually recognized by people. At this time, nearly a hundred years have passed since the birth of Heliocentrism.
For example, after the publication of The Quiet Don by Russian writer Xiao Hohloff, he was accused of copying other people's manuscripts, but Xiao Hohloff is a man of personality, and he never defended himself. After his death, it was not until 1999 that people discovered the manuscript he had written, and the injustice was cleared. At this time, 71 years have passed since he published his works.
Some truths may surface slowly with the passage of time, but some secrets are buried under the dust of history forever, and people can no longer see their true colors.
Rosso talked for a long time, but what he actually said is one thing, that is, we must find out the context and the right and wrong of anything before we can draw a correct conclusion. It is not easy to do this. What is even more difficult is to walk into the inner world of others and experience their true feelings with empathy.
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it is a good thing to persuade people to be kind. It is commendable to forgive others and yourself.
However, it is not desirable, even hateful, to ask others to unconditionally forgive others' mistakes and crimes, and it feels a little helpful in it.
I often see some keyboard men on the Internet, and they don't have much in-depth practical life experience, but they like to comment and teach others everywhere, just like a moral incarnation. There are also some people who rashly come to a conclusion without knowing the truth in depth, and like to point at others from the moral high ground, which is very annoying.
Degang Guo's famous saying: I hate people who advise you to be generous without knowing anything. You should stay away from such people, because lightning will get you into trouble! It shows Mr. Guo's resentment against such people.
a person is not qualified to judge people if he doesn't go deep into the incident itself, empathize with them and put himself in the other's shoes to experience the inner feelings and pain of the parties concerned. Persuading others to be kind with their mouths open is a typical example of standing and talking like it's easy, which is a kind of hypocrisy. More seriously, it is to sprinkle salt on other people's wounds.
In fact, empathy is very difficult to achieve. There is a great difference between reaching a conclusion and feeling from different standpoints and angles about the same thing. Generally speaking, the offender may be indifferent or happy, the victim is painful and angry, and the third party is concerned, sympathetic, irrelevant and even gloating. Among them, only the victim has the deepest feelings and the longest memory. Because only the fire carbon falls on who will feel pain.
I would like to ask those good people, when your account is fraudulently used, your student status is replaced, you are suffering, and when others are successful in official career, how will you feel when you know the truth? Can the word magnanimity still find a shadow in your mind?
when the big house you have lived in for generations is forcibly demolished, and you only receive meager compensation and are homeless, will you still persuade others to suffer?
How do you feel when you are beaten unreasonably by a tough neighbor's family, and there is no way to complain, and you are advised to be generous and tolerant? There is a high probability that you will blurt out in his face: I am c and you are m!
Being wronged, beaten, insulted and excluded is something that everyone in the world doesn't want, but why do you let others accept it willingly?
so, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.