I used to be very anxious. I didn't know how to choose the road of life and how to go. Every time I thought too much, I almost collapsed at the end.
Later, I found out that I think too much. Life is unknown, and its charm lies in the unknown. We need to explore, explore and move forward, because our life is in our own hands, and it is up to us to decide what we want to live our life.
So I think we should live a good life in the present. The road is coming out step by step. To accept our own ordinary life, most people will eventually be ordinary.
When I was young, everyone thought that I could stand on the top of the world and change the world, since heaven gave the talent, let it be employed!. How many years have passed, and I found myself busy and accomplished nothing, still bending over five buckets of rice, doing ordinary work and living an ordinary life.
After having children, I feel that my children are the cleverest, and they want their children to be successful and their daughters to be successful. However, the children are not the expected schoolmasters, and they have gradually accepted their ordinary.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Everything in the world is extraordinary, and finally it will return to ordinary, and its value should be measured by ordinary life. Greatness, excitement and success are nothing. Only by truly living an ordinary life can life be complete. "
and what we can do is to live a normal life and choose simple happiness in the ordinary.
2. Know yourself in the ordinary
We always feel that we are the people who know ourselves best, but in fact, we don't know ourselves very well, and our understanding of ourselves is biased, even from their mouths.
how many people know what they like and what they really think. Since childhood, parents look forward to their children's success and their daughters' success, and put all their expectations on us. In order to meet their expectations, we do what they ask. Maybe when they look at us, we understand that this matter is meaningless. Slowly, we give up our preferences, our own ideas and live according to our parents' ideas.
After so many years of groping in the society, I found that I really don't know myself at all, and I have been suppressing my inner thoughts. Take your parents' ideas as your own.
all our life, we are just constantly searching for ourselves and knowing ourselves.
it is a very long thing to know yourself, and at the same time, it is constantly growing and progressing.
3. Follow your heart and ask nothing
If life can take your confidence as a career, it is the happiest thing. How many people can take their interests as a career?
But we can choose our favorite interests, find a love in our spare time and enrich our life.
Our behavior is often influenced by the secular world, and we choose to retreat, unable to follow our inner thoughts, and often regret it very much afterwards, regretting that we can't do what we want.
One of the words I heard most from childhood is to be kind to others, but no one taught me to be kind and sharp-edged, not to be kind to anyone. When I am kind, I should ask my inner thoughts first, and learn to love myself first, not to meet all the requirements of others.
We always want to follow our own heart, but many people say that we are too headstrong.
it's not willful to follow one's own heart. We all live for ourselves, so as not to waste a walk in the world.
Do what you like, follow your heart, and don't be afraid of rejecting others or gossiping. Ordinary life, at least we live according to our own ideas, look back after many years, at least we won't regret it, and at least we are right about ourselves.
don't be afraid if you want it, and don't regret if you have done it.
don't be trapped by the world, keep an initial heart. Ask nothing, love what you love, do what you do, and listen to your heart.
There is no standard answer to how a person will spend his life. No matter how much suffering he has experienced, it is an open-mindedness and calmness to say that he has no regrets in the end.