The scumbag may be a memory of some girls’ youth, mixed with sweetness and pain. While being hurt, they also learn to grow and love.

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A while ago, there was a hot search topic on Weibo about "2017 Scumbag Ranking List", which is probably:

Level 9 Scumbag : All talk but no action, loves to talk, always talks a lot but does very little!

Level 8 scumbag: He only flirts with you but doesn’t take your heart seriously. He is the one who flirts with you in the end, but you are the one who takes the bait!

Level 7 scumbag: Central air conditioning brings warmth at your fingertips. He is very warm to you, and of course he is the same to others!

Level 6 scumbag: selfish and always only cares about his own feelings in love!

Level 5 scumbag: You think he is true love, but in fact he is just ambiguous and never serious!

Level 4 scumbag: Playing in the present, not talking about the future, he has not thought about your future at all!

Level 3 scumbag: He doesn’t want to solve problems when he encounters them, and becomes violent if he doesn’t agree!

Second-level scumbag: Besides you, he also has sex with others!

First-level scumbag: There is no word "responsibility" in his dictionary!

You don’t know it by looking at it, but you understand that the so-called “scumbag men” are also divided into grades. As the saying goes, “good men are all the same, but every scumbag man has his own merits.” We are in this era where scumbag men breed wantonly. , but many innocent and simple girls don't take it seriously. They always have to wait until they are completely injured by a scumbag before they admit that they are blind and love the wrong person.

In fact, we can all understand that when girls fall in love nowadays, they just want a good man who loves her, understands her, and loves her, and has a relationship that will win the heart of one person and stay together forever. "love.

But reality is sometimes so cruel. Not every man is a good man who is responsible and responsible, and every relationship can blossom and bear fruit smoothly.

Fairies really need to keep their eyes open and never look for boyfriends in the trash. Girls with the following characteristics are more likely to meet scumbag men and become veritable "scumbag harvesters".

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“A girl who is close to vermillion will be red, and a girl who is close to ink will be black.”

There is an old saying that goes well, “A girl who is close to vermillion will be red, and a girl who is close to ink will be black.” ”, in layman’s terms, it means that you will attract what kind of people you want. Girls with "scumbag" physiques are easily attracted to scumbag men of the opposite sex.

In fact, the terms scumbag and scumbag have also become popular on the Internet in recent years. The so-called scumbag collectively refers to those who have a great sense of self, are extremely selfish, are good at asking for things, are irresponsible, and A bad man who enjoys playing with other people's emotions.

Scumbags refer to women who have certain characteristics, such as the habit of playing tricks, playing with emotions, playing with ambiguity, and loving vanity.

Obviously, both of them mainly play with feelings. Such people treat feelings and sexual relationships very casually. They often maintain ambiguous relationships with many members of the opposite sex at the same time, and it is common for them to open rooms and have sex with others. It is easy to become a target for others to play with.

Because they themselves don’t cherish themselves enough, how can others cherish them.

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"Girls with low self-esteem and insufficient confidence"

Some girls may not be outstanding because of their family background or their own conditions, such as "a little fat, skinny" Black, not beautiful enough, low education, poor personality" and other reasons, it is easy to doubt oneself, overly deny and belittle oneself, which will lead to a lingering sense of inferiority in the long run.

Girls of this type are often troubled by a sense of inferiority and feel that they are poor and unworthy of being liked. Once a boy likes them, they will completely become the giving party in the relationship, just like As Zhang Ailing described, loving someone to the dust.

But men are creatures that are born with a high desire to conquer. The easier it is to get something, the less they cherish it. Whether it is marriage or love, it should be two-way. In a relationship, only one party will blindly give and give. When you compromise, it's often difficult to stick to the end.

I met a girl because her family was not harmonious. She had lived in the shadow of her parents’ quarrels for a long time, which led to her inferiority complex. Later, when she got older and had a boyfriend, she always cared about his attitude towards her. Pull down the corners of your mouth a little and put on a straight face. Anyway, at the slightest sign of trouble, you will feel whether you have done something wrong or whether you are not good enough!

When a girl does not receive enough "care" in the family, she will have great unconfidence and insecurity in her heart, and then she will desperately grab everything to make herself confident and safe. A "life-saving straw" for feeling, even if this person is a "scumbag" who is personally annoying.

Because she does not get enough or enough confident care from her original family, she will definitely turn to seek "irrational comfort" as a substitute.

But even if she was so submissive and lowered herself to love someone, in the end her boyfriend either thought she was too annoying or too submissive, and several relationships ended in vain.

If you ask me, this kind of girl must first get rid of the so-called inferiority complex.

If you feel that your appearance is not up to par, learn skin care and makeup to dress up your appearance;

If you feel that your taste is not fashionable, go to magazines to learn about matching to improve your taste;

If you feel that your temperament is not outstanding, cultivate elegant interests and improve your inner...

In short , first get back your lost self-confidence. "Confidence" is always the only magic weapon for girls to maintain their beauty.

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"Girls who are extremely lacking in love and security"

This kind of girl often has excellent conditions, not only good-looking, but also independent Financial resources, how should I put it, are ok in every aspect.

It’s just that she is essentially sensitive, delicate, extremely lacking in love and security, and always entrusts her emotional mistakes to scumbag men.

Speaking of women who lack love, we have to mention Chen Yihan, a energetic and beautiful girl in the entertainment industry.

Some media once commented on her: Chen Yihan is good at everything, but her taste in choosing men is poor.

I am in my 30s. Because I have a baby face and love to smile, I look like a energetic girl in my 20s. I have a lively and cheerful personality, loves fitness, and is good to everyone. , looking heartless.

You wouldn’t be able to tell just by looking at these. In fact, Chen Yihan is a girl who is extremely lacking in love and security. Because she lacked father’s love since she was a child, she has become indispensable for love and communication in her life when she grows up. All of her predecessors were scumbags, either cheating on her or labeling her as a "mistress" for no apparent reason.

Chen Yihan's father is a gambler and does not care about the family, so the family has always relied on her mother to support the family. As a result, Chen Yihan does not know how to get along with men.

She always simply thought that a man being nice to her meant love.

But she doesn’t know that a man can be nice to a woman for multiple purposes, such as because of her money, her beauty, or even just to sleep with her.

How can there be so much true love? Most of the time it is just because this woman is easy to tease and deceive.

She herself once said frankly: "I don't dare to count. The long relationship is 3 years and the short 3 months. 3 months is the limit of endurance. I love love too much, and I am afraid that without love, I will She can pick anyone to fall in love with, but for various reasons, no one can accompany her to the end."

It is precisely because she is afraid of this feeling of "being panicked if no one loves her" that she keeps dating in all sizes. There are also a lot of scumbags in the past. Among them, there was a scumbag who had a girlfriend of five years without telling her, causing her to be innocently labeled as a "mistress."

Even if the scumbag is such a scumbag, as long as he is willing to return to Chen Yihan, she still foolishly chooses to forgive him, but the truth is how can a love that only relies on the woman's forgiveness and patience be long-lasting?

In love, those women who are too unprincipled and have no bottom line will unfortunately become "scumbag harvesters" in the end.

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"Girls who are blinded by love and lost their IQ"

Love is blind, especially for girls.

A girl who is deeply in love can easily be blinded by love and lose her IQ, so that she is deceived and betrayed by a scumbag without even realizing it.

Especially a girl who is in love, no matter how highly educated or experienced she is, will be immersed in the relationship because she loves the other person so much, and will shift all her attention to the other person, so that Loss of ability to think independently.

Fang Wenshan once said that girls in love are more or less likely to suffer from "love IQ degeneration."

The symptoms of patients generally include: giggles, palpitations, insomnia, anxiety, suspicion, or unrealistic daydreaming, sometimes inexplicable excitement, and a mentality of worrying about gains and losses.

The patient's condition will sometimes be ecstatic and sometimes melancholy as the relationship progresses, with a slight tendency towards depression.

What’s more important is that this disease will also seriously reduce their judgment of daily things, and their emotional intelligence quotient is hovering on the edge of failing.

From a medical perspective, the causative agent of "love IQ degeneration" is the hormone in charge of erotic impulses in the human body. Depending on the intensity of its secretion and the choice of secretion targets, the conditions at the onset of the disease will be different. Severity.

To give an example, for example, a girl can’t track her boyfriend’s whereabouts because her boyfriend’s phone has not been powered off for a long time, so her mind starts to play out various scenes such as “boyfriend cheating” and “boyfriend car accident”, which makes her fall into a trap. In extreme panic and depression; or because there is a small rift between the two parties, the quarrels gradually turn into a big breaking point, and then the woman is tired of life and death and cannot let go of this relationship.

From these various signs, girls suffering from this symptom, if the love-hate entanglement derived from love is not properly handled, in severe cases, they will unconsciously do something that hurts themselves or others. Just like St. Augustine's famous saying: "Those who are lost in passion lose much less than those who lack passion."

Love is a two-way street. It can make people suffocate with happiness, and it can also make people sink blindly.

So, IQ is a good thing, and it must not be lost no matter when, where or at what stage you are.

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To sum up, these types of girls are most likely to become "scumbag harvesters". If there are any omissions, please feel free to add them!

So, all little fairies, whether they are in love or single, must recognize the nature of a scumbag, adhere to the principle of getting together and breaking up easily, and never sink deeper and deeper into a relationship that is impossible in the end. Extricate yourself and become the object of being abandoned or played by scumbags.

In the long journey of life, each of us may encounter a scumbag. To put it another way, they are not all useless and only "scumbags" remain. At least they teach you how to proceed step by step. How to fall deeply into love, how to identify a good man or a bad man, how to avoid encountering similar things again, and how to be a girl worthy of being loved.

However, if girls don’t learn how to avoid becoming "scumbag harvesters", we can say that they are young and ignorant when they meet a scumbag for the first time, and they are unkind when they meet someone the second time. After three times, I start to blame myself for being blind. What happens after that?

The same plot keeps happening, being brokenhearted, played with and abandoned again and again. This has a lot to do with the girls themselves.

Because she did not find reasons for her failure, she just complained about her bad luck and avoided facing her shortcomings, thus allowing scumbags to take advantage of them again and again and becoming their prey. .

Instead of crying and criticizing scumbags, it is better to examine yourself in all aspects.

No man will like a dumb woman who remains unchanged. Only by making yourself excellent and knowing what kind of love you want can you block those prickly temptations and get rid of low-quality love.