China people are a people who like to entertain guests most. There is nothing that is not enough to show that China is a comical country, from grabbing bus fares, grabbing bank notes and even eating and drinking. My money is your money, your money is my money, and everyone is equal; You can eat mine and use mine, because we are family. This situation is very strange to westerners. Please forgive my ignorance. I have never seen westerners scramble to pay the fare or rob the money. When we were studying in Europe, everyone advocated "Westernization" because we were poor. When eating in a restaurant, we go Dutch and don't rob money when we meet. Westerners do have banquets, but occasionally, the most common thing is to hold tea parties, unlike people in China who often invite friends to dinner. All these show that China people are more generous and sociable than westerners.
In fact, China people's entertainment is to take advantage of people's psychology. Free rides, free meals, free play, and so on, the beneficiaries should be happy. One, two, three, the more times you have fun, the better the impression of the invited people on the guests. If the invited person has a higher status than me, he can be "responsive" and help me get promoted and make a fortune; If the invited person is lower than me, he can brag about it everywhere and tell everyone about it, which will increase my reputation and indirectly benefit me. China people have always advocated that "people who have money can eliminate disasters", so they can take buses, eat and watch movies for free without spending money, which is equivalent to taking money from people. If they don't share the disaster, they will benefit others. From this perspective, treating guests is a policy of "making small and making big", and the money for treating guests is not wasted. Knowing this truth, we can understand why people who care about their brothers and sisters, even those who are married and refuse to "produce", have to spend thousands of dollars on treatment, which is not stingy; I also understand why there are no stones at home and spare money to treat people who cry. It turns out that most people's hospitality is not an end, but a means; Not generosity, but Machiavellian!
It's heartbreaking to fly out of the purse, but the prospect of "growing up" is very attractive. In this extremely contradictory mood, stingy people can suffer. When grabbing the bus fare, banknotes or theater tickets, I am embarrassed not to "grab" for face, but I dare not insist on "grabbing" for the purse. As a result, it's time to stop, my face is taken care of, and my wallet is still not empty The worst thing is to meet fellow travelers and relax as soon as you grab them. As a result, although you are a "benevolent", you have become a mute and have unspeakable pain in your heart. However, stingy people don't treat; Sometimes, they treat people more often than ordinary people, because stingy people are greedy, and greedy people can't resist the temptation of "seeing the big from the small" after all. So they want to get the maximum benefit at the lowest price: every time they invite guests to dinner, they choose the cheapest food, and the less the weight, the better. It is best to make guests feel full and bored easily, and the host doesn't spend much money. Even for a few days, the leftovers from last night can still be eaten today. Although it is disrespectful to let guests eat other people's leftovers, it is a treat after all. After eating the leftovers, they are still not afraid of him not saying "thank you". There are means in this means, and there are tactics besides tactics!
On the other hand, is it really a good atmosphere to treat guests? Can you really connect with feelings? I once heard with my own ears that the man who robbed money told the concession man not to insist on robbing, saying that he was stingy. I once heard with my own ears that people who eat other people's wine and rice criticize their hosts as soon as they leave the gate: the streaky fish is only half eaten, the stewed chicken is only half eaten, the smoke stinks like water, the wine is as light as water, the cook is incompetent, and the host is not well served! It can be seen that China has the custom of robbing money, but not robbing money seems to be the loss of personal virtue and friendship; Over-inviting guests has become popular again. People who come uninvited are of course considered unsociable. If you don't treat them well, the money will only be wasted. Don't say that the kitchen disturbs 4, that is, do your best; It is necessary to prevent the golden bowl from tilting, but it is difficult to be full of virtue. The food was not cooked, and Wei Lu sold half of it! The philosophy of "growing up" is really harmful!
The invitee is sometimes bitter: knowing that the recipient will have to deal with the disaster, he has no courage to refuse and intends to "return the seat" or "return the guest". After receiving the benefits of others, I will return some of the benefits to others, so that even if the two are offset, I will no longer be responsible for repayment. In fact, this idea is asking for trouble. The easiest way is to neither invite people nor be afraid of being invited. If someone tries to pay the fare or cash for me, I will silently let my youth fly back to the dragon. If someone invites me to eat a big dish, I will take a bite on each shoulder, eat it, and then leave, saying thank you impatiently and ignoring what rice is. If everyone does this, China can return to nature, there will be a lot of hypocrisy in society, and the government will no longer need to promote thrift and ban banquets.
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(1) is selected from the "Dragon Insect Carving Zhai Suo Yu" (China Social Sciences Press, 1993 edition). Wang Li (1900— 1986), a native of Bobai, Guangxi, took the first place. A famous linguist, Professor Peking University. His works are included in Wang Li's Collected Works.
(2) [Money] In the old society, paying for meals in restaurants was called money.
(3)[ Say] Put in a good word for others. In the Tang Dynasty, Xiang Si was highly valued by Yang Jingzhi and gave him a poem: "I don't understand the goodness of Tibetans in my life, and I talk about things everywhere."
(4)[ Dan] describes that there is not much food at home. A stone is a stone; Hey, it's two stones. (5) metaphor to cry cow clothes 】 【 husband and wife * * * keep poor. Cow coat, also known as cow quilt, is a cover for cattle to keep out the cold, made of straw or wheat straw.
(1) > (fú) > This refers to money. The green fly, originally the name of an insect, is also called Apollo. (2) 【 stingy (qi ā nling) 】 stingy, stingy. Tobacco smells like smelly grass. Describe the inferior quality of tobacco. Smell it. Yi, a smelly grass. (4) [Kitchen disturbing people] The polite words used to be used when entertaining people meant eating people's meals and stirring them up. In the Tang Dynasty, Wei Li attacked Qi Huangong and lived in luxury and well-fed. At that time, people called him "Qi Chu". Later, in the thank-you letter, the banquet was said to be "full of kitchens". ⑤ 【 Gourmet (t ā o) 】 Metaphor is a gluttonous person.