Sometimes, we stop and think about it, really. We really don't love that person, but someone who can watch the moonlight with us. Moonlight is our true lover, what we love is love itself, a person who can accompany us to do what we like and feel happy and romantic.
Like many women, love is the feeling of being loved, but she doesn't know how to love a man. On holidays, I always sit and wait for a man to give her a gift, but I never know that I have to carefully prepare a gift for a man. No wonder Zhang Ailing sighed: "For most women, love is being loved."
So, in our opinion, many people are like this. She wants to be loved and loved, but she doesn't want to give love, let alone love others. When she has money, she buys delicious food, drinks and clothes, and spends all her money on herself, even if she is married. She never thinks about her life after marrying that man. How to raise children?
How to save money to raise a baby and how to repay the mortgage seems to have nothing to do with her. With a family, she still lives a life of eating and not being hungry, as if it is natural to earn money and spend it herself. So what do you want to love and have a home for? Oh, just like Mo Bosang said, you love love itself, and you want someone to love you, coax you, accompany you to romance, and receive red envelopes and gifts on holidays. Isn't that selfish?
This is a strange phenomenon. Once we hope to get a woman, we will sincerely believe that we can't live without her anymore. We clearly know that this kind of thing has happened to us, and we are always exhausted after having it. In order to spend our lives with another person, what we need is not a rude lust that will soon be extinguished, but a harmony of mind, temperament and personality. When a person is tempted, he should be good at distinguishing whether the temptation comes from the physical appearance, from the intoxication of the senses, or from the profound charm of the spirit. -Mo Bosang's "necklace"
This is the most people from love, love to not love, love to hate, love to separate, love to not associate. Why do we have to do that？ After possession, you will get tired over time.
Why do many people say that marriage is the grave of love, because marriage is the complete possession of each other? Einstein said: "Marriage is indeed slavery in the cloak of civilization." Many people want to completely possess each other and control her after they get married. She's not allowed to do this, she's not allowed to do that, and she's not allowed to see anyone.
On the surface, I love her for love, but such love is too tight, which will give people a feeling of being too tired to breathe. What's more, most people live too sweet and tired with each other after marriage, which is also a process that leads to mutual dislike.
Han Han said: "Love is indulgence, but love is restraint." When you like someone, it is when we fall in love. When we are in love, we can indulge and do anything for each other, which will impress and move each other.
But after marriage, when we are together, love should be restrained and restrained, and it should not be too full, because it will overflow and the monthly surplus will be lost. Jiang Yang also said, "The monthly surplus will lose, and the water surplus will overflow. Our love is enough here. I don't want it to overflow. "
3. What kind of love can you expect? A few more kisses and you'll be exhausted. What money can you expect? What do you need money for? To support a woman? What a blessing! In order to eat and drink and become a big fat man, I was tortured by rheumatism all night and shouted,' What do you want? Glory? What's the use of glory if you can't get it in the form of love? After the glory, what Finally, isn't this a question of death? "-Mo Bosang's bell Amy.
This is the best proof of why many people love and hate each other, that is, they love too often, kiss too often and do things about love too often. Just like too much sex, he will reject the desire for love or be physically and mentally exhausted.
People, whether in love or career, should know how to restrain themselves. Salinger said, "Love is trying to touch, but taking back your hand." If we can control everything and want to have everything, but we can't control ourselves, then if we want to have this desire, we will continue to want it.
Once you get it, once you satisfy your desire, you will lose your goal and direction, and you will stagnate and not make progress. Love is like this, so is career.
In love, we can only put ourselves on the road of love, and we can't let love come to an end, that is, let love flow forever. I love her very much, and I want to give her all my love one day, but restrain myself and give it bit by bit, so that the other person will not feel all your love at once and become indifferent and indifferent.
What will happen to many people once their careers reach the peak and climax of their lives? Will go downhill. Many people start too high when they are young, and it is difficult to break through and make progress all their lives. Men, early success is not necessarily good, and late success is not necessarily bad.
Men think that love is like a disease, which can attack the same person more than once. If there is any obstacle in the way of love, you can even be executed. Women believe in true love and great love, and only one creature can come in a lifetime; This love is like a bolt from the blue. Once hit, it will be hollowed out, destroyed and burned. No other love, no matter how strong, can not be reborn. -Mo Bosang's "The Woman Repairing the Cushioned Chair" # quoted from Mo Bosang #
Why do some people lament that after meeting this person, some people will be reconciled for life. If you love someone very much, you don't get him, and you lose him, you will understand this truth. Once some people appear, others are irreplaceable, and their position in your heart has long been ingrained.
I remember a very interesting dialogue in Jin Yong's novels: "A Zi asks her brother-in-law". What's so good about her? I can't catch up with her. You always think about her and never forget her? "Brother-in-law calmly replied: You are better than her in everything. You have only one shortcoming, you are not her. "
Yes, it is enough to say that you are not her. Why do you ask so many questions? Everyone in heaven and earth is unique. Who can really replace who? I love him, you are not him. No matter how good you are, I don't love you. The two are two different things and cannot be compared. Love means not loving a person's Excellence, but also loving a person's decadence and depravity, who is willing to accompany him from one place to another!
A legal kiss is different from a stolen kiss. -Mo Bosang's Confessions of a Woman # quoted from Mo Bosang #
If the kiss is not shy, if the kiss doesn't beat, if the kiss doesn't feel, there is really no stimulation of stealing a kiss, which makes people happy. What was the kiss when we first fell in love? Especially the first kiss in my life, I feel my lips are burning sweet, but after kissing for a long time, I feel like broken cotton wool, which is boring. Kissing again makes me sick.
Yes, two people who clearly love each other will feel sick after kissing for a long time. This is anything. If you do too much, you will lose interest and become numb It's like we've been listening to a piece of music over and over again, and we don't want to listen to it after ten days or a month. Even if I used to think this song was wonderful, I don't want to listen to it anymore.
But many years later, we heard it again, and we felt that way again. Wow, the sound of nature. The same is true of lovers. I haven't kissed her for years, so we meet again. The burning and sweet kiss filled my heart with happiness, sprouted and came back. So, love really means restraint.
6. The beautiful and moving women in the world are often born in the family of a small clerk, as if they were destined to be. This is exactly what we are going to talk about now. She has no dowry assets, no hope, and no way for a rich and powerful person to know her, understand her, love her and marry her; Finally, she will marry a small clerk in the Ministry of Education. -Mo Bosang's necklace # quoted from Mo Bosang #
How did Pan Jinlian marry Wu Dalang? That's it. She was born in poverty and had no chance to meet a rich and decent person. Pan Jinlian is naturally unwilling to marry Wu Dalang. Although at that time, if you really married someone different from yourself, how could you balance your heart?
If Wu Dalang is as handsome as Song Wu, will Pan Jinlian still be interested in Ximen Qing? Really? As long as the mentality is balanced, opportunities will stick to women's virtue. It was because Wu Dalang couldn't give her what she wanted that she jumped over the wall. So do modern women. Once a man who loves her deeply can't give her the life she wants and earn less money, her heart will be unbalanced, so she is unwilling to find a new life and new happiness.
But as long as this woman exists, she will have no chance to meet better people and richer people, and as Mo Bosang said in this quotation, she will live with a very ordinary person. Will there be fewer people living beyond their means in this world? Many, many people will marry a very ordinary person in their thirties, but they have not found the person they want.
7. "No ... the most humiliating thing in the world is to show your poverty among many rich women." Necklace-Quoted from Mo Bosang # Mo Bosang #
Men love face, that's all. If this woman is rich and powerful and well-dressed, he is even less willing to show his poverty in front of this woman. He will hide all his bad side and pursue this woman.
Why are so many women in this world cheated in the end? The reason is that women dress too rich and classy, so many men have to pretend to be richer and classy than women before they can have an affair with her. Even if it is finally exposed, the woman no longer loves her, and the man thinks it is worth it. They don't care about eternity, they just care about having it.
8. Sometimes, what we love is not each other, but our own love. -Mo Bosang # Quoted from Mo Bosang #
The more a person pays for love, the more he loves, and the more he loves his own love, he will feel sorry for himself, and even feel that his love is great, beautiful and worthy of praise, like a fairy tale.
But he doesn't know that he loves the wrong person. Love is mutual. Once love is not returned and the other person is indifferent, it must be that the other person doesn't love you. You should find a love that can be returned quickly. Love is mutual support, not unilateral.