This is not selling anxiety, nor letting young people die. I mean, those unreliable blind dates must be completely rejected. Have your own bottom line, don't listen to the "casual talk" of the introducer. You have a lot of meat. " Because you will find that if you don't have the right conditions or at first glance, you can't talk about any feelings. Finally, after the chat broke down, you became a well-known event in the family, a ruthless chat matching machine-"Alas, young and old are picky, and nothing is right, but they are excellent."
My mother's colleague's boy, the condition is still moderate, but his emotional intelligence is low. He told a girl that she didn't like celery, and he didn't want to tell others about the nutritional value of popular science celery (really annoying). People around here began to "pick up baskets is the principle of vegetables." Everyone gave it to him. He was divorced and took care of the children, but he was still physically disabled. He had to open his mouth and shut up, demanding that the bride price of 654.38+0 million should not be brought home. Why do you say that people are also normal men with jobs? What are you doing? You are rubbing people's self-esteem on the ground. I think this is no longer a blind date, but an important cornerstone to test the relationship between myself and the introducer.
Be good at listening to the subtext of the introducer and reduce the sense of meeting gap.
When you listen to the introducers, you must listen to their subtext. If you introduce this boy: honest, dutiful. Then be prepared to meet a blind date man with below-average conditions; If you hear the introducer say that this girl is kind and filial, the same is true. I have always believed that honesty, single-mindedness, kindness and filial piety are the necessary conditions for a person to choose a spouse, not a promotion condition. Who is looking for a dishonest, disloyal and unfilial person? Excessive amplification of a person's qualities shows that other conditions of this person can only be called barely passing, without further blessing. Why don't you think, "This child has a high emotional intelligence and is doing well in the unit" and "This girl has two mines at home and looks like a thief"? Is this a bonus for a blind date?
Take this example, that is to say, you must be mentally prepared, otherwise you will feel a big gap when chatting or meeting. This will reduce the success rate of blind date. My best friend knew a boy before, and the introducer said that he was over 80 and handsome, but he was a little fat and demanding, so he stayed. My best friend thinks who hasn't got shortcomings yet, so add a WeChat chat. After chatting for two days, the man kept asking my girlfriend to send a plain photo and a full-body photo. The photos he sent were all photos of the steering wheel, and the circle of friends was exposed to hundreds of thousands of cash. Caption: money is nothing, it is spent. At this time, my best friend got cold feet. I knew it when I saw it was introduced by my neighbor's aunt. As a result, when I met her, that guy was 1.78 meters at most, and she wanted 190 kilograms. Ask her what she is doing, and the loan company will lend money. I weigh 200 kg, and the requirements for the woman are still: more than 1.68 m, not more than 100 kg. No wonder he weighs 200 kilograms and knows nothing about the body fat rate.
Introducers and introducers are also different. Choosing a reliable introducer will increase the success rate of blind date.
My limited experience tells me that male referees of the same age will be more reliable than female referees, and female referees will be more reliable than those relatives who can't get away from it.
Generally, a boy is willing to be an introducer, which shows that he has a certain understanding of the family and conduct of both parties, otherwise he would not take such a big risk to introduce. And the man's introduction object is also relatively straightforward. As soon as the photos of the two were exchanged, they exchanged WeChat at a glance. When they don't look at you, they are also very direct: ta didn't look at you, forget it. He doesn't care about anything else. When a woman is an introducer, she will be a little more enthusiastic but not too much lobbying, which is a supplement within the scope of understanding (men here are more direct and don't waste time dragging their feet). Women are more enthusiastic, even if they don't succeed, they will save face for both sides, and each has its own advantages. What they are most afraid of is the cousin of the son of the neighbor's third cousin, who added 800 filters in the middle of this introduction. Their understanding of the introduced party is very intuitive, and they all heard it from a certain population, and then relayed the process with their own cognition. This success rate is really not high.