Everyone ultimately desires to establish a long-term relationship. A long-term relationship must attract each other and give each other trust and security.

In my opinion, this is a true love! !

If a relationship makes you feel particularly depressed and aggrieved, and you cannot feel happiness and joy at all in this relationship, it means that you may not be suitable for being together.

We all know that it takes courage, determination, and resilience to make a relationship last, but once you understand what really makes a relationship work, it will be much easier to keep your relationship going.

1. So what is the most important thing in the relationship between the sexes?

The core of maintaining a relationship between the sexes, that is, a happy relationship is based on deep friendship and trust. I mean friends who respect and like each other.

These lovers often have a very detailed understanding of each other. They are familiar with each other's likes and dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams. They pay attention to each other for a long time, and they will express their feelings no matter what situation they face. This kind of preference.

Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it provides the best protection against antagonism toward your partner.

It is precisely because the pair maintain a firm friendship with each other that they are able to handle their differences well despite the inevitable disagreements and irritations that arise in daily life. .

When conflicts arise, listening to each other's point of view calmly and affectionately will allow both spouses to find a compromise.

Forcing yourself to see their differences from the other person's perspective and hoping to resolve the issue without getting angry. Whether your conflict involves a family feud or a major disagreement about life goals, this approach is often used. Recommended.

If you feel that validation and active listening would make conflicts between you and your spouse easier to resolve, by all means use it.

Conflict resolution is not only regarded as a panacea for solving sexual problems, it is also regarded as a tonic to prevent the deterioration of romantic relationships.

2. Be responsible for each other’s feelings and have the same goals

The most comfortable state of falling in love is when each other is responsible for their feelings and have a sense of responsibility.

If a couple is irresponsible to each other and is unwilling to take the initiative to assume the responsibilities and obligations in a relationship. They only know how to ask for things from their partners and never take the initiative to pay for their partners, then the relationship will easily collapse. Or crash.

I think no one can accept a love that is full of deception and betrayal. There is no way. When you love someone, you want to be alone. There is no room for any scum in your eyes. You are very exclusive. .

Two people in a relationship have plans and have the same goals. They are in the same boat. Only by working together can they row to the other side of happiness.

I really like the way two people can be honest with each other in love. Maybe I have always felt that if the relationship between two people is mixed with deception, it is actually very difficult for the relationship to last long. .

So, if possible, I hope that no matter what the circumstances, please be honest with each other unless it is absolutely necessary.

3. I am making trouble, you are laughing, the best love is to let you become a child

Both men and women, they all want to have such a relationship:< /p>

He can let you be the child in the relationship and do whatever you want safely.

He treats you well and cares about your welfare at all times;

He pays attention to you, and you are the center of the world;

He dotes on you , as if you are his only treasure, no matter what you do, he will accept it with a smile;

He has a good temper, will let you go, and will not yell at you.

Many people will deny this kind of relationship and say that they don’t want it because they know that this kind of relationship is impossible. But in an ideal world, I don't think anyone can refuse this kind of relationship.

Wanting to be a child in a relationship has nothing to do with gender.

Society may give men too much responsibility, making women feel that men should become big trees to protect women, and men feel that they should suppress their true feelings to protect women.

But deep down in everyone’s heart, they long to be pampered and loved as a child.

And true love, a love that makes you feel safe and solid enough, will make you relax and return to the state of your childhood.

4. I am yours, but you are free.

When two people get along, there will always be a situation where one person wants to control the other. But I think no matter how close two people are, they should leave each other some private space.

It’s like, I will give you all the good things, but if you don’t need them, I will still choose to collect them silently.

Shu Ting sings in "To the Oak": If I love you, I will never be like a climbing flower, showing off on your high branches... I must be a kapok near you, as the image of a tree Standing with you...side by side, each with an independent attitude.

True love should respect each other, be independent and free, and they will help each other grow more vigorously in independence and freedom. We stand together not because we need each other, but because we support each other.

Love that is called "care" but is actually "control" is actually quite unwise. Because this will only make the other party feel depressed and lose their ability to be independent. In the end, it will only make the other person lack happiness and relaxation when they are with you, and just feel heavy pressure, which will eventually make your lover run away.

Lawrence once said in "Sons and Lovers": "Love should give people a sense of freedom, not a sense of imprisonment."

True love should give each other a sense of freedom Breathing space, some people say that the most beautiful love is when two people are both the same body, but also independent individuals.

As the famous saying goes: "The fastest way to lose love is to hold on to love too tightly, and the fastest way to gain love is to give love."