Gui Guzi said: Therefore, the way of the saint is yin, and the way of the fool is yang; for the wise, everything is easy, but for the unwise, everything is difficult. From this point of view, survival cannot be achieved through death, and safety cannot be achieved through danger, but it is valuable to be fulfilled.

Explanation: The sage's rules of conduct are hidden and carried out quietly; the stupid people do things openly and openly. A wise person can succeed easily, but an unwise person can find it difficult. From this point of view, there is no way for the stupid loser to survive what the loser does, and the critical situation they create cannot make it possible to turn the crisis around. However, people of sage wisdom follow the rules and advocate wisdom!

Indeed, everyone hopes to maintain their own personality when persuading others, but in many cases, the result of doing so will only be Making things worse will make things further away from your own wishes.

Although it is said that one must have principles in life, one must also pay attention to methods when persuading others. There is a famous saying: The appearance of money is that it is round on the outside and square on the inside. Everyone knows the round square holes of ancient coins.

Therefore, when we persuade others, we should be like coins, with a flexible "edge" and show weakness when it is time to show weakness, but we must hold firm in our hearts and have our own principles. In this way, you can not only preserve your moral integrity, but also protect yourself.

Two

After a "big sister" sent a young man to a designated place, the other person took out a sharp knife and forced her to hand over all the money. She pretended to be scared and handed it over. The gangster gave her 300 yuan, and then said to the gangster: "That's all I earned today. If it's too little, I'll give you the change."

After saying that, she took out another 20 yuan for change. money. Seeing that the gangster was in a daze, she took the opportunity to say, "Where do you live? I'll take you home.

It's so late, and your family should be in a hurry." In this way, unknowingly, , the gangster eliminated his defensive mentality and put away the knife.

The atmosphere relaxed, and "Sister" lost no time in enlightening the gangster: "My family used to be very difficult, and we didn't have any skills. Later, I learned to drive from others and started this career.

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Although I don’t make a lot of money, my life is not bad. Besides, I am living on my own. Who can laugh at me if I am poor?” Seeing the gangster’s silence, she continued: “Well, a man with sound limbs can do nothing. Nothing is wrong, if you take this road, your life will be ruined."

At this time, the gangster who had been silent suddenly burst into tears, then stuffed more than 300 yuan into her hand and said. : "Sister, I will never do this again until I starve to death." After saying that, he lowered his head and left.

Three

This story reflects a common mentality among people, which is to "eat the soft and not the hard".

Especially for people with strong personalities, if you speak harshly, such as in a commanding tone, then the other person will not obey.

Maybe they will be tougher than you; if you come in softly, the other party will easily feel sympathy and will comply with your request even if it is difficult for them.

Just like the gangster who was persuaded by "the sister". Just imagine, if that "sister" resists desperately, what will be the final result?