Self-cultivation is self-cultivation. Self-cultivation is an important factor for a person to walk in the world, influence words and deeds, and determine success or failure. Observing promising people or well-cultivated people, we can easily find that they all have three characteristics: forbearance, steadiness and cruelty.
1. Hold on. If you can't bear it, make a great plan. Don't quarrel over trifles.
People of insight in ancient and modern times, or people who are chic and elegant around them, have a feature that they are more forbearing than the average person.
From small to large, those students who study very well, no matter how boring the books are, no matter how difficult the learning process is, no matter whether the weather is cold or hot, they are more tolerant than those who study poorly.
I won't complain when I encounter some difficulties. At the same time, students' fighting will not make them quarrel with them easily and waste time.
Know forbearance, learn to be silent when it is time to be silent, and you will reap more surprises. It is true that a little intolerance leads to great mischief.
2. Steady. Do things slowly and slowly, don't rush for success, step by step, and you will succeed in the end.
Many people describe stability as a state, and I prefer to describe stability as a gesture. Because stability is actually a difficult thing to do, it takes a lot of tolerance and patience to be stable but not impetuous.
For a simple example, why do you know a thing or two from the way you eat? A delicious meal is placed in front of yourself and others, and people who can compete and remain elegant are usually calm and noble.
And those who eat ugly and grin and want to eat a plate by themselves are usually eager for quick success and ugly posture, which can be seen after getting along with such people for a period of time.
If you want to be a mature and steady person, you must keep your posture stable. Don't be eager for quick success, don't be unscrupulous, be slow and steady, and be worthy of your heart.
3. difficult. Be hard on yourself, give up what you should give up, and don't waste time remembering what you can't get.
Some time ago, there was a classic expression called parting. The simplest explanation is to get rid of unnecessary things, emotions and so on. Timely and willing to leave, so as to make progress.
In fact, giving up what you should give up is a valuable quality.
For another example, we often say that we envy some people who say they want to lose weight and keep their mouths shut. Envy some people who get up in winter and never stay in bed. These little details are cruel to themselves. Only such people can do what they say, instead of being good to themselves.
For themselves, for things, people or things that should be given up, ruthless people are cruel people and werewolves. Only in this way can such people strut their heads and keep making progress on the thorny road of life.
As the saying goes, downhill is easier than uphill. Many things that can make people walk high are bound to be difficult and challenging, painful and uncomfortable.
However, perhaps, as the famous saying goes, people should be born to suffer. Only stupid people are easily angered by others, and only by forbearing can they afford to play a big role.
Only those who are eager for quick success and instant benefit, greedy and cunning will be embarrassed. If you want to be calm and dignified, you must learn to hold yourself steady, not to fight what you shouldn't, and to maintain an elegant style, so as to win the real respect of others.
Only cowards indulge themselves all the time, whether physically or emotionally, and winners are always cruel. Learn when you should say it, and let it go when you should say it. Self-discipline is the beginning of all greatness.
These three valuable qualities do not necessarily need to be applied to great men. In fact, you don't need to be very successful and great, but if you do these three things, even an ordinary person is a cultivated ordinary person, and happiness and peace will accompany you all your life.