According to the We Are Really Unreliable series, we always cannot see the light in others, or even if we see the light in others, we will automatically ignore it. Therefore, learning to see the light in others is an ability we should cultivate.

In fact, when we can see the light in others, we can not only discover the strengths of others, but also help us learn from each other's strengths and offset our weaknesses. This is a win-win ability.

After joining the Fixed Investment Classroom, I feel that my mentality has indeed changed. Whether it is about life, work or the people around me, I am doing better than before, especially when it comes to discovering the people around me. In terms of shining points, we have done better than before. In addition, I found that since I started studying, working out, and writing, the relationship with my husband has become much better than before. He will also support me in studying, working out, writing, etc., and occasionally run with me. I will also listen to my suggestions and read books. Although he is not doing very well, he is already changing.

So, if you want to change others, you must first change yourself.

More importantly, since I started studying, working out, and writing, I have discovered more and more the bright spots in my husband. I no longer focus on his shortcomings as I did before, or even magnify them. Disadvantages, these actions make me wonder more and more why I married him in the first place. However, after I learned to see the light in him, I realized how lucky I was to meet such a responsible and responsible person.

Yes, I want to praise him.

Although he is not handsome, he is getting fatter and fatter. He even likes to play with his mobile phone. He lacks independent opinions (a rake in others' ears). He always likes to throw dirty clothes around. He doesn't like to read and study. He likes to give up halfway. , sometimes she can be unreasonable (she is really like a little girl in this regard).

However, once he decides to do something, he will be very motivated and be able to get up early and go to bed late to do it. I discovered this when he took the job test before. Don't talk about getting up early and going to bed late to study after starting work. Even if you suggest that he read a book occasionally, he won't be interested.

Secondly, he is a very family-oriented man, which is obvious to everyone around me. My parents often praise him, saying that they have rarely seen such a family-oriented man. Because of this, every time we quarreled they would think it was my fault, and it was really a typical case of elbows turning outwards. Unlike other fathers who always find excuses such as working overtime to delay going home, he tries his best to go home early to take care of his children. Because he is very family-oriented, both sons are very attached to him. Even in their hearts, his status has far surpassed mine.

Based on the above, he is a qualified father. It would be better if he could do a better job in parenting and study more on how to raise children scientifically instead of just doting on the children. .

Third, overall, he is a very considerate person. He would take the children with him while I was doing things (such as reading, studying, exercising, and writing) so that I could concentrate on doing my own things. I also take the kids out to play when I am very tired, so that I can have a good rest.

Fourth, he can also do housework. His behavior of doing housework came after I said something like, "A life where two people do housework together is the rest of their lives; a life where a woman does housework and a man has fun is called a partnership." This was exactly what we said when we were cleaning together. , he did housework more frequently after I said this. He mops almost all the floors in our house, and he also changes the sheets and washes my shoes and socks. So, is this a correct expression that can achieve twice the result with half the effort?

Fifth, he is very filial. Among the four brothers, he is the most filial one. He tries his best to stay with his child's grandmother every week, gives the old man some money every month, and calls her often. However, filial piety requires strength. Because our current financial capacity is limited, we cannot arrange for the elderly to be around us. This is our biggest wish, and we are working hard to realize this wish.

All in all, after discovering these advantages of his, I no longer only see a bunch of shortcomings in him as before, and then think that there is nothing wrong with him and he has a bad temper, and he always gets angry with me. Stifling. However, these bad situations slowly disappeared after I discovered the light in him. The last time we had a fight was probably before my brother was born.

Anyway, learning can really change a person. Because learning can make a person change, and then subtly change the people around him. At the same time, because I can see the light in him, I will also learn from his strengths and help myself get rid of my shortcomings. After all, others are a mirror through which we can see our own strengths and weaknesses.