the second is to know the information you can use. For exam review, what textbooks, reference books and auxiliary materials are available; Those who have completed the work, what resources, what channels, and what are all clear, are the sharpening workers. The above is the preparation of materials, and the next step is to make plans. The key to the completion of the plan lies in its implementation. In order to make the implementation more dynamic and easier to complete, there are the following secrets that can be used for reference when making a plan: plan should be tight before loosening, and difficult before easy. When making a plan, it is the most motivating time, commonly known as three minutes of enthusiasm, which means that people don't have long-term. In fact, this is not a simple blame. If you make good use of it, you can get twice the result with half the effort. Since I was most concerned at the beginning, I might as well use this most exciting time to do all the things that I don't like and are difficult to do first. On the one hand, I will slack off in the future, and it won't be too difficult to do simple things. On the other hand, I may be able to overcome all the difficult things in front and stick to the plan completely when I am in a good mood. This is the best result. Plan to proceed in stages. A month-long plan is divided into four weeks, and the tasks and objectives are clearly defined every week, which is very convenient for checking the progress. The number of stages should be three to five. If the time in each stage is very long, small stages can be set in the big stage, and the completion of the plan can be summarized in each stage. You can celebrate it in advance and make up for it as soon as possible. "Week" and "month" are really useful, but we should act according to circumstances. The plan should have room for revision and compensation. And this room cannot affect the overall progress of the plan. If you are pressed for time, you should work harder, make the plan tighter, and at least leave some time in the last day or two. After reviewing, you can see if there are any omissions. This is especially true in work, which requires the ability to understand the overall situation. Everything is available, except practice. In practice, rewards and punishments should be clearly defined, and we should also encourage ourselves and make use of positive forces. For example, I should have missed reading today and watched the ball. After watching the ball, I still have to read the books in my plan and read more-don't take this as punishment, just consider it as an advance reward. Especially when you only rely on the will to persist and complete part of the plan, even if this is only an accidental phenomenon, you should greatly praise yourself and motivate yourself to persist again-this is how the will is formed. I am distracted when reading. I am not in a hurry, impatient or critical, but I am not indulgent. Once I find it, I will gently bring my mind back to the book, be patient with myself, and enjoy myself. The other is the problem of method. Psychologically speaking, a single stimulus can't achieve high efficiency. When reading a book, you should not only look at it with your eyes, but also read it orally, and more importantly, write it by hand, so that the efficiency can be improved a lot. There is no need to say more about the importance of methods in work. Discuss and communicate more, and learn good methods from efficient people. When you are good at using the plan to accomplish your own things, you will never tire of it, because it is really something that is both fulfilling and interesting. Cultivating willpower is inseparable from willpower for every obstacle to be overcome; Facing every difficult decision we make, we rely on our inner strength. In fact, willpower is not an innate or unchangeable characteristic, but a skill that can be cultivated and developed. In the dictionary, "willpower" is interpreted as "the power to control people's impulses and actions", among which the most critical words are "control" and "power". "Power" exists objectively, and the problem is how to "control" it. The following are helpful to strengthen your willpower. Try them. First, be proactive. Don't confuse willpower with self-denial. When it is applied to positive goals, it will become a huge force. A businessman on the east coast of the United States knows that he drinks too much, but he is engaged in a very annoying job, and drinking a few glasses of wine before eating seems to relax people's nervous mood. But wine and tiring work make him sleepy, so he often falls asleep as soon as he finishes drinking. One day, the manager realized that he was drinking to drown his sorrows and wasting his time. So he decided to stop drinking and spend more time on his children. At first, it was not easy, and I often thought of the fragrant wine, but he warned himself that what he was doing now would gain rather than lose. Later, it was proved that the more he cared about his family and children, the more motivated he was to work. Active willpower can help you overcome inertia and focus on the future. When encountering resistance, imagine your happiness after overcoming it; Actively devote yourself to the concrete practice of achieving your goals, and you can stick to it. Second, make up your mind James Pross, a professor of psychology at Rhode Island University in the United States, divides the realization of a certain change into four steps: resistance-unwillingness to change; Consider-weigh the gains and losses of the transformation; Action-cultivate willpower to achieve change; Persistence-use willpower to keep changing. Some people are "chronic decision makers". They know that they should reduce their drinking, but they are indecisive when making decisions, and as a result, they can't put them into action. In order to make up your mind, you can set a deadline for your goals. Maggie Collins, a teacher in California, is very concerned about how to slim down her bloated figure. Later, she was elected as the chairman of a civic organization and decided to lose 6 kilograms. For this reason, she bought clothes two sizes smaller than her own size, and she will wear them at the annual meeting three months later. Thanks to perseverance, Collins finally got what he wanted.
third, the goal is clear. Professor Pross has studied a group of experimental subjects who intend to change their behavior from New Year's Day, and found that the most successful people are those with the most specific and clear goals. One of the men is determined to treat his wife kindly and equally every day. Later, he did it. The other person just said in a general way that he wanted to be better to his family, but in a few days, he was the same and quarreled. Don't say such empty words: "I plan to do more physical exercise" or "I plan to read more books". Instead, it should be concrete and clear-"I plan to walk for 45 minutes every morning" or "I plan to read for an hour on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays of the week".
fourth, weigh the pros and cons. If you are half-hearted about physical exercise because you can't see the actual benefits, you can't make you wear running shoes willingly just by wishing. Professor Pross advised those who went to him for consultation that four squares could be drawn on a piece of paper to fill in the short-term and long-term losses and gains. If you are going to quit smoking, you can fill in the short-term losses in the top two boxes: "I felt very sad at first" and short-term gains: "I can save a sum of money"; Fill in the bottom two boxes with long-term gains: "My body will become healthier" and long-term losses: "I will promote a way to relieve boredom". Through such careful comparison, it is easier to gather the willpower to quit smoking.
5. change yourself. However, it is not enough to know the harvest. The most fundamental motivation comes from the desire to change one's image and control one's life. Truth can sometimes convince people, but only when emotional factors are aroused can they really respond. Tom smokes three boxes of cigarettes every day. Although he coughs a lot, he still doesn't listen to the doctor's advice. Instead, he goes his own way and smokes correctly. "One day, I suddenly realized that I was so stupid. "He recalled," Isn't this suicide? In order to survive, we have to give up smoking. "Because quitting smoking can make him feel better, Tom has the willpower to get rid of bad habits.
six, pay attention to the spirit. Toulangwa, a famous French general in the 17th century, was famous for being the first soldier, and stood at the front of the team every time he fought. When asked about it, he bluntly said, "I acted like a brave man, but I was scared from beginning to end." I didn't give in to my timidity, but said to my body,' Old chap, although you are shaking, you must go forward!' "The result resolutely charge in the former. A large number of facts have proved that acting as if you have a strong will is helpful to make yourself a person with a strong will.
7. temper your will. As early as 1915, psychologist Boyd Barrett proposed a set of methods to exercise the will. This includes getting up from the chair and sitting down for 3 times, emptying a box of matches and putting them back in the box one by one. He believes that these exercises can enhance willpower so as to face more serious and difficult challenges in the future. Barrett's specific suggestions seem a little outdated, but his ideas are enlightening. For example, you can arrange what you want to do on Sunday morning in advance and make up your mind not to have lunch unless you do it well. Bill bradley, from New Jersey, is the star of new york professional basketball team. Apart from normal training, he comes to the court early every morning to practice shooting and aiming at the foul ball alone. "Everything comes to him who waits", he finally became the person who scored the most shots in the team.
eight, stick to it. As the saying goes, "Where there is a will, there is a way", which means to fight against difficulties and overcome them. After studying the people who quit smoking and started smoking again, Pross found that many people did not seriously consider how to deal with the temptation of cigarettes. So despite mustering up the strength to quit smoking, you can't stick to it. When someone handed a cigarette, they took it and smoked it. If you are determined to give up drinking, don't touch the glass on any occasion. If you insist on jogging, even if it rains heavily when you wake up in the morning, exercise indoors as usual.
nine, seeking truth from facts. If you are required to lose 25 kilograms in three months, or you must engage in physical exercise for three hours a day, then the strongest will will will not help such an unattainable goal. Moreover, the consequences of failure will eventually make you want to try again. In many cases, it is a good idea to decompose a single big goal or many small goals. Bob, who is going to quit smoking, put up a sign in his room-"Don't drink every day". Because the overall goal of abstinence is broken down into concrete actions day by day, I can make my determination clear again the next day. By the end of the week, Bob was full of confidence when he looked back on his series of "victories" in the past seven days, and finally said goodbye to the wine.
1. Gradually cultivate. Strong will is not suddenly produced overnight, it is gradually formed in the process of accumulation. There will inevitably be setbacks and failures in the middle, and we must find out the reasons that make us lose our fighting spirit in order to solve them in a targeted way. When Mary gave up smoking for the first time, she made great determination, but it ended in failure. When analyzing the reasons, I realized that I needed to do something instead of taking cigarettes. Later, she bought needles and wool and knitted sweaters when she wanted to smoke. A few months later, Mary gave up smoking completely and knitted a sweater vest for her husband, which really killed two birds with one stone.
eleven, push forward with victory. Practice has proved that every success will further enhance willpower. If you overcome a bad habit with tenacious will, you can gain the confidence to duel with another challenge and win. Every success can increase your self-confidence and provide you with a solid "foothold" on the arduous journey of climbing the cliff. Perhaps the new task we face is more difficult, but since we have succeeded in the past, we will certainly win this time and in the future.