Of course, a deadpan person doesn't mean they are cold inside. On the contrary, this kind of person's mind is sometimes more delicate and neurotic than normal people.
Deadpan, others can't understand their thoughts from their expressions. So for those who seem to be slow-witted, people will naturally think that they are slow-witted.
The more positive the emotional expression, the more people can understand the inner feelings of the parties, and people with strong sensitivity often feel very attractive. Therefore, we should devote ourselves wholeheartedly when we are serious, and laugh heartily when we are laughing, so as not to make people feel that we are slow to respond and leave a bad impression.
Greek jokes are a gift from God. Laughter is an effective medicine for many troubles. Man is the only animal that can laugh. Animals don't laugh. Laughter brings your eyes back to the original position, stimulates your fixed attention and gives you clear thinking.
When anxiety passes through your heart, please smile especially; Smile when you are anxious; During the day, if you make a stupid mistake, please laugh it off. The bigger the problem, the more humor is needed. When there is a smile in your heart, self-pity and self-blame do not exist.
A teenager said to his mother, "I hate crying, so I laugh." Because the boy's eggs and milk fell to the ground, but he laughed instead of crying. This is the so-called "water under the bridge".
Everyone in the world is looking for happiness, but there is only one effective way, and that is to control their own thoughts. Happiness does not depend on external conditions, but depends on internal conditions.
No matter what you are, or who you are, where you are and what you are doing, what makes you happy or unhappy is how you look at it. For example, two people are in the same place, doing the same thing; We have the same amount of money and prestige-one will be miserable and the other will be happy. Why? Because the mood is different.
If you are not good at smiling, please pay attention: force yourself to smile. If you are a person, it is easy to make you happy by forcing yourself to whistle or hum a tune to show that you seem happy. According to the late Harvard University professor william james, "Action seems to follow feelings, but in fact, actions and feelings are almost parallel. And controlling actions can control feelings. " "So, if we are unhappy, the positive way to make ourselves happy is to act happily and behave happily ..."
Everyone in the world is pursuing happiness. The sure way to get happiness is to control your mind. Happiness depends not entirely on external conditions, but mainly on internal factors.
Shakespeare said, "Nothing is good or bad, but thoughts make it different."
Lincoln once said, "Most people are determined to get much happiness." He is right. There is a vivid example about this famous saying. One day, at the Long Island Railway Station in new york, there were thirty or forty boys on crutches, struggling but laughing up the stairs. There is a boy who must be picked up by someone. Their laughter and happy mood surprised people very much. When someone mentioned this to one of the leaders. "Oh," he said, "yes! When a child finds himself a cripple all his life, he will be surprised at first, but when the surprise fades, he will accept the challenge of fate and be as happy as a normal child. "
Franklin Baetge, the third baseman of the St. Louis Cardinals and one of the most successful insurance salesmen in the United States, said that he discovered many years ago that a smiling person would always be welcomed. So before entering someone else's office, he always thinks carefully about what he has to thank this person, and then walks in with a sincere smile.
He believes that this simple skill has a lot to do with his great success in selling insurance.
Please read this advice from Abel Hubbard carefully-but remember, it won't help you unless you put it into practice:
"Whenever you go out, you should close your chin, hold your head high, and fill your lungs with air; Bathe in the sunshine, greet your friends with a smile, and shake hands hard every time. Don't worry about being misunderstood; Don't waste a minute thinking about your enemy. Try to determine what you like to do in your mind, and then go straight to the goal in a clear direction. Think about the meaningful things you like to do. When the years go by, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing the opportunity needed to realize your hope, just like corals draw necessary materials from the tide. Imagine in your mind the honest, intelligent and capable person you want to be, and this idea will always transform you into that ideal person ... thinking first. Keep a correct outlook on life-brave, frank and happy. Correct thinking equals creation. Everything comes from hope; Every sincere prayer will come true. What we think in our hearts will become what we think. Close your chin and hold your head high. We are the gods of tomorrow. " The extremely clever China ancients had a thorough view of everything in the world, and there was a proverb that "harmony is the most precious thing".
Speaking of business, Fletcher offered us a little practical philosophy in a Christmas advertisement of Carlin Company in Oppenheimer.
The following is the full text of this advertisement: