From time to time we hear news about children jumping off buildings due to psychological problems. We can see how important it is to cultivate a child's ability to withstand pressure and setbacks at the moment.

With so many unfortunate things happening, we can’t help but think: Why are children’s ability to withstand stress and frustration so fragile?

Excessive spoiling and substitution

Nowadays, most children are only children and are doted on by the whole family. Even if there are two children in a family, parents will do the same. Considered a treasure.

Out of love, parents can’t help but do everything. I’ll help you turn over, feed you when you eat, hold you if you fall, put on clothes, carry your schoolbag, and say whatever you want. When I make a mistake, I just criticize a little and get over it, for fear that the child will be wronged. It is because of all kinds of doting and substitution that children gradually become spoiled and spoiled, and in the future they will not be able to bear any criticism or grievance, whether at home or away from home.

Too much pressure

Nowadays, children have a heavy academic load, and parents hope that their children will succeed and their daughters will succeed. This puts another layer of pressure on the children. Each child has a different ability to withstand pressure. Children with low abilities may develop psychological problems.

Parents are negligent in teaching

Some parents just let their children learn knowledge and skills, while ignoring their children's mental health problems. They think that because their children can eat and play, there is no need to treat them badly. Too much focus on the psychological aspect.

Children's psychological problems are accumulated over time. Some children will not show it and will only suffer silently. If parents fail to detect and provide psychological counseling in time, the consequences will be disastrous.

In a society with such fierce competition, educating children should not only teach them knowledge and skills, but more importantly, cultivate children's healthy and independent personality so that they can occupy a place in the fiercely competitive society. So, as parents, what should we do to cultivate our children's ability to resist stress and frustration?

First and foremost, love the child’s feelings

When children face pressure, encounter setbacks, and perform poorly, it is the time when parents’ love is most tested.

If parents only use unpleasant language to criticize and ridicule their children, or speak condescendingly to their children, it will not only be unhelpful to their children, but will also make them feel bad about themselves and make the parent-child relationship worse and worse.

The correct approach is to be fully affectionate and try to understand his feelings from the child's perspective and express understanding, such as:

"I haven't done anything in these exams You must be very anxious to do well in the exam, I understand. "

"The college entrance examination is coming soon. I can see that you are under a lot of pressure these days. Are you worried that you will not perform well? "

Parents lower their posture and talk to their children sincerely and equally. Children can feel this attitude and feel warm love and encouragement from it. Parents' understanding and comfort will help children get through those sad, desperate, and anxious moments.

Only on the basis of affection and children handling their emotions well can communication be carried out effectively.

At this time, parents will provide valuable suggestions and help to their children, which will solve the problem faster and more fundamentally.

Embrace the "uncertainties" and challenges in life

If you want your children to develop the ability to adapt to changes in situations, you can help them adapt to the "uncertainties" and challenges in daily life. Start with the little challenges that arise. The best way to exercise is to encourage children to participate in various activities, so that children have the opportunity to be exposed to more small accidents and challenges.

In the midst of various uncertainties and challenges, children will gradually understand that life is not static, and the earth does not revolve around me alone. Only when faced with uncertainties and challenges, can we actively respond to them. , Only by working hard to solve it can we get out of the difficulties. The more children experience small accidents and challenges, the more adaptable they can be.