In the book "Face-The Power Game of China People" published by Mr. Huang Guangguo in 2004, there are many concepts about "face" and "face": losing face, long face, shameless, thick-skinned, ashamed to meet people, decent, giving face, loving face and looking at my face, which have become the basic concepts of China people's daily life and daily communication.
What is face? The face is not well dressed, but a knowing smile between friends; Face is not a war of words, but diamond cut diamond's all-out efforts; Face is not sweet talk, but mutual respect between husband and wife; My face is not rich, but you gave me the warmest applause and the most hearty laughter. ...
Everyone has a face, but not necessarily a face. Not all faces are hung on the face, sometimes they are very big, bigger than rivers and mountains; Sometimes it's small, less than trivial, so when should I enlarge my face? When should I put my face down?
I think there is a way that I can never fail, that is, to make my face smaller, that is, to make others' faces bigger; Enlarging other people's faces is just the right compliment. As the saying goes: "The wood in the forest is beautiful, and the wind will destroy it; When piled up on the shore, the water will surge; The line is higher than others, and everyone must be at fault. "Really capable people are very hidden, approachable, can give others opportunities, and don't like to steal the limelight. Even if you are in a high position, you should lower yourself and give others face, which is actually to give yourself a better face. In addition, in people's hearts, they are most eager for praise from others. If they want to give others face, they have to give them just the right praise, so as to attract others' recognition and give you enough face.
So is face worth it? How much is face worth? Li Ka-shing once said, "When you put down your face to make money, it shows that you are sensible. When you earn back your face with money, you will succeed. " Ren also has a famous saying: "Only shameless people will become successful people". Many people, when someone downplays it, also tell us: put down face, work hard and have more face. Only when you produce value will your face become more and more valuable and produce more and more valuable faces.
The so-called face will not last long on the surface and in disguise. The beauty you present to others will disappear in front of reality and time, and then you will only become the laughing stock of others and lose face instead. Instead of this, it is better to use your own efforts to create face, concentrate on doing your own thing and keep working hard, so as to gain the respect of others and win more face instead.
Therefore, don't care too much about face when you are young, because you have neither qualifications nor capital, and face is worthless. You are saving face now, and if you don't pretend to understand, it will only make you laugh generously, and you will lose face in the future. Only work hard, let go of yourself and start from bit by bit. Even in the cold eyes and contempt of others, as long as you don't forget your original intention, tell yourself that it is not shameful to bow your head now, and efforts can make the long-term rise valuable.
Therefore, in a person's life, face will change with your efforts and achievements. If you have not made progress, you will lose face everywhere; If you are thriving, your face will grow bigger and bigger. Don't care about the moment's humility. Only by strengthening yourself and striving to achieve yourself will your face meet unexpectedly and become more and more valuable.