Zhou Yuxin and Zhou Lu live very close, so I decided to go with them. It's just that the two dolls have some difficulties in learning, but their personalities are very different. Zhou Lu is lively and talkative. But Zhou Yuxin is a gentle doll, neither annoying nor naughty. If her grades are not worrying, she will be easily forgotten by the teacher. On the way, there were five of us, Zhou Lu, Zhou Yuxin, me and two fifth-grade dolls. The other three children are flying ahead, and Zhou Yuxin is always with me. She answers everything I ask. Because I didn't know the way to her home, she went to Zhou Lu's home with me, where she did her homework. I talked with Zhou Lu's mother upstairs. Before going upstairs, I told my two children to do "small pen exercises" first, because it was more difficult. After we talk, I can tell them. About 40 minutes later, I came down from my home in Zhou Lu. Unexpectedly, neither of them started writing. After a brief explanation, Zhou Yuxin and I went to her house.
When I got home, my grandparents were not at home and the door was unlocked, but I couldn't push it open. I'm going back. Although I was stood up, I won't be angry. I walked out about 50 meters. When my grandmother came back, I thought I had gone, so I just chatted casually. Children's family conditions are not particularly good, whether the house itself is not available or various furniture configurations, all of which indicate the lack of family conditions. After grandma sat down, she began to talk about the fact that the child had lost his mother for three months (the mother went out to work and didn't come back). Hearing this, I asked the children to go upstairs to do their homework, and grandma lowered her voice very well. Grandma said: when the child was three months old, his mother went out to work, and she didn't come back for several years, and there was no phone call (that is what is usually said here-mother ran away). In the first few months, the child cried for his mother every day, but now he doesn't make any noise and accepts the fact; She also has a sister (I "saw" her in children's composition), but her sister is with her mother (her mother will come back a few years later and let her go, but she doesn't want her), and she will come to play occasionally, but more often at her grandmother's house; Dad usually does odd jobs outside and no longer looks for a wife. Because he has a child, it is not easy to find one. Now he is going to find a woman who can accept children and buy a house in the town. I wonder if he can find it. Grandma can't read, and she is really not good at anything except taking care of her in life. Grandpa can read, but he is very busy recently. He wants to transplant rice seedlings and plow the fields, and seldom checks her homework. This is just a problem ... Grandma has repeatedly mentioned that "I brought them up because my two granddaughters are so young", which shows that Grandma is a kind old man who loves her granddaughters very much. The child also said that he would cook, wash clothes and sweep the floor at home. Generally speaking, this family is loved.
In the communication with my grandmother, I seldom make detailed plans for my parents like my last family. I am more listening and understanding the situation of children. By the way, remind parents to pay more attention to their children's study. When you get home, you should not only ask if your homework is finished, but also really check it. My grandmother promised "yes, yes", but it was obviously a little simple and casual.
I was the only one on the way back, so I lost my mother's child in three months. For me, who is used to analyzing problems with psychology, true consciousness is a very cruel thing. "A child who has not been accompanied by her mother for three months ... is an insecure child ... no wonder she is so silent ... is she lonely and inferior inside ... she dressed well for a while, had a good hairstyle, and took the initiative to raise her hand in class. The more I think about it, the more I feel that I should give her more care and love to make up for her missing maternal love. But on second thought, I know it's impulsive. Maybe I don't need to play the role of mother, I just care more. So what's the point of knowing all this? Is it to understand and then get more information? Finally, I thought of a sentence by Zhang Ailing-"Because I know that I am compassionate". For a child like this, the more the teacher knows her, the more she understands her, and then the more compassionate she is. Next Mother's Day, she won't attend anything. I want to know the reasons behind it and show tolerance. In the next Mother's Day initiative, I can't just say that my mother raised us hard, but also add the greatness that gave us life; Her silent and self-abased character actually needs my encouragement and help more.
When I came back in the evening, I sent a circle of friends and simply recorded the situation of home visits. Many friends praised me and said that when I was young, I especially looked forward to my teacher's home visit. When the children in the class knew that I would accompany Zhou Lu and Zhou Yuxin home for a home visit, they all expressed envy, jealousy and hatred. I didn't expect this home visit to be so rewarding, but it may really be something worth persisting in. Take more walks, and you will get to know your children during the walk. Education is sometimes a very compassionate thing because of understanding.
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