I regretted that concession once!
That was nine years ago. The child was only four or five years old at that time. We live in a big yard. There are many children in the yard, and a group of children often play together. One of the children is Feifei. His mother is very defensive, and this child is very overbearing, so he naturally becomes the king of this group of children.
My child is thin and has become a training mat for children. At first I was bullied and came back crying. I always advise children to learn to get along with them.
In fact, the world of children is the same as that of adults, and not all people can get along well with themselves.
Later, there were many times, so I had to tell my children not to play together in the future. But Feifei doesn't want to lose this goal to establish prestige for herself. He called him to play many times, but every time he went out for less than three minutes, he would come back crying. Children's world is actually not simple, and they also know the law of the jungle.
I don't think it's a good idea not to be together, because everyone lives in the same yard and children like to play together. Besides, if they can get along well, it's good to have a playmate. I just want to see what happened.
This look once again confirmed my guess. Children are really mats for people to practice their hands.
On that occasion, my son sat on the playground to play. Feifei came from a distance. He stood up, raised his fist, punched him on the head and walked away. The son cried helplessly.
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Another time, a group of children were playing with sand in the sand. Feifei grabbed a handful of sand and stuffed it into my child's clothes. The child was in a hurry to cry, but Feifei smiled.
I used to be busy with my work and seldom watched the children play. Since I paid attention, I have seen more and more similar things.
As a mother, seeing this, my heart seems to have been pricked. Although it has been nine years, it is still very difficult for me to write these things today, especially hard.
After finding out the reason, I think Feifei is a child and doesn't understand. I took the initiative to communicate with his mother, and people didn't take it seriously at all. They just said to me, "Don't let your children come out to play." I didn't want to hurt my feelings, so I was speechless.
Later, I heard her educate her children several times: "If you have anything, your mother will support you."
I can't help it when I see her like this. I have to take strict care of the children and try not to let them play together. Every time I see Feifei playing here, I will let my children go to another place to play. "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon"! Not to be taunted, we can afford to hide. Later facts proved that some problems could not be avoided.
For a week, the two children played separately, which was very safe. But I was busy with work, sometimes I didn't have time to look after it, and the children didn't have any memories. Soon we played together again. So, the previous situation was repeated.
The child looks down on Feifei. He always gets a beating. We can't let him be so weak any more. We must learn to fight back against some people. We don't cheat others, but we can't always be bullied! I encouraged him to fight back bravely.
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In this way, the son entered the counterattack. Although losing more and winning less, at least Feifei is restrained.
The bad thing is that Feifei's mother doesn't want to. If Feifei wins, she will not say anything. If she loses occasionally, she will come to me or teach my son a good lesson behind my back. I remember one time, I don't know how she threatened. Anyway, the child is too scared to come out of the toilet. Afraid of an accident, she told me that after I went, the child cried in grievance.
Because of my feelings, I once again forbeared and took a step back, but this step back did not bring me a broad horizon. On the contrary, children are hurt more.
The two children met again. My son is playing with a small bike. Feifei stood in front of him many times on purpose when riding a bike and wouldn't let him ride it. So there was another war, and both of them were skinned that time.
Feifei didn't suffer this "grievance" and immediately went back and told her mother. My son may know that he can't count on me, and he has to swallow it. Maybe he has long been used to admitting defeat. So I kept playing.
Feifei's mother can't stand this "grievance" any longer. She came here in a threatening way. Without saying anything, she knocked down my son's bike with one foot, then scolded him and kicked him. The youngest son lay helpless on the ground, tears welled up, but he didn't cry, probably because he was too scared to react at the moment. Then she pulled to a place where no one was there and gave the child a few mouths. Later, a colleague she saw came up to dissuade her, and she stopped. I don't want to write too carefully here. At this moment, my hands are shaking. )
To make matters worse, Feifei's mother found me first after hitting the child and reported the child. I didn't know the reason at that time, so when the four-year-old came back crying, I also blamed him.
But I clearly remember that he cried differently in peace that day. He used to cry with a voice, but that time he cried silently. When he got home, he covered his head with a quilt and never spoke.
That colleague was really angry and called me to tell me what happened. At that time, my head exploded, my whole body trembled, and I was incoherent for a moment.
I tried to calm myself down and asked Feifei's mother, but she confidently admitted what she had done. Under my argument, she reluctantly admitted her mistake and apologized to me. Later, I regretted why I didn't have a heated argument with her.
Children have changed a lot since then. He began to be afraid of all the children's mothers, became silent, and always kept himself at home.
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The change of children makes me feel sad. As a mother, I didn't protect my children. It was my step-by-step concession that made others worse.
If I had supported my child, if I hadn't taken a step back, if I had gone forward and had a big fight with Feifei, my child wouldn't have suffered so much!
Later, it took me two years to get my child out of the shadows.
Today, I wrote down these things that I don't want to mention, hoping to tell my mothers: When it comes to raising children, we must raise them, and children need their mothers' arms.
I also told myself that I am not good at fighting: some anger must not be tolerated, and some steps must not be retreated!