There is such a fable in "Li Wengong Ji" written by Li Ao of the Tang Dynasty: Two people rode a national horse and a fine horse and rode side by side. The fine horse bit through the long mane of the national horse's neck, causing it to bleed. The national horse is still driving as before. The horse returned home, but it was trembling all over and could not touch grass or water. After the national horse comforted him by touching it with its nose and eating in the same trough, the horse recovered as before.
When I first read this article, I was very angry at the brutality and tyranny of the horse, and even more so at the incompetence and cowardice of the national horse. But seeing the final change of the horse, I couldn't help but secretly cheer for the national horse, applaud the tolerant spirit of the national horse, and applaud the harmony and harmony brought about by tolerance.
Tolerance is a silent education. Tolerance will eventually make the person who hurt you willingly or unwillingly go to the dock of the moral court and accept the trial of his own conscience: the horse is exactly the state of mind tolerated by the national horse. I was shocked and blamed myself. This kind of silent education will eventually allow the perpetrators with lingering consciences to be inspired by justice and lead a righteous life. The story of "The Intersection of Lian and Lin" has given us profound enlightenment. If Lin Xiangru was also a small-minded person, and Lian Po was obsessed with every detail, I am afraid that the State of Zhao would have been annexed by Qin Dynasty. It was precisely because of Lin Xiangru's generosity in serving the country regardless of personal interests that he inspired and educated Lian Po and made him plead guilty. The friendship between Lian and Lin made Qiang Qin dare not easily attack Zhao even though it had a large number of troops. Tolerance actually produced an unexpected and huge effect.
The result of tolerance is that a person will go wider and wider on the road of life. "Only tolerance can win people" is indeed a wise saying. Otherwise, it will be difficult and even gradually lead to destruction. The national horse tolerated the horse, and the two horses kept pace with each other from then on, and moved towards glory together. Xiang Yu, who was "strengthening the mountains", lacked tolerance. First, Chen Ping, who often made strange plans, and Han Xin, who was good at using troops, left him. Finally, even his closest "Yafu" Fan Zeng was forced to leave, leaving him besieged on all sides and committing suicide in Wujiang River. ending. It can be seen that only if you truly have tolerance, you will not make enemies on all sides and get into trouble.
Here, we need to learn from the behavior of the national horse: its tolerance makes the horse feel ashamed, and then uses tolerance to comfort the horse and make it a friend. So in a sense, tolerating others is also tolerating yourself, giving others some space, and what you will get will be a blue sky. Let us have this blue sky and tolerance!
The story of the national horse and the steed should become a mirror for people in real life to reflect on themselves and understand others. As the market economy develops and competition becomes increasingly fierce, the relationship between people will become increasingly tense. Isn't there a saying nowadays that "there are no fathers and sons in the business world"? Once there is a conflict over money, status, reputation, etc., some people will abandon their tolerance and pick up the knife of "eye for eye, tooth for tooth" and slash at their opponents. In fact, these people do not understand the meaning of tolerance. Tolerance is like the fragrant orchid in the deep valley, which makes people become more and more fragrant the more they smell it; it is the strong pines on the steep rocks, which makes people become stronger the more they press on it.
Of course, tolerance is not unprincipled tolerance, tolerance that does not look at the target. The objects of tolerance must be "good horses" rather than "bad horses". They must be people whose consciences are still intact and have changed their minds. We must not be tolerant to extremely vicious gangsters and evildoers who violate laws and disciplines.
As the old saying goes: Tolerance is great, and to be able is to be high. Let us have a tolerant heart. Many years later, you will find that on the road of life, you have left behind intoxicating and magnificent scenery.