Dear parents, friends and classmates:

Hello everyone! I am very grateful to Teacher Li for providing us parents with such an opportunity for communication. Below I will share my experience in raising children with my parents and friends. If there are any shortcomings, please criticize and correct me.

1. To learn, you must first make a determination. Set goals and find motivation.

As far as children's learning is concerned, there are also two aspects of motivation: internal factors and external factors. And internal factors play a leading role. What is this internal cause? In other words, what do our children learn? I am afraid that many children think that they are learning for their parents and teachers, but they do not realize that they are learning for themselves. How to change "I want to learn" into "I want to learn" is the key to stimulating children's enthusiasm for learning. The key to opening the door of wisdom is to set goals.

Parents sit down with their children, analyze their children’s qualifications and talents, and find a goal that is both suitable for the child’s actual situation and achievable in a short jump. There is a famous saying of the ancients: "If the law is above, take it from the bottom, and if it is from the bottom, take it from the bottom." This means that if you work hard towards a high goal, you are likely to achieve a mid-range goal; if you work hard towards a mid-range goal, the final result may be a low goal. In other words, if you work hard to get into the first-class key universities in the country, it is very likely that you will only get into the second-class key universities. With a lofty goal in mind, the next step is to overcome the obstacles on the way up, starting every day and taking one step at a time. Specific to finding the best learning method that suits you, taking every assignment seriously, doing previews in advance, reviewing after class, and developing good study habits. My daughter’s father saw this message in a book: Good habits Can be developed in 21 days. We tried it on two kids with success. Parents may wish to try it.

Nowadays, most of our children are around thirteen years old, and psychologists call children of this age the second weaning period. There is an article in "Chinese Newspaper" called "Thirteen-Year-Old Syndrome". What happened to being thirteen? It is not difficult to find that on the one hand, children appear nervous and anxious due to the improvement of the knowledge structure and difficulty of books; on the other hand, children's physical and psychological development have advanced by leaps and bounds, and they have become "little adults." , always want to be great, but stubborn, especially hope to be understood and respected by others. If parents do not understand these characteristics and still adopt a simple and crude approach, which is "pediatric", it is obviously inappropriate and will not solve the problem at all.

2. Parents set an example and let their children grow up with encouragement.

Parents must do what they ask their children to do. This is not easy for parents to do, but it is an important principle. If parents watch TV series or football games with gusto and ask their children to study hard, the children may say in turn: "Why don't you study?" My family usually doesn't watch TV during the children's study period. After dinner, my daughter does her homework. His father studied English with his younger brother, and I also read and wrote after finishing housework. Create a learning atmosphere at home.

Relevant experts have this view: The fourth and fifth grade of elementary school, the second grade of junior high school, and the second grade of high school are the three major slopes for students. If they can rush up smoothly, generally speaking, the college entrance examination will not be a problem. Nowadays, our children are on the second major slope. Geometry has been added to the second grade of junior high school, and English texts and classical Chinese are getting longer and longer. I analyzed the objective difficulty of the new problem with my child, and I said to her: Everyone encounters the same difficulties, it just depends on who can rush forward. If you bravely climb the "slope" that opens the door and work hard with all your energy, your ideal will be one step closer to you. The child understood what I meant and consciously spent more time on geometry and ancient Chinese. Because she was mentally prepared in advance and noticed the areas that needed to be studied during her studies, she did not feel that she was struggling on the "slope".

On the eve of the final exam last year, the school was in the comprehensive review stage, and it was inevitable to do a lot of papers and homework. When the children came home, while doing homework, they complained: "Hey, being a student is so tiring!" For a few days, I just listened, and then she complained more and more, with an obvious negative vibe. I realized there was a problem, and I said to my daughter: "There are two ways to solve this problem: one is to drop out of school immediately, and when you grow up, you can work hard and pick up garbage to survive; the other is to advance despite the difficulties. , be a brave man on the wave, and move towards your ideal shore. You choose!" Of course my daughter chose the latter, she said, "I'm just saying it!" I said: This kind of complaint is actually a kind of complaint. Psychological negative cues, and negative cues often work secretly. Why not say: "Ah, our teacher is so responsible. I have mastered all the review questions the teacher gave us today, and I have lived up to the teacher's expectations!" If you face the overwhelming number of test papers with this mentality every day, the effect will definitely be different. .

A book called "Appreciating Your Children" by Zhou Hong inspired me a lot. He said: Children should grow up with encouragement, and parents should praise your children without hesitation. Based on this theory, I will promptly detect the child's progress, giving priority to verbal praise and supplementing with material encouragement. To this end, my family has established a scholarship system. For generous scholarships, children's enthusiasm for learning is greatly encouraged. My purpose of doing this is mainly to let the children understand that in order to get the best, they must put in their best efforts, and no pain will be rewarded.

She uses the scholarship to buy school supplies and other daily necessities she likes, while also developing her children's ability to manage money and spend money.

Use every opportunity to communicate with your children, understand their true thoughts and wishes, and sincerely let your children provide opinions and suggestions to their parents. Enjoy the joy of success with your children, and analyze the lessons of failure with your children. In this way, your children will have the satisfaction of being equal and respected.

When praised too much, children sometimes show signs of raising their tails. During last year's midterm exam, my daughter learned that she had surpassed her competitors and ranked first in her grade. After returning home, she was so excited that she didn't start doing her homework for a long time. I saw it in my eyes and felt anxious in my heart, thinking about how to cool her down. I had an idea, picked up a piece of paper, and wrote this little poem on it: Beyond the mountains, there are green hills and towers, and heroes and heroes strive for the upper reaches. Don’t be proud when you strive for the upper reaches, there are still heroes behind. The child looked at the note, turned around to study, and stuck the note on the base of the lamp.

Dear uncles and aunts:

Hello!

First of all, thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to come

!

I hope you can use this to understand our study and other aspects of growth over the past half semester, and we also hope to get your understanding, support and encouragement.

When we are just conceived into life in the mother's body,

This life is filled with the infinite affection of our parents.

When life falls to the ground and makes its first cry,

it calls out for the sunshine and rain that nurtured its growth.

People say: Childhood is the most beautiful time in life

People also say: Childhood is the time that adults pay the most attention to

Indeed, In our childhood memories

The infinite expectations of teachers and parents are condensed

This is the harvest season, and we are presenting our half-semester academic results

< p>After giving it to you, we also want to pick the fruits that reflect our capabilities and give it to you!

(Performance)

Dad, Mom:

We know that our performance is very average.

But in your case It seems wonderful and wonderful

Through your

expression and eyes full of laughter

We feel the deepness in your heart excited.

Your appreciation is our greatest encouragement and comfort.

Dad, Mom: We understand your concern

I understand your dream of having a successful son and a successful daughter

But we are even more eager for you to come into our hearts. Garden

Listen to our voices, understand the timidity and sorrow deep in our hearts,

Talk freely to our colleagues about our yearnings.

Dad: I really hope to see your tolerant eyes when you get my results

In this way, I will definitely work harder next time and never let you down

< p>Mom: I really want to hear your words of encouragement instead of blabbering: This is not good, and that is not strong!

Our teacher said: Examination is not the only way to measure our ability.

You have to set your sights further and longer on us!

(Please let the math teacher speak next, and then the foreign language teacher)

Dear teacher, dear father and mother:

Let our hearts be connected.

Let us hold hands

Let this parent-teacher meeting become a bridge for our communication

May we be like Xiaomiao under your care and< /p>

Nurture and grow up healthily!

Dear parents and friends:

Hello everyone!

The teacher arranged for me to speak here to share with you my experience in educating children. When the teacher gave me this task, I felt so sweet in my heart. Because of xx's well-behaved nature, she became a good student and classmate in the eyes of the teacher and classmates. As parents, we are naturally happy. But in fact, I am also ashamed. Compared with many parents, I feel that I have not done much for my children, and I cannot comprehensively summarize the rights and wrongs of educational methods, so today, I will mainly talk about bits and pieces here. I hope to discuss it with you all.

1. Eliminate several misunderstandings in family education

Many times, when talking about educating children with teacher friends, I believe many parents will say, don’t Set too many goals for your children. Don’t assume that relying on your children’s success will bring us glory. Cultivate your children with a healthy body and a sound personality, so that they can grow up healthily, naturally, happily and normally.

But in fact, many of our parents, including myself, always consciously or unconsciously ask their children to get first place in academic performance and imagine that their children will excel in the future. Therefore, we often see some of the following educational misunderstandings: For example, having high expectations for children and not giving up. Investing time, energy and money, but ignoring the laws, characteristics and needs of children's physical and mental development, encouraging and suppressing the healthy growth of children's personalities; for example, paying attention to children's knowledge, intelligence and achievements, but not cultivating good moral behavior, learning attitudes and habits Insufficient attention to phenomena; such as caring about the physical health of children, insufficient understanding and guidance of mental health, etc.

In this regard, I think it is very necessary to properly read some parenting books. From my own reading experience, books can be roughly divided into three categories: The first category is about child psychology. , I think this aspect of knowledge is what we as parents must understand, master the child's psychology, learn about the development of primary school students' speech, the characteristics and cultivation of attention, the development of cognitive emotion and will, etc., to cultivate and improve children's normal personality The formation of habits has the effect of getting twice the result with half the effort. Last year, I bought a copy of "Psychology for Primary School Students" in a bookstore before my children went to school. I read it when I had time to learn about "the influence of genetics, environment and education on psychological development." "Role", "Learning becomes the dominant activity of primary school students" and other related knowledge. For example, the book tells us that the thinking development of primary school students is one stage in the first and second grades, one stage in the third and fourth grades, another stage in the fifth grade, and another stage in the fourth and fifth grades. There is an accelerated period of thinking development, based on which we can provide corresponding education based on the child's mental development; the second category is about educational concepts, such as "A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher" and other parenting books. There are many educational concepts worth We learn from it, but I think this kind of book can only be used as a reference for education, and we cannot follow the trend. When we were young, our parents gave us a stick education, but now everyone is saying "My child, you are awesome!" In fact, Everything must be done at a certain level, especially in education. Children cannot be blamed blindly, but we must not praise them blindly. We must master the balance of praise and criticism according to the child's personality characteristics. Therefore, books like this can only be regarded as their own. It is a reference for children's education and must not be blindly imitated; the third category is about spiritual communication. For example, you can search for some of your favorite education blogs on the Internet, or some warm words between parents and children, such as "Fu Lei's Family Letter" ", such as Yang Jiang's "The Three of Us", or the book "I Want to Meet Your Life" that I just read some time ago. This is a love book written by a father to his daughter. It contains information about music, life, reading, The big and small things in travel tell the broad scenery of enthusiasm, tolerance, self-esteem, and dreams. Every little whisper, emotional footprints, and education are everywhere. So I read books like this because I feel that these are all things that can be transformed from flexibility to In the loving words, you can savor the life beliefs and beautiful values ??that accompany the growth of children.

2. Use your own good habits to guide children’s habit development

The first is to develop a good work and rest time. In the last semester, what xx’s father and I are most proud of is that we accompanied xx to implement a good daily routine. Because xx’s father and I are both civil servants, we can basically live a relatively regular life. When it comes to socializing and working overtime at work, one of us can always guarantee to accompany xx in his daily life. In the morning, we got up early to make breakfast for our children and sent them to school. In the afternoon, when we got home from work, xx had already completed her homework with her grandma. Her father and I, no matter how early or late we came home, we would carefully look through her homework every day. With her schoolbag and books in hand, look at what she has learned that day and check her homework for the day. After dinner, the child usually goes to the small park with her grandma to play, where she runs, jumps, climbs on the horizontal bar, and does exercises with the other children. For games, go home on time around 7:30, make a cup of milk for your child, and then accompany your child to wash and soak his feet for half an hour. Go to bed on time around 8:00, read a book separately on the bed, or read together, and go to bed on time around 8:30. Following such a schedule requires parents to give up a lot of their own entertainment gatherings, but once you form a habit, enjoying spending time with your children at home will bring you a lot of happiness. Of course, it is beneficial to occasionally make exceptions on weekends or holidays, and even take your children to karaoke movies. In addition to a good work and rest schedule, children should also be allowed to pack their own schoolbags, dress themselves, learn to take care of themselves, and take on some household chores from an early age, such as taking out the trash and sweeping the floor. When children have a sense of responsibility for life, they will naturally have a sense of responsibility for learning, know how to take care of others, and will be welcomed by their classmates.

The second is to develop good study habits.

Good study habits guarantee children's interest in learning, concentration, careful checking after completing homework, pre-review of studies every day, etc. But today I particularly want to talk about cultivating children's reading habits. This is what I It’s a topic that I really want to communicate with all parents. That’s because although I can search “how to cultivate children’s good reading habits” on Baidu and get more than 3 million answers, I still can’t make xx show love now. Reading character characteristics, my own ideal education for xx is to "read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles" to cultivate children's extensive reading interests and take children to broaden their horizons and enrich their sentiments while traveling. My imagination of xx's ideal temperament is a quiet, dignified and capable person. An intellectual and talented woman who seeks happiness in reading, haha, don’t be ridiculous, but as mentioned before, what xx can freely arrange is the hour and a half after dinner, and during this time she basically goes to the small playground to run and jump for fun. Lord, after thinking about it again and again, I feel that there is still no need to deprive the child of this happy play time, and xx’s character and temperament do not necessarily have to be developed according to my ideals, and I still want her to grow naturally. As for asking children to have good reading habits, there is no need to rush. I just try to read as much as possible at home, try to create a reading atmosphere, and in the half hour before going to bed, I try to cultivate my children's reading habits with my own reading habits. Nurture.

The third is to cultivate good moral habits. The quality of moral sentiments will directly affect a child's life. Therefore, I not only educate children verbally to respect teachers, unite classmates, help others, and learn to be grateful, but I also set an example in daily life and serve as a role model for children. For example, when a family gathers around for a meal, as parents, we take the initiative to serve our grandparents and other elders with dishes and say warm words. These small details in daily life will definitely affect the behavior of our children. Family education does not rely on words, but on teaching by example, so that children can do it. As parents, you must first do it yourself. If you want to raise your children to be polite and caring good children, as parents, you should pay more attention to yourself. Words, deeds, and good examples allow children to live in a world of love and being loved from an early age. In addition, we must also understand the personality characteristics of our children, make good use of the child's perspective and psychology, understand the child and guide the child. For example, our xx is a very well-behaved and sensible girl, but also because she is well-behaved, it is easy for her to be unable to listen to criticism and tolerate setbacks. Also because being well-behaved makes her more regular and less creative, I have to find ways to cultivate her self-confidence and expressiveness as much as possible, and give her frustration education appropriately. And for those children who we say are "tired and noisy", we must also believe that their imagination and creativity must be very rich, give appropriate encouragement, and patiently provide self-control education, and must not preach with earnest words or painstaking efforts. , sometimes, you may be so anxious that you grit your teeth: "Why don't you listen to me? I'm doing this for your own good!" We think the truth is very clear, but children may not necessarily appreciate it or buy it. That's because children's standards and methods of perceiving the world are completely different from those of us adults, and communicating with children is a major science.

3. Encourage children correctly and believe in them

Encourage children, but do not praise them excessively. Setbacks in learning are the best experiences for children. Being a parent is not about creating good conditions for the child and letting the child live in a comfort zone, but being a pushing hand behind the child, giving the child a sense of security and trust, and believing that the child can handle his or her own affairs!

3. Actively cooperate with the school’s education plan

Children don’t spend much time with us. Calculating carefully, it only takes so many years until they graduate from elementary school, so we must In primary school, you should fulfill your educational responsibilities for the growth of your children and actively cooperate with the school’s education plan.

To cooperate with the school, you must first understand the school’s requirements for students. Teacher He is very serious and responsible. Regarding the school’s requirements for students, Teacher He uses the school newsletter to send text messages to our parents every day, and often sends us letters to parents. I think we must take the information conveyed to us by the teacher seriously. Accept and actively cooperate in your own way. For example, when a teacher assigns children to memorize a famous nursery rhyme every day, how to make the children feel that reciting is fun instead of a painful task? xx’s father and I would always make a bet with xx with exaggerated expressions on who could recite it faster. Who learns well? At the beginning, he used a game to arrange with xx that we would compete. All three of us would recite it once, and press the stopwatch to see the recitation time. The father would deliberately fail to recite it and let xx win, satisfying the child's competitiveness. , and then sometimes I would try to make xx lose and cultivate the children's desire to win. Slowly, as soon as we came home from work, xx would take the initiative to grab us and compete with us in recitation. She had secretly taken advantage of us a long time ago. I memorized the children's songs before I got off work, and I am waiting to beat us. Haha, this also cultivates the children's consciousness of learning. Another example is that the teacher asked the children to master the addition and subtraction within 20 in the letter to their families. We also actively cooperated with the children to train the children in addition and subtraction through games. For example, when we went to the supermarket together, I gave xx 10 yuan in change. , let her choose things by herself and calculate the price, which will greatly improve the child's calculation ability.

For another example, the teacher asked in the letter to parents during the winter vacation to take the children to participate in social practice activities. I also seriously took xx to participate in a social activity where Dongyang Volunteers organized a trip to Sandan Township to send warmth before the Spring Festival; asking to train children to develop Regarding the habit of writing a diary, I first went to the bookstore and bought xx a copy of "Diary of a Little P Girl", and deliberately left it at home so that xx could read it by herself. After reading it, I guided her to have her own desire to write a diary, and then I accompanied xx to pick it out. This beautiful notebook tells her that she can write down the interesting things in this beautiful notebook. This winter vacation, xx also wrote some so-called diaries. Although each entry is very immature, I think this is a good start. .

In addition, to achieve correct cooperation, parents should also keep in close contact with teachers, keep abreast of their children's performance in school from their children's classmates and teachers, discuss their children's educational issues with teachers, and listen humbly to teachers' opinions on family matters. Cooperate with the opinions and requirements on educational issues and cooperate with the implementation in the family. In normal times, when children have problems at home, they should also get in touch with the teacher in time, build a bridge of communication, and exchange opinions in a timely manner so that the school and family can cooperate in education.

Educating children is a very complex project. We can summarize the staged, partial and piecemeal right and wrong, but we may really be unable to find a standard route for cultivating children, and we cannot It's always the right thing to do. Every step of educating children cannot be copied. We can only keep thinking at every step and patiently accompany our children to grow up slowly.

I have so many of my educational experiences here, and I would like to share them with all the parents here. I sincerely hope to get more help from teachers and exchanges and learning from parents. Let us treat our children with care and let us work together. Make progress together with your child! Thank you teacher, thank you parents!