According to the survey, nowadays girls are generally more motivated to study, get better grades and work harder than boys. The following is a small series of how to educate boys for everyone, hoping to help everyone.

The first sunshine education: adventure education.

Nowadays, many parents always educate their sons like this: "You can't go there, it's too dangerous." "This place can't stay, it's dangerous."

Richard, an educator, put it well: "Children who lack the spirit of adventure are often used to sticking to conventions, weak in character and not good at innovation."

the second sunshine education: rule education.

On the basis of "adventure education", we must add a "rule education" to balance adventure with rules. No matter what you do, you should think about the worst result. If the worst result is acceptable, you can try it. If you can't bear it, don't do it.

the third sunshine education: frustration education.

Yang Baode, a doctoral student at Xi 'an Jiaotong University, committed suicide because he couldn't bear to be harassed by his tutor, while Ou Jianxin, a programmer at ZTE, committed suicide because he couldn't bear to be dismissed by the company. To some extent, they chose to commit suicide because of the lack of frustration education.

In fact, what knocks us down in life is definitely not setbacks, but a negative evasive attitude in the face of setbacks. You should learn to turn every difficulty and setback into a learning opportunity. When one door closes, another door opens. Or you can open the closed door yourself.

the fourth sunshine education: independent education.

Yang Jiang's father, Yang Yinhang, a famous educator, once said: "Educating children to be independent is better than being the first in the exam"

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The key to educating boys

1: Why do boys have to be "poor" to raise them best?

As the saying goes, since ancient times, there have been many rich ladies, but there have never been many handsome men. It has been accepted by more and more people as an educational concept to raise boys in poverty. Its connotation is: the cultivation of boys' qualities such as hard-working, brave and strong, sincere and frank, witty and decisive, and a sense of responsibility. "Poor" support is to let boys experience more storms and practice more. As the old saying goes, "When you are in trouble, you are successful." That is to say, only when boys are tempered in the necessary "poverty" and "bitterness", can they know how to be proud of hard work and ashamed of extravagance and extravagance.

two: why are boys so dependent and independent now?

Mr. Tao Xingzhi once wrote a poem: "Drop your own blood, shed your own sweat, and do your own thing;" Relying on the sky and relying on Laozi is not a hero. " This poem humorously expresses the wisdom of life: independence is the most precious "wealth" in life for boys, which is similar to the "stocking" education in modern educational concepts. Tolstoy once said, "Love for children is what an old hen will do. The key is how to educate children." This sentence is the "soft rib" of modern family education: loving children is not to be their amulet and umbrella, but to make them become independent and strong men through training and guidance!

three: why should we pay attention to the cultivation of boys' ability?

Boys are in the growth period of growing up and learning knowledge, which is the best time to cultivate their many abilities. Whether it is thinking ability, cooperation ability, decision-making ability, competition ability, adaptability or imagination ability, it is an essential capital for boys to achieve their future life.

four: why should boys be brave enough to take responsibility?

A boy who doesn't understand the importance of responsibility will never grow up and will always be a small role. As Churchill said: the price of greatness is responsibility. Therefore, if parents love their sons, they should subtly influence and cultivate boys' sense of responsibility and strive to cultivate them into a responsible man.

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Methods of educating boys

1. The earlier an independent boy is, the more promising he will be.

Gender gives the boy great strength, and he will eventually leave his parents to face and deal with some difficult problems alone. If parents can let go of their hands and give their son the right to choose his own way in the future, then I think he can make the right choice for himself no matter what challenges and difficulties he encounters in the future, even if he is wrong, he will be responsible for himself. In this way, invisibly, the boy's sense of responsibility and assertiveness are cultivated. Moreover, looking at those successful men who are promising in our eyes, these two points are essential.

Second, the more responsible a boy is, the more promising he is.

Nowadays, many parents are raising their children, so long as they are young, they are all children. But boys are born more rebellious than girls, and if they don't cultivate their sense of responsibility from an early age, they are likely to become playboy. Moreover, in this competitive society, a responsible boy can gain the trust of his boss and colleagues.

Third, the more hardworking a boy is, the more promising he is.

In children's education, there is one thing that is indispensable, and that is hardship education. Especially if there are boys at home, it is even more difficult to suffer, because a man who is afraid of suffering is doomed to be irresponsible. If you don't let the boy suffer now, he will certainly make people around him suffer; When he enters the society in the future, it will be more bitter for him!

Fourth, the braver the boy, the more promising he is.

Once, a boy asked me, "Why do boys have to be brave? What if I'm scared, too? Can I be a girl? " This question has kept me silent for a long time, but it is also more firm. Boys need courage more. Because a boy's bravery is a demonstration of masculinity, otherwise how can he want to become a girl when he doesn't want to be brave?

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How to educate boys

1. Let go:

Parents should teach boys to let go boldly, and they can't stop their children from doing this and that. This is dirty, and children should not touch it. That is dangerous, and children should not touch it. Parents are always worried about this and that. When can children really grow up? Let go and let the children do it themselves, especially the boys can't have too much care.

2. Exercise:

To educate boys, it is necessary to create some opportunities for boys to exercise, so that children can do what they can from an early age. In summer, boys should sweat more, and don't stay in air-conditioned rooms all day. In winter, don't worry about children's fear of the cold, let them play with snow, push snowmen and have snowball fights, and exercise their courage and hardship. Children can go to school by themselves and do their own things.

3. Take responsibility:

As a boy, you should learn to take responsibility. Parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility from an early age, tell the boy that you are the head of the family, and the future of the family depends on you to change. Give the boy some pressure, let the child know that he is a boy, take responsibility and dare to take responsibility. Facing the future, don't let the child's road be smooth sailing and arrange everything for him.

4. Be strong:

Boys should be strong, and they should not flinch or cry when they encounter some difficulties. Boys should know that men don't shed tears when they shed tears, and let children know that boys are going to be men, and they should be brave enough to face failure and have strong willpower. Parents should give boys more difficult tasks than girls, but they should not be equally required. Boys should do more sports such as climbing mountains and playing ball games.