"The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same. I just think they are noisy."

This sentence of Mr. Lu Xun can be described as a wise saying and extremely sober.

But when it comes to tutoring children with their homework, this sentence does not apply.

For parents, tutoring their children with homework is like going through a catastrophe, with a feeling of "narrow escape".

It doesn’t matter what gender, age, or personality the child is; it doesn’t matter what job, position, or educational philosophy the parents have.

In terms of tutoring children’s homework, “one world, one child” has achieved “university” in the world.

The naughty children are more and more maddening than the last.

Oh, do you think there are those children who are extremely worry-free, well-behaved, and self-conscious, and whose parents don’t have to worry about their homework at all?

Of course there are, but they are all "other people's children."

As the old saying goes, those are all "Wenquxing" descending to earth, and the ancestors have accumulated countless blessings. You and I, as mere mortals, should stop wishful thinking. The key is to take care of your own children first.

I once read a question and answer, "How does it feel to help your children with homework?"

The following answers are varied:

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The above answers made me extremely scared. I guess those who are unmarried and have no children may not dare to get married and have children after reading them.

I feel the same way, and I am a little complacent, "Ah, it turns out that all children are like this. Compared with them, my baby is pretty good."

Just search on the Internet and you can find out There have been many cases where parents were made angry or sick when they tutored their children with homework:

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When did tutoring children with homework become such a “high-risk” profession? ? Not only harming your body, but also your life?

I was watching dramas last night. The recently popular "I Want to Grow Up with You", from kindergarten to primary school, school district room, starting line, working mother, stay-at-home mother... each one has its own topicality. .

My impression of this drama can only be said to be average, passable, but not as good as what is said online.

Some details are unclear, some plots are exaggerated, the way the characters deal with things does not match their identities in the play, and the distribution of stories among the four families is a bit unreasonable...

Until I saw a certain episode, "Su Xing" tutored my son in Pinyin. This episode made me regain my interest in this drama.

Because it’s very real.

The son Xi Wang couldn’t remember the pinyin, which was very real; the mother was angry and anxious when she woke up, and the look of “hating iron but not steel” was also very real.

My little one will go to elementary school in September this year. He is in the stage of "from kindergarten to elementary school" and he is also learning Pinyin recently.

Every time I tutor my children in Pinyin, I am extremely irritable as an old mother. I wish I could stuff all the Pinyin into my children's brains.

bpd, I have been taught it countless times, but I still can’t figure it out clearly. I just learned the pinyin and forget it when I turn around. Are you a fish? You can only remember it for two minutes?

After talking with my girlfriends, I found that all of them are very worried about their children. Tutoring their children with homework is no less than "punishment".

Why is tutoring children so difficult and painful?

Is the child too stupid and stupid, no matter how hard he teaches? Is it because the child is not enlightened, and the stupid bird flies away later, and the child has accumulated little knowledge? Or is it that the child is not good at learning and is a natural "student"?

Or maybe it’s us parents who have the wrong attitude and wrong mentality when tutoring our children?

I prefer the latter.

After all, "There are no children who cannot teach well, only parents who cannot teach them well." When children have problems, it must be us parents who have problems in some way first.

Our parents’ problems probably lie in the following three aspects:

“It’s so simple, but you can’t even do it!”

“I’ve told you this several times. Why can’t you remember? ”

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One of the reasons why parents are so irritable is that their children don’t understand such simple questions (pinyin and English). .

But "simple" is for us adults; for a child who knows nothing and is learning from scratch, the word "simple" does not exist.

Now that we have changed places, let us learn calculus and Spanish. Do we think these are simple? Won't.

Since they don’t know how, how can we ask our children to learn it immediately and never make mistakes?

In addition to being anxious and angry when our children can’t do the questions, shouldn’t we parents be more understanding and tolerant of our children? To find out the real reason why your child won’t do it?

Don’t understand the requirements of the question? Don’t know a certain word in the question? Is the workload too much for him? Is it some professional terminology that the child does not understand? Or are you feeling unwell today and not in the mood to do your homework? ...

Only by identifying the exact cause, clarifying the crux of the child's problem, prescribing the right medicine, and tutoring homework can we become more comfortable and achieve the goal of "everyone is happy".

"Everyone else can do it, but you can't."

We often have "high standards and strict requirements" for our children. We hope that our children will excel and excel. "My children can only be number one."

There is nothing wrong with hoping that your children will succeed, but it is never advisable to put excessive pressure on your children.

We ourselves are not the best in the world, so why should we ask our children to do their best in everything?

Just like the education commentary that hit the screen before pointed out - we all have to accept our children to become ordinary people.

Do scores matter? Of course it is important. In today's education context, no one will deny the importance of scores.

But a child’s life is far more than just scores.

In addition to scores, there should also be health, happiness, strength, kindness, courage, independence, and more good things.

When tutoring children with their homework, the first thing we parents need to do is to calm down, stop being anxious, stop comparing, and be more understanding and patient with our children.

Pay attention to the balance between work and rest, cultivate children's good habits of completing homework independently and thinking independently. Remember: homework belongs to the child and should be completed by the child himself.

We parents only play a role of assistance and guidance. We should be more patient, calm down and help our children find solutions to problems.

This is the real meaning of tutoring children in their homework, and only in this way can we avoid the farce of "chickens flying around and dogs jumping around" and realize the true "mother's kindness and son's filial piety".