Author|Hu Xiaoyao

Hello, dear students, welcome to my class.

A topic about "Are you happy?" has aroused discussion in the whole society, but during the discussion, everyone rushed to show evidence of unhappiness, and each one became more unhappy than the last. If we define ourselves as unhappy, if we take it as fun to show off our unhappiness, and if we are willing to accept our unhappy selves, then we will be farther and farther away from happiness.

The following is a plan from 8 aspects: how to live a happy life!

First, have happiness at all times

Tell a story:

A sad and desperate woman decided to commit suicide by drowning herself in a river because she had indeed suffered Many misfortunes. First, her husband of five years abandoned her, and then her only spiritual support, her son who was less than 3 years old, also died in an accident. The woman didn't know why God was so cruel to her and took away everything she had. She felt that there was no point in continuing to live, so it was better to die.

As soon as the woman fell into the river, she was rescued ashore by a kind-hearted old boatman. The woman cried and asked why she was deprived of even the right to die. So the old boatman asked her: "Seeing that you are still young and have a long way to go in life, why did you choose to commit suicide?" The woman cried to him and told him her tragic experience.

After hearing this, the old man was silent for a moment and asked her: "So, how was your life five years ago?" The young woman said: "Of course it was different at that time, because I was not married yet. Husband and children, so you live a carefree life." So the old man said to her: "In this case, the God of fate has only sent you back to your current state and that time. Almost, you can live a carefree life without a husband or children."

After hearing what the old man said, the woman felt that it made sense and decided to live happily from now on.

From this story, we can easily see that the woman's initial sadness and despair were entangled with her loss. Because for five years, she had tied her happiness to her husband and children, so her joys and sorrows were all under their control. Once her family was broken up, she felt that she had lost her support and became the most unfortunate person in the world, and she was tired of life because of it.

In real life, such people abound, and everyone relies on some spiritual pillars to be happy or troubled. Presumably this is one of the reasons why the happiness index of contemporary people is getting lower and lower! In fact, human happiness is an inner feeling. If we always associate it with external factors, then unfortunately, your happiness is in the hands of others. Therefore, we must cultivate a healthy and positive mentality, that is, face gains and losses objectively and fairly, and hold happiness in our own hands.

Second, always be grateful to others

Veteran Hollywood movie star Jane Fonda is now 77 years old, but she still maintains an optimistic attitude towards life. A reporter asked her how she views her life. , she mentioned a common saying in the Church of England: Reflection and Gratitude. She said: "A person must know how to think about life and be grateful for life, so that he can live better."

We always complain about all the unsatisfactory things in life, but in fact we are often the ones who enjoy life. Leader, all of this may be caused by ourselves. Don’t always attribute all success to yourself, and don’t always attribute all failures to the misfortune of life; you should remember what life has given you, not what it has taken away. . If you forget the gift of life, you will lose the courage to live.

The British say: "Ingratitude is worse than lying, vanity, pretentiousness, drunkenness or other evils that exist in the hearts of fragile people." Because ungrateful people deny life. If they forget the grace of life and live in pain and complaints for a long time, life will naturally be unsatisfactory. They are obsessed with those unpleasant things, but ignore the happiness around them. In fact, for a person who is indifferent to life, no one will pay for his indifference, and when all that is left in life is complaining, he has actually lost the qualification for happiness. Only by being grateful for life can life be better.

There was a man who lived in poverty and was suffering from diseases. Because he could not bear the hardships of life, he ran to God and cried, complaining that he had suffered too much unfair treatment. He didn't understand why others could eat fancy dinners, wear expensive clothes, and live in beautiful big houses, but he had nothing but pain.

God did not answer, but only comforted the man that his life would get better. The man was embarrassed to criticize too much in front of God, so he had to leave in frustration. A few days later, this man's life became even more unsatisfactory and his condition worsened. At this time, he ran to God to seek an explanation.

He thought that he had never done anything bad, so why should he live such a miserable life, and his situation was getting worse and worse. The more he talked, the angrier he became, even a little frustrated. God finally couldn't bear it anymore and told the man with a grimace frankly: "Because you are too good at complaining, your life could have gotten better, but complaining made you lose such an opportunity.

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There is too much misfortune in the world, and there is too much happiness at the same time. In fact, a blind person can also feel the brightness of the world through hearing, smell and touch, and can feel the joy of life through this. Warmth. If a blind person is immersed in complaining about not being able to see things all day long, he will never be able to see the light. If he clings to his lost vision, his life will always be in a cold and dark environment. When you see darkness, life will be filled with darkness; When you see the light, life will give you light.

Third, clarify knowledge and diplomas

Nowadays, diploma has become a very sensitive word in the public eye, and many employers are concerned about it. We attach great importance to the applicant's diploma, and the diploma is indeed a reflection of the applicant's knowledge and abilities to a certain extent. However, after all, a diploma is just a piece of paper. It can never reveal all a person's knowledge and abilities. It does not represent a person's learning potential.

"Knowledge is power" is a well-known saying. Why "knowledge" instead of "diploma"? Because knowledge is a person's ability and ability. The true manifestation of talent. And there are many ways to obtain knowledge, which cannot be comprehensively summarized by a diploma. As we know, many rich or successful people have very low academic qualifications, such as Li Ka-shing, the richest man in Hong Kong. He has not graduated from junior high school; another example is the popular writer Hai Yan, who only has a fourth-grade elementary school education; and the well-known Han Han only graduated from high school.

In fact, no real knowledge exists. It is learned in practice, and only by continuous learning and accumulation can a person be invincible and obtain the happiness of his dreams. For example, Thomas, the famous German writer and winner of the 1929 Nobel Prize for Literature. Mann did not graduate from high school. Later, through tenacious self-study, he gradually became knowledgeable, and in 1924 he wrote "The Magic Mountain", a stunning work with encyclopedic knowledge.

< p> Therefore, never judge a hero based on his or her diploma, as that will only make a person superficial; and don’t lose confidence in life just because you don’t have an ideal diploma. Only knowledge and true learning can help you achieve happiness. . Especially don’t lose confidence in yourself. The story of Dr. John Horner tells us this seemingly simple truth.

Dr. John Horner’s grades were quite poor when he was in primary school because he was born with it. "Dyslexia". But people at that time had no idea about the term "dyslexia", so the teachers thought that Horner was deliberately lazy or had intellectual problems.

But Horner has been around since he was a child. He is interested in science, especially paleontology. Even though his grades in every subject in school are extremely poor, he will go to the library to read various scientific books whenever there is a long vacation.

< p> When he was in middle school, his accumulation in science began to show. Every year, he came out on top in the school science exhibition. However, in his studies, he failed even the "Science" course. , because his "dyslexia" makes his memory ability for words almost zero.

Finally, the most painful and sad thing happened to him. Because he was out of the protection of compulsory education by the state, he was expelled from the school just a few days after entering the university. But even so, Horner still refused to give up the pursuit of knowledge. He kept going back to school to take various subjects. If he failed in this subject, he would change to another subject, until he had completed all the undergraduate and graduate courses in the school. . Of course, unfortunately he also failed. He spent seven years like this, but didn't even get a degree.

Just when he was at the end of his rope, he wrote to all paleontological museums to seek positions. After many twists and turns, he finally found a job in a museum in Princeton, and also served as the dinosaur fossil curator of the paleontological department of Princeton University. administrator. It was through the opportunity of serving at Princeton University that Horner continued to strive for knowledge. Finally, his efforts and knowledge were recognized by the society, and he was eventually hired to teach at Montana State University.

Because he was never able to successfully complete his studies, he did not receive any "diploma" to show off. However, his true talent and practical knowledge still impressed many people. The university where he spent seven years studying and finally expelled him later made a bold decision to award John Horner the title of honorary doctorate. , and the person who issued the award was the professor who personally kicked him out of the school.

Later, Horner was also invited by the famous director Steven Spielberg to serve as a consultant for the famous film "Jurassic Park". Relying on Horner's accumulated knowledge and experience in paleontology over the years, he was able to make the dinosaurs in the movie more vivid and lifelike.

In fact, the reason why people value diplomas is precisely because they value knowledge, because most of the time, people cannot correctly judge a person's knowledge level, so they can only judge based on their diplomas. However, if you can prove your knowledge level to others, then it doesn't matter whether you have a diploma or not, ability is the last word. Therefore, when we are still struggling blindly for a diploma, we should think that this is really not worth it.

Fourth, take a long-term view

God always leaves us with such a choice, a fish and a fishing rod, when we can’t wait to taste the delicious food At this time, we can only get this one fish. When we can make longer-term plans for a better life, it is natural for us to choose a fishing rod. "In fact, we often only pay attention to those easily accessible happy lives, but ignore the key to a happy life.

Only by looking further can we go further. People who are short-sighted are destined to only Walking back and forth and marching hard, we can only understand life more deeply if we look deeper. Don't let the illusion of life blind us. We must jump out of the trap of life's impressions in time. Life gives us what we want. , but it can also give us more. If we are satisfied with what we get, we are naturally deprived of the opportunity to get more. We have the ability to get more, but we never try to look further.

For example, when working, everyone hopes that they can get a higher salary and be able to climb to a higher position, but if the job is just to pursue these things, then you will lose more. To pay attention to your own development, you must first correctly view and pay attention to the development of the team. Only when the interests of the team are improved can you achieve your goals more easily, and your interests can be maximized when you try to use your eyes. When you measure your development prospects by the work remuneration you receive, you may miss many development opportunities.

The same is true for marriage. The love between two people cannot be based on temporary passion or whim, let alone financial interests. The temptation of life is that you need to look further and be more cautious. The warmth and happiness of marriage and love can certainly give people a very wonderful experience, but what will your future life be like, whether two people are compatible, and how far can marriage go? These questions are yours. Have you seriously considered it before getting married? People who only focus on money may eventually lose their freedom, love, and even money; people who get married impulsively may lose their beautiful married life and their entire youth. Just like a folk song in Kazakhstan. As the song goes: “Girl! Don't be in a hurry to get married. A good lover is yet to come, and so is a good marriage. "

Fifth, happiness is not far away, maybe right now

One day, a wise man suddenly said to an old man: "Think about it, what is your life like? How to spend it! When you are young, you desperately want to get into a first-class university; then, you are eager to graduate quickly so that you can find an ideal job; then, you can’t wait to get married and have children, and then you begin to hope that the children will grow up quickly. Big, so as to reduce your burden; later, the children have grown up, and you want to retire as soon as possible; finally you have really reached the age of retirement, but you are also so old that you can hardly walk... When you are thinking When you stop to take a breath, your life is almost over. ”

If a person always likes to pursue tomorrow’s happiness, then his happiness is essentially a mirage-like happiness, because he will never get it, because “tomorrow” is always coming. On the road. There is a famous poem that says "living elsewhere", which describes the state of life that is not satisfied with "here" and the current state, but places the hope and happiness of life in the eternal "elsewhere". /p>

In fact, don’t think of happiness too far away. It is in the present, and it is included in "living", and living is a kind of happiness. Happy people can see what is right in front of them. With the warm sunshine, happy people can breathe fresh air, and happy people can walk freely between heaven and earth.

There is happiness everywhere in life. The reason why we should live in the spiritual world of the past and future. Exploring happiness is just because we have never tried to discover and explore the beauty in life, not because there is no happiness in life. Since we have enjoyed the happiness in the past, we may not be able to enjoy the happiness in the future, so we might as well feel at ease. Enjoy the happiness of the present; since you have missed the happiness of the past in life, and you don’t know whether the happiness of the future will come, you should prevent yourself from missing the happiness of the present. If we take the past and the future too seriously, we are destined to take the present more seriously. Light.

Sixth, sharing happiness doubles happiness

The contagiousness of happiness is amazing. It can even spread around at the speed of thunder and lightning, spreading a person’s happiness. In addition to this phenomenon, we can ask: Why is happiness so contagious? And "noble" terms such as wealth and success may not have such a connotation. Charisma. In fact, it is very simple. Compared with wealth, success, etc., people do not need happiness. Therefore, it can be said with certainty that people are more sensitive to things that can make them happy. , and easier to accept.

Henry John Heinz, chairman of the Heinz Company, understands this truth. His company operates around the world and sells more than 200 products with annual sales. With more than 6 billion US dollars, it is a super food kingdom and one of the most prestigious large companies in the United States. In addition, Heinz Company's labor relations are recognized as "a model for American industry", and Heinz Company is also known as an "employee paradise". ".

After studying it for a period of time, many people have discovered that Heinz is full of the joy of sharing. Chairman Heinz is even more willing to share his happiness with others. For example, Heinz was once in poor health and his health care practitioner recommended that he take a vacation in Florida. When the employees learned about this, they said to him: "You should really take a good rest. Because you are too busy at work, you rarely enjoy the joy of traveling all year round." However, Heinz came back not long after he left, and he was full of doubts among the employees. With a look in his eyes, he said: "It's no fun to play alone, it's better to be together!" The employees soon discovered that Heinz directed the workers to place a large glass box in the center of the factory. There is a huge thing inside. If someone is brave enough to take a closer look, it turns out to be an alligator. Heinz said that it weighs more than 300 kilograms, is about 4 meters long, and is 150 years old. "How's it going? This guy looks like he's having fun, right?" Heinz asked with a smile. The employees said in unison: "It's fun." Heinz continued: "This guy excited me and gave me the most unforgettable memory of my trip to Florida. Please share the happiness with me after work!" "It turned out that Heinz bought this alligator from Florida specially for his employees.

If we all, like Heinz, bring happiness to everyone around us and infect others with a positive attitude, then we will also live a more meaningful life. Happiness is the most common and most commonly experienced emotional experience. No matter how bumpy a person's experience is, he will definitely taste happiness in his life. However, we almost all have the idea that a person's happiness is only his own business. He succeeded, so he was happy; he fell in love, so he was happy; he moved to a new home, so he was happy... He didn't know that when he was happy because of success, his family and friends would also be happy; When he is happy because he is in love, his parents, friends and his lover will also be happy because of his happiness; when he is happy because he moves into a new house, his family, parents and even colleagues will also be happy because of his housewarming. And happy. It can be said with certainty that no one's happiness can only be enjoyed alone, and "everyone who sees it has a share" is the most applicable to it.

Seventh, there is no failure, only failure

In 1832, 23-year-old Lincoln lost his job. Soon he was preparing to become a politician. Unfortunately, he failed to run for state legislators. Then, Lincoln set out to start his own business, but within a year, the business collapsed. For more than ten years, he had been traveling around and going through hardships to repay the debts owed when the business failed.

In 1838, Lincoln felt in good health and decided to run for Speaker of the State Assembly, but he still failed.

In 1843, he ran for Congress again, but this time he was still unsuccessful.

In 1846, he ran for Congress again and was finally elected. Later, Lincoln applied to be the state's land officer, but he failed twice.

In 1854, he ran for the Senate, but failed. Two years later, he ran for the nomination of the Vice President of the United States, but was defeated by his opponent. Two years later, he ran for the Senate again, but failed. .

Finally, in 1860, he was elected as the President of the United States, and deeply affected the United States with his outstanding achievements, becoming one of the four most remembered presidents on "President Hill".

Throughout Lincoln's life, although he tried again and again and failed again and again, he never gave up on himself and refused to admit defeat. And precisely because he did not give up his pursuit, he has always been the master of his own life.

Everyone will face difficulties of one kind or another in their life, and failure is always inevitable. If a person denies his own ability and his ability to achieve happiness in life because of one or two failures, then he does not have the courage to face failure, but is close to stupidity.

A person's intelligence may be very important, but hard work and courage are also indispensable, and even play an even more important role. As the saying goes, "The stupid bird flies first." As long as a person corrects his mentality, even if he encounters setbacks and failures, it will only be temporary. Success will eventually come, and happiness will eventually knock on the door.

Eighth, diligence brings happiness

When he was young, the famous management guru Peter Drucker worked for a well-known French newspaper, which had a large influence in Paris. The consumer market has a large number of readers, so this newspaper has very high requirements for writing and printing quality. Drucker worked hard to get an internship opportunity. He realized that he had to work hard, otherwise he would be eliminated by other competitors. In fact, he did the same and worked hard every day to write articles and keep up. High energy and serious attitude.

After a period of hard work, Drucker successfully got hired by the newspaper and was appreciated by the editor-in-chief, so he was quickly promoted to editor-in-chief in charge of international news and business pages. At this time, Drucker had actually stabilized his job and status, and no longer had to bear the huge pressure of competing for a position. For this reason, he began to relax consciously or unconsciously, and his work was not as hard and diligent as before.

The editor-in-chief soon discovered Drucker’s changes, and he was very dissatisfied with the manuscript written by Drucker. He thought that Drucker was simply perfunctory, so he ruthlessly revised the manuscript. Drucker was a little surprised when he returned it and made dense comments on it, but he didn't take it to heart and simply made modifications and adjustments as required. Unfortunately, the manuscript was returned the next day. The editor-in-chief was very angry with Drucker. He called Drucker into the office and gave him a severe scolding. He also warned that if he didn't work hard again, he would be punished. Will be fired.

Facing the almost threatening tone of the editor-in-chief, Drucker realized that he was in big trouble. Ashamed, he immediately ran back to the studio, re-wrote the manuscript, and stayed up late to complete it until the president until approved by the editor. After this incident, Drucker realized his stupidity and warned himself to work diligently every day and treat every day as the most important decisive day.

The fulfillment of life lies in valuing every day of your life. Only by working hard to enrich every day can you make continuous progress, maintain an excellent state for a long time, and always maintain efficient work efficiency and sufficient enthusiasm for work. , thereby continuously improving one's abilities and levels in a good state. In addition, people with such high concentration are often more likely to seize development opportunities. They are always prepared, so they have a greater chance of success.

Diligence and success are close friends. It doesn't matter if a person has only a few qualifications. If he knows how to work hard, he can still achieve great things. "Whether you are a little clumsy or extremely talented, don't ignore or underestimate the word "diligence". If you want to achieve greater achievements, please don't try to achieve it overnight, you should take practical actions, little by little To obtain and accumulate. You must know that only by sowing the seeds of hope and watering them with the sweat of hard work can you have a fruitful harvest.

My classmates, the course is here first, the subsequent courses will be more exciting, see you next time!