Ji's article 16
16.1 Ji's family will attack ZhuanXu (1). Ran You and Ji Lu saw Confucius say, "Ji will have something (2) to do." Confucius said, "Beg! Is it too much to be innocent? My husband, the former king, thought that he was the Lord of the East (3) and was in the city-state, and he was also a minister of the country. Why cut it? " Jean valjean had said: " the Ji sun will do this, and neither of us will be willing to do the officials. ". ” Confucius said, "Beg! Zhou Ren (4) has a saying:' Chen Li is listed (5), and those who can't stop.' If you are in danger and don't hold on, if you don't help, how will you use it? What's more, the tiger (7) was born out of the box (8), and the turtle and jade were destroyed in the box (9). Who is to blame? "Ran You said:" Today, the husband is sturdy, solid and close to the fee (1). If you don't take it today, future generations will worry about future generations. " Confucius said, "Beg! A gentleman who is ill will give up what he wants and will do it. Qiu also heard that those who have a state-owned family do not suffer from inequality or poverty (11). There is no poverty, no poverty, and no peace. If the husband is like this, so far away people refuse to accept it, then since the cultivation of virtue. Take things as they come. Today, from seeking and seeking, we are in harmony with the master, and people far away refuse to accept it and can't come, and the country falls apart and can't keep it; And make war in the state. I'm afraid that internal misery is not in Zhuan Zhuan, but in Xiao Qiang (12). "
16.2 Confucius said, "If there is a way in the world, the rites and music will be conquered from the son of heaven; If there is no way in the world, the ritual and music will be conquered by the princes. Since the princes came out, Gai X did not lose his hope; Since the doctor came out, the fifth hope has not lost; Accompanying the minister to carry out the life of the country, III hopes not to lose. If there is a way in the world, politics is not in the doctor. If there is a way in the world, then Shu Ren will not discuss it. "
16.3 Confucius said, "Lu Zhi's death to the office of the fifth generation (1) is over, and his political arrest (2) to the doctor of the fourth generation (3) is over, so the descendants of Fu Sanhuan (4) are small."
16.4 Confucius said, "There are three friends who benefit and three friends who lose. Friends are straightforward, friends forgive (1), and friends are more knowledgeable and beneficial. If you are friendly, you will develop (2); if you are friendly and gentle (3), you will lose (4). "
16.5 Confucius said, "Those who benefit have three pleasures, while those who lose have three pleasures. Music festivals and ceremonies (1), the goodness of the Taoist people, the joy of many virtuous friends, and the benefits. Lejiao Music (2), Leyi Music (3) and Leyan Music (4) are detrimental. "
16.6 Confucius said, "There are three things about serving the monarch (1): when you don't say it, you are impetuous; when you say it without saying it, you are hidden; when you don't see the color, you are ugly (2)."
16.7 Confucius said, "A gentleman has three precepts: when he is young, his blood gas is uncertain, and the precepts are in color; It is also strong, bloody, and it is in the fight; It is also old, and the blood gas is declining, so it is necessary to quit. "
16.8 Confucius said, "A gentleman has three fears: fear of fate, fear of adults and fear of the words of saints. I don't know my destiny, but I'm not afraid of it. I'm insulting adults and saints. "
16.9 Confucius said, "Those who are born with knowledge are superior; Those who learn and know are second; Learn from difficulties, and secondly; If you are trapped and don't learn, the people will be next. "
16.1 Confucius said, "A gentleman has Jiu Si: he sees clearly, listens attentively, looks gentle, looks respectful, speaks loyally, thinks respectfully, doubts and asks questions, and feels resentful and difficult."
Confucius said on 16.11, "Seeing good is not as good as seeing bad. I have seen him, and I have heard his words. Live in seclusion for his ambition, and do righteousness to achieve his Tao. I heard his words, but I didn't see him. "
on 16.12, there was a horse in Qi Jinggong. On the day of his death, the people were said to have no virtue. Boyi Shuqi starved to death under Shouyang, which is now called by the people. What is the meaning of it?
on 16.13, Chen Kang (1) asked Yu Boyu, "Zi also has different news (2)?" Yes: "Not yet. When you taste independence, carp tend to go beyond the court. Say,' How about learning poetry?' Yes:' Not yet'. Without learning poetry, there is nothing to say.' Carp retired to learn poetry. When we become independent again, the carp will rush through the court. Say,' How about learning etiquette?' Yes:' Not yet'. "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand." Carp retired to learn etiquette. Vince, both. "Chen Kang retired and rejoiced:" Ask one and you get three. Smell poetry, smell ceremony, and smell the gentleman's distance (3) his son also. "
16.14, the wife of the monarch, whom you call Mrs., calls herself a child; People in the country call it your wife, and those in other countries call it widowed jun; Foreigners call it your wife. 2. Write a poem about interpersonal relationship
The interpersonal relationship in the real society is: if you have the power, you will follow, and if you don't have the power, you will go. Li Feng gathers, while Li Feng disperses.
if you have time, read more "Eight Books on the Secret of Nothing in the World". Exposing society and human nature is too profound.
Eight Books on the Secret of Nothing in the World (set of 8 books) selects eight books with the most instructive and strategic value from the ancient books involving political strategy, and makes a comprehensive arrangement, systematic annotation and quotations, which makes people suddenly enlightened. History is always strikingly similar. From these books, readers can not only review history well, but also learn from it and guide themselves to solve problems better in life, work, business and interpersonal communication.
Luo Zhijing (the most peculiar ancient book): Luo Zhijing, written by Lai Junchen and Wan Guojun, cool officials in the Tang Dynasty, is a book devoted to Luo Zhi's crimes and intrigue. In the history of thousands of years in China, it is a unique "landscape", an inevitable evil life, with unusual meaning. First, it is the first classic to create unjust imprisonment since the beginning of mankind. Secondly, it is the first book written by cruel officials in the politics of cruel officials, and it is a naked confession of evil. Third, it is the first trick book in the history of civilization, which is a collection of evil wisdom. Fourthly, it reveals for the first time the mystery of why treacherous officials lead a better life than loyal officials-the power is thick and black.
The Little Man's Classic "The Bad Man's Philosophy": The Little Man's Classic is the earliest monograph on the "wisdom" of small people in China history. Author Feng Dao and author Feng Dao can be called a truly unique miracle in officialdom. Because of the author's special experience and villain's perspective, this book has some weight. In Zeng Guofan's words, "A villain's Classic shows all the secrets of villains, which makes the villain ashamed and makes the gentleman horrified ..." The villain's Classic only provides people with a unique perspective to examine villains. As for how to define villains, how to prevent villains and finally defeat villains, readers can have different opinions.
Machiavellian skills: Machiavellian skills are some strategies and means applied to interpersonal relationships. If used well, Machiavellian skills are wisdom and can even become an art, which is pleasing to the eye and appreciated by clapping. No matter in politics, diplomacy, military affairs, or even the most common interpersonal communication, Machiavellian tactics are actually everywhere. Machiavellian is only an applied technology in China, but few people systematically study and summarize it in theory. As one of the few Machiavellian works in ancient China, the reference value of this book is beyond doubt. Shi Banshan, a modern author, annotates this book with corresponding historical allusions and biographies, and expounds it, which not only enriches the content, but also enhances the readability.
learn to be weak (to win the classics in life): there are strong and weak people in the world, and there are strong people, but more are weak people. Can the weak always be in a weak position, and the strong always be strong? Why is a person's life sometimes in a strong position and sometimes in a weak position? How is the trend of strength transformed? Mr. Ma Shuquan, a well-known expert in collating ancient books, compiled and compiled this very practical book "Guarding the Weakness" based on Du Yu's essay on the "potential" of strength and weakness. Rich in content and profound in meaning, it has the characteristics of knowledge, interest, plot, vividness and readability.
the book of keeping a low profile (the most effective learning): keeping a low profile is the secret of China's wise men's pillow box, and it is their magic weapon for survival and prosperity. Although people are convinced of it, ponder it carefully, and constantly use it in political struggles, officialdom competitions and daily life, no one has put it into writing and written a monograph, which means that a gentleman is far away from cooking. This is because in feudal history, "speaking on behalf of saints" was emphasized, so the art of keeping a low profile was suspected of "conspiracy". In view of this, it is not difficult to understand that Yang Shen did not include this important work, which condensed his painstaking efforts, in his collection.
Stop learning (Book of Honor and Disgrace): Never underestimate the word "stop", which is related to everyone's honor and disgrace: for a great man, a "stop" determines his ordinary and greatness; For an ordinary person, it determines his success or failure; For gamblers, it determines the loss and win ... The mystery of "stop" is single-minded.
Jie E Jian (Book of Seeking Advantages and Avoiding Disadvantages): It is normal in life to get into trouble when encountering bad luck, and there is no way out for complaining and escaping. A person's life can't be smooth sailing. What is important is to get rid of adversity, turn disadvantages into advantages, and turn disasters into good luck. This book by Yan Shu, the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, is not only based on "solving Eritrea", but also pays more attention to the root of people's causing Eritrea. In his book, Yan Shu deeply and concretely analyzed the weaknesses of human nature, and put forward the idea of understanding Urdang and curing the problem. This is the genius of Yan Shu, and it is also the special feature of this book. It can be said that this is the only monograph in ancient history that systematically discusses and analyzes "the weakness of human nature", which can be described as profound insight and profound insight.
Official Classics (Official Studies): In ancient China society, apart from the great social turmoil such as war and regime change, it seemed calm on the surface, but in fact, it was the officialdom that was full of ups and downs. On the one hand, officials should strive to realize their political ambitions, that is, to make contributions and worship generals, on the other hand, they should try their best to preserve themselves in order to consolidate their honor and favor, which has many knowledge and strategies. 3. Words to describe good interpersonal relationships
Friends who never turn against each other are intimate, friends and relatives are affectionate and affectionate, and they are like brothers
Friends who never turn against each other are called brothers and sisters. Friends who never turn against each other are friends who never turn against each other. Friends who never turn against each other are friends who never turn against each other.
Friends who never turn against each other are friends who never turn against each other. If Jin Lan is like a brother, let the jujube push the pear like a hand, and have a deep friendship
Ten kindnesses and nine kindnesses are regarded as confidants. Stop the clouds and fall on the moon, and return the peach. Li Wan-chang looks through the autumn water
Know each other with a pinch of neck, and hate each other at night. When you see each other in bed, you have to burn your porridge, but you have to burn your love.
Love is heavy. Like-minded friends, foxes, dogs, friends, fair-weather friends, friends Intimate relatives and friends call each other brothers, affectionate and affectionate. Love is like brothers
Righteousness knot Jin Lan grass grows in spring, blue sea and blue sky, hate to know each other, and a close friend is like a hand in hand. Affectionate friendship
Love each other, love each other, love each other, cut moss, run water, peach blossom, last forever, and die.
Freshwater friendship is deep, and the case of Qi Mei is a friend in need.
it's hard to say goodbye to each other, but it's hard to part with each other. A friend in need is like-minded. A friend in need
A friend in need is affectionate, a friend in need is humble, a friend in need is sincere, a friend in love, a friend in love, a friend in love, a friend in love, a friend in love, a friend in love, and a friend in love. Heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart, heart-to-heart
What are the famous poems that are often said in interpersonal communication?
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Sage is the treasure of the country, and Confucianism is the treasure of the table. Agriculture, industry and merchants, all should be in harmony. Filial piety is the first thing, and it is based on morality. Respect teachers, love others and be kind to others. Money is like dirt, and righteousness is worth a thousand dollars. Do things according to nature, and speak according to people's heart. Mind should not offend heaven and earth, words and deeds should be reserved for children and grandchildren. When you are rich, you should pity the pain of the poor; When you are young, you must realize the bitterness of aging.
filial piety should do its best, not cultivate yourself. Crows have filial piety to feed back, sheep know the grace of kneeling and nursing, so there is no way to miss their relatives and tears, not as good as Gaotang's heart. Love the sun to try to be happy, don't wait for Ding Lan to carve wood; It is better to sacrifice a cow to the tomb than to catch a chicken and a dolphin and save it. Brothers are not as good as friends; There is nothing like a brother who is insulted by the outside world. Father and son live in harmony and their families are unbeaten, brothers live in harmony and their families are not divided, rural parties live in harmony and dispute, and couples live in harmony and their families flourish. Just because the warbler at the bottom of the flower is clever, it makes the geese in the sky shadow. All evils must be done, and all good deeds must be pursued. Know yourself and yourself, and compare your heart with yours. If you blame others, blame yourself, and love your beloved. Be careful again and again. First, don't cheat your heart. I'd rather be negative than negative. Greed and indulgence is a sea of pain, while greed is a pit of fire. Don't keep up with the times at any time, and don't be refined. If you are trapped in poverty and go straight to the origin, you will blame yourself; Fame and wealth, but also to look at the end of the time, then lust after yourself. Sit in the shade by day and sit in the lamp by night. Reading requires intention, and a word is worth a thousand dollars. Wine meets friends, and poetry sings to people. Knowing each other all over the world, how many people can know each other? Meeting is like getting to know each other for the first time, and there is no resentment in the end. If you don't frown all your life, there should be no gnashing of teeth in the world, and you should live late at home, but your eyes and ears are restrained and your expression is self-satisfied; Knot Shan Weng, although the instrument is slightly but the idea is often true. Fireflies only take photos of themselves, but geese don't go their own way. The seedlings grow from the pedicel and the lotus roots are born from the lotus. You can know the nature of fish near the water, and the sound of birds near the mountain. It takes a long time to see people's hearts. When gold is transported, it turns into iron, and when it comes, iron is like gold. A horse is weak because it is thin, and a man is poor because he is not romantic. It's not an idiot to forgive people, but an idiot won't forgive people. Don't say that your barrel rope is short, I hope others hoop the well deep. Beauty is not beautiful, water in the countryside; Kiss or not, hometown people. A close friend can't live without a neighbor. It's easy to meet each other, but it's hard to stay long. If a guest comes to the Lord regardless, he should be afraid of being an idiot. You don't welcome guests at home, but you know less about your host when you go out. Live in groups and keep your mouth shut, sitting alone and guarding your heart. The ambition is to be fat and willing to mourn, and the heart is indifferent. If you are rich, you can't find your relatives in trouble. Far water can't put out a near fire, and a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor. Two people have the same heart, so they can buy gold if they have money, and one person has the same heart, so they can buy needles if they have no money. Don't talk lightly, but don't persuade others. Obedience is like tasting soup, and you will see your heart when you pay for it. It is easy to rise and retreat, and it is easy to change and change. It's hard to paint a tiger's skin but a bone. No one says behind anyone, and no one says before. But do good, Mo Wen's future. The blunt bird flies first, but the great one becomes late. A thousand miles doesn't bully the lonely, and one tree doesn't make a forest. Poor people live in downtown areas, and rich people have distant relatives in the mountains. Human feelings are as thin as paper, and things are as new as chess. The world needs gold to make friends, but not much gold is not deep. Even if you make a promise for a while, it will always be a long way to go. The authorities are ignorant, and the bystanders are clear.